He had problems (insensitive, selfish, cheap, etc) but I still feel like I did something wrong or was not worthy. Rationally, I know he was not a good person and was not good to me. But emotionally, I find myself sitting here judging myself and being wounded. I hate it. How do I stop feeling like a victim and move on?
2006-10-15 15:30:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's nothing wrong having feelings for the ones you used to love it just depend on the individual which is yourself. Maybe you did something wrong, maybe you didn't, the best way you can do is see it as, it was never meant to be. Of course you're never going to forget about it, but thinking about it too much won't help you move on as well. Ask yourself this, What makes you happy? if you find what makes you happy, the world seems to smile back at you. don't worry "it never rains everyday".
2006-10-15 15:50:25 · answer #1 · answered by Steven Fenix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEYYYY, someone else with the exact same problem as me.... I did it three times, I felt like I did something wrong everytime I broke up with him and he would cry and make promises and we got back together, this last time I had enough broke up, and met somebody that was a friend being my shoulder and turned out to be a really good guy. I guess you dont move on until you find someone else cause I am sooooo happy now.
2006-10-15 15:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by Laprincessa1182 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I kept thinking in my situation that he was going to change.
My ex was VERY insensitive, Selfish beyond belief, and oh so cheap.
He proposed to me.. but never bought me a ring.. I would of accepted a ringalo, or onion corn snack or even a freakin' cherrio.. just anything! And I told him I never cared about cost, but I still never got a ring.
He also said it would take him a year to get over me.. try 2 weeks.
After saying he wanted to get Married.. he went on a business trip, and met up with someone else. Then another and another.. and another.. and then he said he couldn't get into a relationship cause he still loved me, and missed me, we got talking, and then I started to question his missed time, and then he said he was dating...AGAIN.
All this time, I never went out with anyone, I couldn't even consider dating.. and I still can't.
It's only until now, I realize that I'm only thinking on the good moments, and forgetting that the bad even happened.
Think on the link's as to why you broke up. I listed a few of mine.. but also, I kept making excuses for him, which I should of never done, and I was literally a welcome sign to him.
I think if he never broke up with me, I'd still be with him, and still be putting up with this bull, it's only until the break-up after time, and crying, listening to Rascal Flatt's What hurts the Most, and eating that full tub of ice cream.. take out all the time you need.. I do what you got to do.. let the tears flow.. cause for me.. it went from.. no sleep at all.. waking up from my sleep and crying.. it's best to take the time out to get it out of your system.. you won't be able to flush it completely, but you will however.. start to feel better =) Goodluck and I hope you well.. God Bless!
2006-10-15 15:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a little time and constantly reminding yourself that you are not the problem. He is the problem and one that you are well rid off. Focus your energies on other things.
Life is too short to fixate on men like your ex. Once you meet a nice guy, you'll forget that the other one even existed and you'll wonder why you spent so much time beating yourself up.
2006-10-15 15:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might try finding a good man to date and he'll make you forget this loser... Stop looking down on yourself and look up to see a real man that may be right around you, right now.
2006-10-15 15:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie....don't blame yourself coz he was the bad one...you have done nothing wrong..you must get that out of your head right now...he was the one with the problems...he's the one who's not worthy...you have to say to yourself...move on...forget him....don't dwell...he's the one in the wrong...not you....get a nice man who will respect you...this one obviously didn't know what respect was....don't blame yourself because of him...it's his fault, he has let you slip through his fingers, his loss...you can do better...
2006-10-15 15:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go shopping and get a new hair style. Enjoy being single until you find someone that you really like!!!
2006-10-15 15:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
celebrate!!!!!!! it hurts , you miss him , but at the end of the day celebrate that you are free now...free to find someone decent , let go of him mentally and get out there and you will find that there are so many really great fish in that big wide sea!!!!!!!!
2006-10-15 15:36:54 · answer #8 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the best for yourself and what you really care about anymore is just lonely hallucinations.
2006-10-15 15:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get over someone, is to get under another one.
2006-10-15 15:33:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋