My guy loves me ALOT.I love him just as much..and v hav been going out for abt 1 1/2 years.......the problem is he wants to have sex with me always...I want to do not wish to have pre marital sex
I told him so....but he insisted that he wants to...because sex is a part of a healthy relationship and...doing it would make us mo close....i know what he says is right, but i just dont want to go to that extent until marriage...i love him so much and i told him i dont need to have sex to love him an dwe always argue about this and then end up fighting...im so hurt.....i love him and my guy is such a nice person...the only weakness is this....im sad that im a worthless GF..wht do u guys think? did i do something wrong?wht should i do...im 18 and he's 24, by the way..
2006-10-15 15:47:49 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just want to start by congratulating you on abstaining this far. It is very rare to find any girl that has morals and is willing to stick to them. Your doing the right thing. You know he loves you the question is just how much does he care about you? If this man is the one you really see yourself with think about the value of your standards. You still have a long road ahead of you. My advice is to make sure that he is willing to be the passenger for the long haul. Talk to him and if he gets upset tell him that this is really important to you. Let him know what you want to do when you are married, give him light at the end of that tunnel you know!?
If he cant commit you have your answer.Don't worry you have a great head on your shoulders and any man would be lucky to have you!
Good luck!
2006-10-15 16:00:00 · answer #1 · answered by Shelly7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a worthless girlfriend -- you just have a worthless boyfriend.
If he is callous enough not to respect your wishes to not have sex before marriage, and he is stating that sex is part of a "healthy relationship" and is arguing with you about it, then he does not care about you as a person, he just sees you as a person to have sex with.
While sex is important and it does bring people together, he is acting as though sex is the only thing that matters in a relationship. If he truly loves you for who you are, and not just as a potential sex partner, then he would respect your wishes and would be supportive. I am willing to bet that he has not even spoken about the subject of you two getting married at some later time. He is only focusing on the sex.
I would seriously consider whether you want to be involved with someone that cannot take your feelings into consideration and has no respect for your beliefs and convictions. Drop the loser now while you have the chance.
2006-10-15 22:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by LewAR26502 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman don't make me slap you! your not a worthless gf because you don't wanna have sex till your married you did nothing wrong his the jerk if he loves you as much as he says he does he'll wait! he should respect your wishes instead of pushing it.
2006-10-15 22:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont hav sex with him. you should not hav pre-maritial sex. if he cant accept this then he is not right for you.
2006-10-15 22:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by Randy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋