This weekend was the first I went out with the girls for a nightout in a long time (more than 6 months) since my breakup with the ex. Sure it was great night - lots of booze, awesome music and good looking people out. Men started showing interest in me and a couple of them came up to chat with me and guess what I did? Shy away!!! I stayed glued to the bar and drank the night away... What's your thought on this...
2006-10-15 15:57:56 · 13 answers · asked by brown_sugah064 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you miss your ex, that's what. Any way don't pick up a guy in a bar, it's tells you what they really like to do. I'm not saying you have to go to church or something, but most bar scene's die out after a while. Pick yourdelf up, dust yourself off and take some more time out from the dating scene until you are over this ex or you won't have a good time with someone else. Try to realize that it is over and take some time to do other things to get your mind off of him.
2006-10-15 16:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a little gun shy right now... Like the kid who got beamed by a baseball for the first time... Give yourself time, you'll be fine..
Just remember, not every guy is going to treat you like your ex. I suppose he mistreated you... Just get out there, relax and given time you might just find a guy you really like... Talk is just that, it won't hurt you... NURSE your drink so you don't get drunk and talk with some of the guys... NEVER let them take you away from the bar alone. Have some friends cover you and you cover them.
There are guys that are better for you and there are guys that are worse... So keep your guard up.
2006-10-15 23:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That you might be a little shy or unsure of yourself since your break-up. That's normal, but you've got to get back out there and if nothing else, make some new good friends. Next time you go out, make a deal with yourself that your talk to at least 2 new people, men or women....and see how that goes.
Good luck and enjoy your new found freedom.
2006-10-15 23:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by goodgirlinohio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did say you just broke up with the ex didnt you? So you dont want to jump in head first no harm in being cautious. Next time though if a guy asks you to dance then by all means dance. Dont let the hurts of the past stop you from enjoying your future. Take it slow and dont rush into things.
2006-10-15 23:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may be wrong because it is different for every person, but I would think that you are just not ready to start dating again. Just give yourself some more time. You will be comfortable with moving on soon. Just start things off as friends and take any new relationship slowly. Good luck girl :)
2006-10-15 23:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sometimes that's ok, **** I drink alone too....but thats at home...anyways back to you...You just need a little confidence boost. Ask your girls to help you out in that department, get dressed up, have an awesome dinner, and just enjoy life and when people see you enjoying yourself, I'm sure you'll be beating guys off with a stick..Good Luck
2006-10-15 23:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were acustomed to being with someone and not being free to talk to other men. So here's how you break this cycle. From now on, never date a guy who will not let you talk to anyone you want to, male/female, no matter who they are.
Don't limit yourself, by allowing someone to tell you how to live your life.
2006-10-15 23:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you did not think any of the guys were worth worrying about --- nothing wrong with that
when you see a nice guy and are ready you will not shy away :)
2006-10-15 23:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
despite all that drinking, u were still sober !! good for you. I would not hope to meet the "rite" guy in such a place, anyway.
2006-10-15 23:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just needed a drink that nite not a man
2006-10-15 23:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by sandy k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋