Be truthful...how good of a SAHM are you??

Question

I was just curious...I've seen a lot of suprising things on here and wanted to know what other stay at home moms do.

Is you home clean for the majority of the time? Why or why not?

Do you cook every night? Why or why not?

Do you take care of the finances?

What do you do (other then cook and clean all day...if you even do that) all day?

AND

Do you expect your husband to come home and clean? Of course help with dishes or evening stuff but do you expect him to tidy up the house--if it's not his mess?

Answer 1

Ok here we go. My floors are clean, the bathroom ect. But by the end of the day there are toys and clothes on the ground( kids can't seem to see hamper two feet from them)

I cook about 6 suppers out of 7. No not frozen pizzas but real cooking. And usually breakfast 1 a week.( My kids eat breakfast at different times due to different schedules) And I make lunch for my middle one everyday( oldest at school baby too young)

I pay the bills every two weeks.

When my hubby gets home I do expect him to help because cooking with a screaming baby is sooo hard. All I want is help with the kids. On the weekend I expect more.

And what do you mean his " mess" Cause the mess my kids make ain't mine. I am on maternity leave so yes I should do more than him but keep in mind When i work i expect him to do half

Answer 2

Well, clean is a pretty subjective concept! I'm not very good about dusting, but the floors are usually spotless because A) I have a 15 month old that picks up EVERYTHING and puts it in her mouth, and B) I hate to see gray bottomed socks in the wash-eewww! How tidy the house is depends on what kind of day I've had, after all, we do live here! I do cook most nights but look forward to the occasional pizza or eat out night. My husband is an idiot with the checkbook, so I have to do all the finances, too. I do the laundry, the grocery shopping, all the other shopping (and I honestly HATE shopping), check in on my grandpa a few times a week to see if he needs anything (he's just a few towns over) and take him shopping if he does. When weather permits, I take my little one out for walks and to the park as often a possible. Then there's the diapers, feedings and more diapers.

I learned a long time ago that when it comes to helping out with housework, my (soon to be ex) husband is useless from the word go. You'd think he would watch the baby so I could take a shower at least! Thank God (and I do!) I have 2 wonderful older kids that help out with the chores that a normal husband would do! And now, while everyone else is sleeping, I'm doing this. What do you do all day?

Answer 3

I wish every child had a SAHM.
I ran a home daycare when my 1st child was a baby. Then I had 2 more--11 months from eachother. I kept a clean house and cooked every night. Those 3 are teens now, but I am back home with a 4 year old. I did teach preschool where he could be with me, but we are back home. (I had surgery.)
I wash clothes for 6, cook for 6, shop for 6, drive for 5 (2 in high school band), sweep, mop, dust, make beds, run errands, help hubby upon request, help 3 with homework and projects and problems. I try to do my cleaning early in the morning so I can play with the baby. We do errands on the way home from school, and I cook after homework and study time. THe 12 and 13 year olds are ADD and ADHD respectively.
I do most of the cooking. Hubby likes to fry fish or boil shrimp or grill sometimes. We grill more than use oven.
No, I do not expect him to tidy house, but he SHOULD entertain his baby while I catch a break. HE should deal with the trash cans!!!!

Answer 4

My home is acceptably clean. I clean one thing a day, so on any given day the floor might be dirty but the house is dusted, or vice-versa. I make the kids clean their rooms once a week. I cook everynight to some extent, we only eat out or get pizza maybe once a month, but I always cook more than enough for one night, so the next night we might have leftover lasagna and all I have to cook are some new vegetables. I pay some of the bills but my husband pays the big important ones. I take care of my 4 children all day. Buying the household necessities takes time--groceries, diapers, etc. I do lots of laundry, too. My husband does not clean, though he does help tidy up the kitchen after meals sometimes, things like that. His area is the outside; I do NOT garden or mow, etc. We have worked out a pretty good system that we are happy with through 12 years of marriage. I am so grateful to be able to stay home and raise my own kids, as imperfectly as I may do it, rather than have to work and pay someone else to raise them for me.

Answer 5

My home is clean a majority of the time. At times some things go undone because of scheduling conflicts. Although my home is clean, it is not what I would call emaculant.
I cook around 5 or 6 nights per week. I usually take Friday and Saturday nights off. Either my husband cooks or we go out.
Yes I take care of the finances.
Other than cooking and cleaning all day, I have doctors appts to run too, errands to run, volunteering at school, and other meetings to attend.
I don't expect my husband to help but he does and I am grateful. He usually takes care of the outside yardwork or we do it together on the weekends. He does help with picking up because we have 5 kids. He helps get them ready for bed or reading them stories things like that. Sometimes he lets me sleep a bit later and gets the kids ready for bed. I couldn't ask for a better husband, and am so grateful to him for everything that he does.

Answer 6

I'm not a stay at home mom but I still do the cleaning the majority of the time.......I don't cook every nite cuz I just don't have time or the energy sometimes.......I pay all the bills......
AND I do expect my husband to do his share......he does do all the laundry tho. And of course I expect him to clean ALL the mess not just his own.

Pretty much this was the same when I was on maternity leave for a year. Nothing else has changed except my life is more hectic and no more time for anything else.

It's hard either way being a stay at home or working mom.
Most husbands and men see that being at home is a vacation.....

Answer 7

My boyfriend works 12-13 hour shifts and sleeps in between with maybe two hours of free time a day. I let him spend that with his children rather than helping me out at home. I also make him a big breakfast at 5 AM every morning and then get the kids up and feed them as well. I clean up from breakfast and then get my oldest in a bath and dressed and then walk her to the bus stop. Daddy is sleeping by now so I have to aslo bundle up my 15 m/o and my 2 week old and grab the double stroller and bring them. We then play learning games and mommy does general cleaning and taking care of the baby in between. We make lunch and then wake up dad to spend some time with the kids and to eat while I clean up from lunch. I also can go grocery shopping in this time if needed. I then get a snack ready for my oldest kids and we go and get my 6 1/2 y/o from the bus. Daddy goes to work. We have snack and my 15 m/o has a nap. I help my oldest with homework and we read a book. I get my 15 m/o up from nap and I make supper while they play. I serve them and get a lunch ready to bring to daddy at his break. By the time I've cleaned up and we've gone to see dad it's time for bed. I do some laundry and I myself go to bed. So no- my house isn't really un-tidy. A week ago it was because I had just had my son. We do the finances together- I keep it organised and we get together on the weekends and make out the bills. And on weekends and at night time I get to use the computer and watch a movie. I think this is all normal typical sahm activity... every other mom I know does these things.

Answer 8

My house is always clean but always cluttered (with toys) when the kids are awake. I cook every other night and then we eat leftovers.
I take care of all of the finances
I spend time with the kids the rest of the day... Play outside, go to the park, read stories, watch TV, take walks...etc... It really depends on the day.
When my husband comes home he takes care of the dinner dishes every night (he is only home 2 nights a weeks) and cleans up after dinner (stove, counters, kitchen table) My kids do all of their toy cleaning and my husband helps the kids with that. I never expect my husband to do it, he just does it.

Answer 9

im a SAHM for the most part, i go to school 4 nights week. I have a 5 year old and a 5 month old.My husband is in the army and currently in Iraq.
I clean daily, and when my hubby is home he helps out.I handle all the money coming in and going out. I wake up about 6 30 am and make the kids breakfast, get him ready for school, we walk there, go home, clean and do homework, pick him up at school, get him lunch(he goes half days)I play with the kids, help my boy with his homework, go to the park, weekends we go to the zoo or movies and all that. I think imma pretty good mama.

Answer 10

Yes my home is clean most of the time. It's easy to keep on top of the cleaning instead of attacking a huge mess at the end of the day.

We take turns cooking at night. If he's home and I don't feeling like cooking then he cooks. Sometimes a day of cleaning and mothering a 9 month old makes you exhausted.

For the most part, yes I take care of the finances. I remind him what needs to be paid and when. Then he pays them.

What do I do all day? Well lets see. I wake and get my 5 yr old up. Usually while this happens my 9 month old wakes up. I pick up the 9 month old and while still telling the 5 yr old to get up for breakfast. I go into the kitchen w/ the 9 month old in my arms and pull out oatmeal or cereal for the 5 yr old. I go to put the 9 month old in his chair and he screams at me NONONONO!!!! So I will hold him while I get the 5 yr old breakfast going. I then go into the 5 yr ODs room and pull the sheets off. He has a loft bed and I cannot climb up w/ the 9 month old. He FINALLY gets outta bed and goes to the bathroom, for 7 minutes. When comes out, he sits down and starts to eat. I am able to put the 9 month old in his chair because his brother is sitting too. I give the 9 month old a waffle, the 5 yr old says he wants a waffle. I give the 5 yr old a waffle, he gives it to the 9 month old. I'm just trying to get a cup of coffee down. After breakfast, the 5 yr old has to brush his teeth, go get dressed. While he does this, I make his lunch, if it's not made the night before. The 9 month old is playing happily w/ the mashed up waffles. The 5 yr old is taking too long in the bathroom, he's gonna miss his bus. I tell him to move it. He gets out and dressed. I pick up the 9 month old, wrap him in a blanket and we all go out to wait for the bus. After that, the 9 month old wants to play, and wrestle, and talk. I want to clean up the kitchen. He wins. About a hour later its nap time, I give him his bottle, and that takes 30 minutes. He's down for a 20- 60 minute nap. I quickly wash the dishes and clean up the kitchen. Hopefully he wont wake so I can tae bo or do Pilate's. If he's still sleeping, I shower. Then by that time he's awake. I take him out, change a diaper and we continue on our day. That means either a walk, cleaning up, playing... whatever we decide. Sometimes we hang at the local bar for a few drinks. (kidding)
I clean up all day. I have a VERY active 9 month old. My house is not spotless, and should not be w/ kids living there. I have clutter and little messes. I don't bust my butt to keep a clean house. I'm a mom, not a maid.
I do expect my husband to help when he gets home. If I have to clean his mess while he's gone, then he should help me w/ mine. I have a full time job that requires my undivided attention. My boss is short, blue eyed, and can just about say mommy. He does not give me meal breaks after 4 hours of work. He does not let me walk away from a problem if I'm getting frustrated.
Did I cover everything?