Should I tell her?

Question

My boyfriends female friend are really close and I'm fine with that but a while ago she made fun of my pants and slapped my boyfriend on the butt in front of me and has been flirty towards him sometimes and i asked him why doesnt he defend me and he said he's too scared of hurting her feelings because she has issues and would put herself in the hospital if she takes things to seriously. So its been bugging me forever and i decided to write her a letter telling her how i dont like the things shes doing in a nice way. Should I send it or let her continue doing whatever she wants because she has issues?

i barely see this girl. The only time I see her is when we have a group thing which is rare, i dont even know where she lives.

Answer 1

send it to her, but write it out of concern, not out of anger.

Answer 2

I think the girl does have issues. And trying to piss you of by putting her hands on your boyfriend is it. She is wanting to see how far you will take it and then let him decide who is more important, the friend or the girlfriend. Then if he chooses you she will claim she will hurt herself. If he chooses her she will get a sense of ownership over him that she sees you don't have and win. If you leave she will win the battle too. Don't get me wrong she may not even be attracted to him. It is more of a possession thing and she wants to win it. Talk to her and let us all know how it went.

Answer 3

Regardless if she has issues or not, she crossed the line by hitting your boyfriend on the butt and to add more insult she made fun of you. She has issues alright and it sounds like it's you. I think she is jealous of you but maybe the best way to handle it is to laugh at her antics as though it doesn't bother you and pull your boyfriend in close and say, "isn't she cute when she's jealous."

Answer 4

Never never never put it in writing !!
It will come back to bite you big time .
Try joking with her and laugh and say watch out that's my boy friend your messing with girlfriend . See how she handles that first .
She may be a nut case be careful and both of you stay away from her .

Answer 5

the issues thing sounds like an excuse to me....tell her but not in a letter. TALK to her about it nicely, a letter can come back to bite you in the ***.

Answer 6

This is the best idea ever! Okay..send her the letter and if she continues do this: M'kay if she EVER hits your boyfriend's *** then SLAP HER! Tell her she better stop f***ing aroud with YOUR boy friend. Tell her to get loss and get HER OWN! So just do that and she will definetly stop!

Answer 7

Tell ur BF abt this again...she may b having issues but ur relationship shouldnt be at stake because of HER ISSUES...i think u should talk to ur BF.and if u have decided to talk to this gal...then i suggest you talk to her rather than writing a letter....

Answer 8

DON'T write her just tell her.. what is she 2 yrs old she has issues those issues are you and your bf keeping her in the picture..and he is making excuses for her stand up and lay it out because you are playing with FIRE.....sureilll

Answer 9

Don't do the letter, she'll just rip on you even more. Just whoop her butt and tell her never to touch your man. Remember to watch lots of Chuck Norris movies boforehand and you'll be good.

Answer 10

She may have "issues" but will have more if everyone tiptoes around her and lets her do whatever she wants. Tell her but put it nicely don't be possessive. It would bother me too.

Answer 11

If she's sassy enough to grab your friends ***, she's tough enough to be told the truth, so don't buy into the "fragile flower" act. Yeah, send the letter, or tell her to her face. I would.