my boyfriend asked me to marry him on april 2 of this year.For my birthday in june he bought me the ring i picked out, the thing is i still don't have it on my hand. He bought it for me but he still hasn't given it to me. My whole family knows that he asked me to marry him ( i called them that day and told them.) Although i've developed a great relationship with his family (we've gone on vacations together) he still to this day has not told them that he asked me to marry him. i don't know what to do about it. should i tell him that if he doesn't love me enough to tell them that it's not good enough for me? I need some good advice. what could he possibly be waiting for it's been 6 months since he asked me to marry him.
2006-10-15 15:17:39 · 18 answers · asked by kristiem1984 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we've been living together for almost 2 years, so it's not too soon, but why would he ask me if he didn't want his family to know, shouldn't he have just waited
2006-10-15 15:22:10 · update #1
The best thing to do would be to ask him what's going on. You know that assuming makes an *** out of U and ME! So don't do it because only he can give you the reason why he hasn't given you the ring yet. It might be a positive reason or negative, either way you'll get the correct information so you can make the best decision.
2006-10-15 15:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by rudy_rodriguez24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like something isn't right. It doesn't sound as though it's because his family would have a problem with it. Does he talk about it to other people ? I think you would be wise to confront him about it before it goes any further. Have the two of you set a date? That's how I would go about confronting him, you should tell him you want to set the date and begin making plans. He would have to involve his family then. Good Luck.
2006-10-15 15:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree you need to talk to him especially if your not wearing the ring yet, thats a lil strange if he brought it already. Dont get too worried because if he has already brought it then he obviously is serious about the commitment maybe he had a bad experience and wants to be sure b4 he tells his family or he wants the right time.... Talk to him
2006-10-15 15:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by Laprincessa1182 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him why he hasn't told his family? Talk to him and find out what the hold up is. If he won't spill the beans, you might want to take the initiative and tell his folks--from what you've said, it sounds like they'll be thrilled to have you for a daughter.
2006-10-15 15:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by spunk113 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it could be a situation going on in his family that you don't know about or it could like a lot of men cold feet,may he has not gotten it out the jewelery store yet he wants to finish paying for it sometimes the timing could be wrong
2006-10-15 17:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not ready to marry. If you're having these kinds of issues and he can't tell you what's up, think again about marrying him.
At the very least, insist upon premarital counseling.
2006-10-15 15:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a guy that want to keep you around as long as he can but hes afraid of an actual real commitment
2006-10-15 15:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have the ring on your finger yet then how do you know he bought it for you? Maybe THAT is the reason he hasn't told his family yet.
2006-10-15 15:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
So you're sorta kinda maybe secretly engaged?
Sounds like a real rock of a relationship.
2006-10-15 15:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is he from another race? Why dosent he tell them? Ask him. If he truly loved you he would walk on hot coals for you.
2006-10-15 15:22:54 · answer #10 · answered by Agnon L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋