my girl isn't poor but her parents don't support her, and I do, therefore I get her whateva she needs, when I get broke I don't ask her, cos she doesn't have any. She loved me so much, she would have done anything for me. suddenly, her feelings changed, just at once, so she dumped me! I know she didn't use me, so don't tell me she used me, I understand that feelings get changed, but not that fast, I tried to get her back, but she was so harsh, and she asked me just to forget her. It's been a week now, and I just can't stop thinking about her. Next door where I live, there's a beautiful chick, she wants me and she says that she could be better for me. But I still wanna my girl back, and I'm not ready for any relationship. My ex now says that it wasn't excited and what annoyed her more that I used my money to attract her! what the fcuk! not excited! how can I have money and not offering it to who I love? I know it's not a valid reason. I dunno, should I try again to get her back? or what
2006-10-15 15:08:57 · 15 answers · asked by Qonsul * 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
uh..sounds like shes a user. money doesnt buy you love. simple as that. you need to move on AND not get with your neighbor. clearly you dont want her. maybe you need to concentrate on yourself.. love yourself..be by yourself, until you're ready to let someone in. once again. MOVE ON.. she doesnt want you.
2006-10-15 15:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by project_twenty9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really don't want an answer, you just want someone to tell you you're right.
Listen up: She does not want to be with you.
People who love you don't suddenly change their feelings toward you. If she loved you, she wouldn't have been so harsh when you tired to get back together with her. You supported her, but that wasn't enough to keep her with you. And, yeah she's annoyed. She doesn't feel the same about you and then you tried to buy her back. Maybe instead of "supporting" her, you were just throwing money in her face, until you ran out...that just made you look silly.
The relationship hasn't been about her, it's been about you being a control freak. She told you to forget her, but YOU want her back. She told you she wasn't excited, but YOU can't accept it. She's annoyed about you putting more money in her face, but YOU can't see that it's not about the money!
Man, leave her alone before she really gets ticked off. Go with the "or what" option.
2006-10-15 15:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to chalk up your losses, consider yourself lucky and move on. While you may think that your ex was not using you for money, there are deeper issues that she has that she will have to deal with -- consider yourself lucky that you do not have to deal with all her accumulated baggage.
As for your neighbor, I would stay away, she sounds like she is looking for prey and may have found one in a person who at the moment is emotionally hurt due to your breakup. Stay away! She either is looking to just use you monetarily or physically. If the other girl truly is interested in you for who you are, she would try to become friends with you first and get to know you over time instead of saying "she could be better for you" than your ex.
Take your time, grieve over your loss, but remember you will feel better over time and you will find someone who will appreciate you for who you truly are and not for what you can buy or do for her.
Good Luck.
2006-10-15 15:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by LewAR26502 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to get her back and don't jump into another relationship. She showed her true colors and you deserve someone better. Be single for a while and start spending your money on yourself OR start saving money for the future. It's only been a week. Things will get better as time passes. Take the next 7 or 8 months to be by yourself and take care of yourself.
2006-10-15 15:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't wanna hear that she was using you, but lets be honest, please just be honest with yourself, so you can get over this. It's obvious that she was attracted to you because you bought her things and paid for stuff, she said it herself to you when she said "that you used your money to attract her" Chances are she was trying to convince herself that she liked you, but when she couldn't do this, she wanted you to leave and go as far away as possible because she doesn't like you and she doesn't want to use you. So just leave it alone. If she doesn't want you then she doesn't want you! EnD OF SToRY! Move on to a girl that will love you and appreciate you, the girl nextdoor sounds like a great oppurtunity so snatch her up. And don't feel bad, it's normal to miss your ex, but you will get over her in time.
2006-10-15 15:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Iam Sorry my brother :( I can relate. When it happens that fast, it's because she has found another. It'd gonna hurt like hell for awhile. If you still love her, just be there for her. but dont let it control your life. In time you will be able to move beyond this but you will never forget her.
2006-10-15 15:18:11 · answer #6 · answered by Agnon L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm, no. its not meant to be if you annoy her more than your money attracted her. she just discovered things about you that annoy her that she didnt notice before and they are things that she wont settle for. shes ready to move on probably. sounds like the beautiful "chick" sounds decent, try to stay away from gold diggers mmks? if she doesnt want to be with you, its not going to happen. let it go, move on when you're ready. my condolences
2006-10-15 15:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by Mina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on to the hot chicka next door and stop thinking about the ex. your ex was probably using you for your money, her feelings probably changed some time ago but it wasn't convenient for her to dump you yet.
2006-10-15 15:14:23 · answer #8 · answered by Portango 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
things happen for a reason,maybe one day you will understand and be happy it happened this way, for now i know it hurts. you have alot to offer a girl, and one day the right one will come along.one that won't take advantage of your good heart.good luck.
2006-10-15 15:24:49 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write the same thing to her what you have written here. Let her know the truth in black and white. then wait for a month or so. then decide what you want to do. till then just wait, and remember her.
p.s.: do not forget to send some flowers with your letter.
I will never advise anyone to break away. One must try and survive. that is called relationship
2006-10-15 15:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by Ashok Chavda 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋