help plz wit my boyfriend break up
2006-10-15 14:58:19 · 29 answers · asked by HollywoodVampire 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your boyfriend is too good for you so you want to break up?
why don't you see a counselor first for a few sessions and talk a little about self-esteem . .
2006-10-15 15:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want to break up then i hope you don't because you will likely regret this decision.
If you do want to break up but can't find the right reason then you'll simply have to be honest with him. Despite all the excuses in the world you feel as you do and cannot exactly change it for no reason.
If you just have a low self esteem and feel unworthy of him then i suggest you ask him how he feels about this. Does he agree/disagree? you may find that all the answers to your questions about your boyfriend lie within yourself and also him. Seek the answers there first and you'll get the most valid answers.
Unfortunately here no one will understand the context of your situation and can only say what we would do. But i guess the first question to ask yourself is what do you want to do?
2006-10-15 22:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you breaking up with him because hes "to good 4" you??? not a good reason to break up. so dont do that if thats the only reason. but if there is an actual significant reason---- if you fear that hes violent, do it in a public place with people around, or over the phone when you're not home alone. if you think he can handle it, tell him that you just are ready to move on and that it was great but you dont see a future for you two, together. you need a higher self esteem and if hes not making you feel beautiful and worthy then find someone who does.
2006-10-15 22:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you feel your not good enough for him. Don't put yourself down no matter what the reason. If you wish to leave him then do it! Not because he's too good for you but rather its time to go. He choose to be with you that has to stand for something. Just remember who you were when you got together. Sounds as if you may have lost your identity somewhere in the relationship. You'll find it once you make a decision. good luck
2006-10-15 22:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by Hot one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, get some faith in yourself. Never believe that someone is too good for you. That belief will have people stepping on you for the rest of your life. Take a good look at why you believe you aren't deserving of someone good in your life. Self-esteem is built, so get about the job of building it. Find out what you are good at, so long as it's legal and moral, and do it. Build your esteem day by day, and watch it grow. If you're good in school, take pride in your work, if you're good in only one subject, do your best in that one. If you're a good artist or athlete, shine there. Good at cleaning? Have the best bedroom around. Good at listening to your friends, be there for them. Only you can know what brings you joy. Once your self-esteem starts to build you will realize you are a perfect human being, deserving of good things and lots and lots of love. Take it all in.
2006-10-15 22:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by ICanCan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all get therapy because you obviously have a severe low self esteem problem. Why would you think anybody is too good for you? If he's with you, and treats you good, its because you deserve it. Good guys are really hard to find so you should stick with him if you love him. Don't punish him or yourself just because you think you are unworthy.
Unless, you're not in love with him. If you aren't ,just be honest and let him find someone who will love him truly.
Whatever you choose just make sure you're true to yourself.
2006-10-15 22:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by fire_rain_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean he's "too good for you?" Stop playing games and be honest. You either want to be with him or you don't. If you don't, tell him. If you do, then stop playing mind games with yourself. Go to the mirror this minute and look yourself straight in the eye and repeat after me "I am a kind, intelligent, beautiful woman. Any man would be lucky to share my love!" And then be that person... because you are!
2006-10-15 22:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont break up with him because you think hes too good for you! You have a great man... dont let that go. But if you just have to break up with him try just saying ITS OVER!!!
2006-10-15 22:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by Eugene 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, NO boyfriend is too good for a girl, maybe you just have real low self-esteem. If you don't want to speak to him in person or by telephone to discuss you inadequacy, perhaps you could email him, but by all means...use your spell checker! The best of luck to you.
2006-10-15 22:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is too good for you. Maybe you could be too good for someone, but don't ever under estimate yourself.
If you really want to break up with, just tell him how you feel. The best way to treat your couple is communicating and expresing yourself with the truth.
2006-10-15 22:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by Adriana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋