ok i like this girl at my church and i see her very rarely how should i flirt also i told her twin bro over the phone that i liked his sis he was kinda freaked out(just a little bit) i told him not to tell her so when should i tell her because i didn't want to tell her over the phone and i didn't wan't him to spill the beans so the questions are how do i flirt when and how should i tell her i like her. my parents don't let me date either. remember 10 points
2006-10-15 16:00:24 · 15 answers · asked by pistoluser 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am 13 she is 12
2006-10-15 16:04:12 · update #1
Worst position ever...
First of all as a fellow brother he probably spilled the beans... im not trying to be mean but its true we bros look out for our sisters... and in any case you have a hard predicament. it really depends sounds like your a religios guy or at least your family is, you should really talk to your parents about dating... before you do anything and then from there on you can deside weather or not to engage in a relationship with this girl. The last thing you want is sneeking around with this girl.
ok now...
How should you flirt?
... there is no particular way you have to flirt according to your personality.. TALKING is the best flirt compliments work.. pplayfull games work too.. its really up to you im not a churchy kind of guy so im not sure about the rules...
How should you tell her?
Ha tell her in person is the first thing be bold... dont be a pansie and also dont freak her out by being too serious try smerking or something but tell her how you feel you know but get to know her first...
EDIT!!!!!
Your young dude... wait a couple of years...
2006-10-15 16:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by masterdj2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, flirting is not the answer. You need to basically, step up to her, introduce yourself and then start a conversation with her, try to find out more about her and her interests.
It will be hard, being that your parents do not allow you to date, but if there are activities in your church (trips, clubs, etc.), perhaps the two of you can participate in activities together. Basically get to be friendly with her and see how things progress.
Why is it that your parents will not allow you to date? Is it because you are young, or due to your beliefs. Perhaps you can speak to them and see if they are willing to bend. If the girl is willing to go out with you, an adult can chaperone some activities.
Good Luck.
2006-10-15 23:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by LewAR26502 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 years old and ready to date, huh?
Just keep it simple, lover boy. Tell her that you like her, straight out. She probably already knows. DON'T try any funny stuff especially at church... Just be friends right now until you are a little older... You might get a kiss, settle for ones on the cheek right now... They are innocent and cute.
It's hard to get in trouble for innocent and cute... Some parents FREAK at the idea that some boy kissed their daughter... So don't get anxious over this... Think FRIEND right now, until you are older..
GO OUT IN GROUPS and YOUTH GROUP activities... Bible Study, skating parties, etc. IF it's available and a time to be with her in a protected and innocent atmosphere... That's the place to be right now.
The parents will shut you down right now if they think you're looking to play Romeo and Juliette... FRIENDS!!!
2006-10-15 23:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are young and this is a huge deal to you. In life I have realized that it is best to be direct. Write her or call her. Tell her that you can't date yet, but you really like her. Ask her if yuu can spend sometime getting to know each other better by chatting on the phone or maybe exchanging emails. If you ask her for a commitment , she might get scared. But, if you ask for more connection I figure she will be willing to do that.
We all fear rejetion. Let go of that fear. Becasue you are human and you will experience rejection ...but it is worth the risk, becasue you gotta keep trying to have a special person in your life.
Good luck
2006-10-15 23:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is, you need to be a better friend to her brother. This sounds weird, but it would mean that you could go to their house alot and he would understand you better and not be so freaked out about your thing for his sister. Then you need to shift your focus to her a little more, just to see how she reacts. Then you just move in and go over there for her one day and not for her brother. (make sures he's cool with that) That's when you tell her honestly how you feel. Compliment her, let her know how much you like her, have confidence, be yourself, but be humble, and then beg her! Good luck. Go out n' get her!
2006-10-15 23:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by dropdeadchicken28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go up to her and strike up a conversation of anything, get comfortable with her friendship, but make it obvious there's a little more than friendship, be sweet, open doors for her and compliment her then one night have a serious conversation with her and tell her how you really feel. Don't be immature about it.
2006-10-15 23:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the point if you're not allowed to date? I'd say don't bother telling her. If her brother spills the beans, then so be it.
2006-10-15 23:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by Aimers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..the fact she freaked out means she's already been told...so its going to be tough to approach this gal as she knows you like her already. its going to be a long slow road..but try to be a friend first..then let things progress. the strongest buildings are those with a strong foundation. friendship builds a foundation for more
2006-10-15 23:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by bald_guy69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no luck here. sorry. but just.... its kinda hard when ur parents dont let you date. Just talk to her like u do with all ur friends that are girls. Make eye contact. But dont stare. I can never make eye contact with the guys I like and Its just weird when ur talking to someone and u just keep glancing at them.
2006-10-15 23:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her brother if she likes you. get her im and e-mail address. sit next to her at church. just get to know her a little better. if you rush into it it's a garantee she won't like you. take it slow, if you don't you'll regret it!
2006-10-15 23:03:36 · answer #10 · answered by beachchica7272 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋