2006-10-15 15:57:19 · 14 answers · asked by One Love 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
There is no "right" age to start a family...
My parents started their family (me) when they were 20 and 21. Things turned out great for them.
I was 28 when my daughter was born, and I was nowhere near ready for a family at that age.
You need to ask yourself a few questions before considering going forward with it:
1) Why do you want the child?
2) can you afford the child. Keep in mind that formula, diapers, bottles, clothes, baby wipes, baby wash, nipples, bibs, cribs, swings, blankets, doctors bills, YOUR doctor bills, pre-natal vitamins, etc all cost money. If you are having trouble meeting your own bills, then adding to the mix is going to completely wreck you financially.
3) Are you ready, emotionally, to be a parent? If you say, "I think so" ,then you aren't.
4) What kind of help are you going to have? Babies are, literally, a 24 hour a day job. They have to get up every couple of hours, and you never get any rest, or time alone... unless you have a tremendous support system.
Are you willing to give up your freedom? With a new baby, you will never get to go out and hang out with your friends... and you'd be too tired even if you could.
I love both of my kids with everything I am; however, I sincerely would have preferred to wait until I was a little more ready to accept the responsibility. We made it through (my kids are 17 and 12), yet it certainly was the most difficult thing I had ever been through.
2006-10-15 16:06:37 · answer #1 · answered by Bradly S 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you get the latest issue of Parents magazine there is an article on having kids in your 20-40 and what the advantages are for each age. As long as you're stable you really can start any time. I'm 22 and I didn't think I was ready but now I realize that I could do it. (I just miscarried). Good luck!
2006-10-15 16:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be ready. A house Husband and some money in the bank. It is not cheap to have babys. And I thought it would get better as they got older but it doesn't. Their clothes cost more, and they grow out of them every six months, School always has something else to buy or sell or donate. So be ready! Have a good job and a little cush. Then think about a family. And don't forget about all the things the little babys need to. Diapers alone could be 20 dollars a week. Formula if you choose is Even more. Good Luck.
2006-10-15 17:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by Kathy D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think age has anything to do with it. You and your husband should both be prepared for a baby. Make sure you have a big enough place for you baby, enough money to provide what the baby needs, a great relationship to raise your baby in, and making sure that your "party" streak is out of your system. Not that you are a partier- I don't know you- but you need to make sure you can devote your life to a new human that will need you 24/7. If you feel you can handle that now- than it's a good time- if not- wait until you and your husband both feel ready.
2006-10-15 16:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
28
2006-10-15 16:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are in a stable relationship and will have a good home and environment for the baby to grow up in.
I'm 18 and TTC i don't believe age is ever an issue as age is only a number its how stable and how you feel, i have a loving partner and have my home that we both live in.
Good Luck
2006-10-15 16:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOW!!!!!!!
I was 22, so I am partial. I wanted to be done at 25, and I will have my 2nd and probably last baby in march 3 months before my 26th birthday.
Age doesn't really matter when it comes down to it. Depends on yourself and your hubby. And believe me, there is NEVER a 'perfect' time. You will always think of something else you want to pay off, accomplish, travel to, etc.
2006-10-15 16:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by Therapist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are stable and will be able to provide for the baby and take care of it you should be fine. Just make sure it is what you want and what your partner wants. There isnt a special age to start just be sure you are ready for it.
2006-10-15 16:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by sweetm12004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know for sure. There is no specific age. Once you have children, your life changes forever. Just be sure that you are emotionally and finacially ready to start a family. Best of luck to you! :)
2006-10-15 16:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by Patricia S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It varies with different people. I don't think there is a right age.
I was 22 when I had my first.
Soem people want to take theri time to settle down. Others feel right at 16.
2006-10-15 20:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by fishcan'tseewater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋