Ok by "SMOOTH" I mean that I am a clumbsy guy who can't hold a smooth conversation with girls. For example if I get a girls number & call her up & talk to her in the phone I have no conversation with her & I am afraid that I might run out of stuff to say & there will be a silent moment on the phone which will make her bored *** hell & hang up the phone. I have no swag or game to pull girls & make them interested enough to have sex with me. Also I always do dumb things that I try to stop but I can't its just me.(I AM LIKE AN AMERICAN VERSION OF MR.BEAN THAT CLUMBSY BRITISH GUY)!!!! Like I am clumbsy & I drop stuff sometimes & I do stupid things like say stuff that was just said by someone else or forget stuff that I should know like about a month ago I went to a club with my friends & I forgot my ID so I could'nt get in I had to wait in the car while everyone else went into the club. I felt sooo stupid that I forgot my ID but anyway I hate it CAN ANYONE GIVE ME ANY ADVICE!!!!!!
2006-10-15 16:04:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Usually people like to talk about themselves. Focus on her, ask open-ended questions and spend time being impressed about her instead of trying to impress others about yourself. You are being too hard on yourself...lighten up.
The next time you ask someone out, decide beforehand that it will be "the great experiment." See if you can avoid saying "I" -- but instead try and use "you." You may be amazed at the results! Once I noticed a particular guy boarding our airplane that was bound for Hawaii, and decided that if he wasn't married, he was mine. Turns out after three days he proposed to me. I didn't accept, and no, didn't go into it just to make a game out of it either. But it's a wonderful way to really relax, enjoy and really learn about another incredible human being -- "their" thoughts, fears and joys in life.
You really care -- so you are ahead of the pack. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-15 16:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by skylight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi smooth, well my belief is that first of all you have to work on yourself. I can see you say a lot of negative things about yourself, and so, that makes you insecure. In another words, you are your own worst enemy. First you MUST STOP THINKING you are clumsy, the more you think it, the worst it is going to be. You've done a pretty good job until now as it is. Your brain (which is a perfect computer) is full of these messages. You need to changes these messages. Start a new diet that doesn't have anything to do with food, and this diet is called the "7 day diet". This diet, consists on watching your thoughts, as much as you can. When you think or say something negative about yourself, just make a mental note. You will be surprised how many times you feed your brain with negativism, that is translated to all your nervious system and thus into your words and actions. After these 7 days, then you already KNOW what are the negative words you need to erase from your life. The next 7 days will consist of replacing the negative words into positive word that begin with "I am...." for example your problems with clumsiness: "I am always sure of myself". Repeat this as much as you can, in your free time, write it, repeat it as often as you can. After this week. Take another sentence like: "I am an intelligent person". I can asure you this will help. Will this help you be "smoother"? I can only tell you that women as well as men are attracted to people who are simply genuine, in other words, people who mean what they say and are genuinly interested in them for the right reasons. If you want to make a good conversation with a girl, ask her questions about herself, questions that you would really want to know, not just to talk abut something. If you are really interested she will feel it. But first you have to work in yourself, the rest will come. I hope this can help you, for it really changed my life.
2006-10-15 23:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mariangelica A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself at all times and mr bean is COOL :)
stop worrying about not being smooth and everything will become better --- and so what if there is a silence sometimes the most important things are not said --- if you can both feel comfortable just listening to each other breathe on the phone ---waw that is something very special
you worry tooo much about being clumsy dont its who you are and there are ladies that may like that
2006-10-15 23:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you shouldn't be doing stuff to try to get a girl "interested enough to have sex" with you. That's a huge turn-off. Try turning your clumsy-ness into jokes or whatver. Make 'em laugh. Practise your lines and conversation starters in the mirror if you have to.
2006-10-15 23:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by Aimers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Conversations can go smoother if you talk about hopes, dreams & needs (yours or theirs).
Posted reminders help with remembering important things such as taking your ID, etc.
When you're more confident about the other problems, I believe the situations about dropping things will end.
2006-10-15 23:11:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls like that. there is no magic formula to be smooth. It's usually a skill that guys have practiced for a long time, but it also just comes naturally to some...not me, but some, hahahaha.
2006-10-15 23:12:06 · answer #6 · answered by just_another_guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax. some guy's "cool" is too formulaic, too devised. genuine and relaxed will get you further than slimy and smooth.
2006-10-15 23:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by augoeides 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
weel you just made feel better.....but you should work out or read more or study more, or do something productive that will give you more stuff to talk about. i mentioned working out because it boost self esteem.(give me ten points please!)
2006-10-15 23:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋