So I told my friend that i wanted to be more than friends. He said he doesn't think of me like that. Ouch, but ok. Now what I want to know is WHY he isn't interested. Does he just not feel a spark? Doesn't find me attractive? Or is it likely to be something more personal (ie: doesn't like my personality)?
What I really want to know is is it ok to ask him why or will that put him on the spot and intimidate him? Is it likely to put our friendship under more pressure?
2006-10-15 15:17:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
babe...don't take it personally!....he already told you why he said no...and its got nothing to do with your looks or personality - somehow from the begining he has ALWAYS had you in mind as a FRIEND....doesn't mean you are not attractive - he just put you in that catagory....he probably does think you are pretty , with an amazing personality and is very fond of you...but has just never thought of you in a sexual way....it makes a change from male friends who are just friends with you to get into your pants!!!
2006-10-15 15:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it is likely to put pressure on him and your friendship. It would be best if you could just accept that you are not the right girl for him and let it go. If you must have more information, why not ask him for some advice to help you meet and get to know some *other* interesting guys? That way, he won't be as much put on the spot. You could say, hey this guy "John" in my algebra class is really cute. Do you think he's out of my league? I'm trying to decide what to wear when I go out with "Mark". Which outfit do you think is cuter? That will give him the chance to offer you some constructive criticism if he has any. And it might just be chemistry and nothing more. Maybe he thinks you're perfect, but feels like you're a sister.
2006-10-15 15:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by pamgissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, I wouldn't want a girl to ask me why. I can understand that it hurts, but finding out why won't make you feel any better, it will probably only make it hurt worse, and it is not going to change his decision.
If the friendship is worth it, just keep being friends, otherwise, count your losses now.
2006-10-15 15:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by Coop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 09:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really wouldnt...
first of all, it makes you feel desperate and as if you need to figure out what you yourself are...which is not at all attractive
second, you probably wont get an honest answer. It'll be some sidebar response. (its way too hard to point out bad things about a girl)
and last, you probably dont want to ruin your friendship, bc he himself will start to think what is wrong with u and ure faults will engross his mind rather than ure goodness...
good luck!
2006-10-15 15:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by sage3272000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah that might be asking a bit too much. Guys don't fell right being that honest with a girl. He is probably afraid to tell u the reason, doesn't want to hurt ya.
2006-10-15 15:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by day dreamin baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same predicament as you, and it's a tough call to make. The wondering "why" can drive you crazy, but if we hear the truth, it might really cut deep. I don't know, I guess you need to decide which will be easiest to bear.
2006-10-15 15:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably put your friendship in jeopardy, but if you explain it to him properly that you would like to know because his criticism can help you grow as a person then it should be ok.
2006-10-15 15:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. Besides, when you do find out why, what are you gonna do?
If you think you need to change something for him, then he is not worth your time. You want someone who wants you for you.
2006-10-15 15:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't straight up ask him, I'd find a way to imply the question. That way he doesn't have to feel weird, and he doesn't have to answer it if he doesn't want to.
2006-10-15 15:22:58 · answer #10 · answered by rex_pingu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋