One of my close friends wants me to be a matchmaker for her and one of my guy friends. She wants me to find out if he likes her and set them up.
She is asking me to do this because I am the only one in our circle of friends that knows him. I don't know if my guy friend knows her well or not and I am lost on what to do first. How can I find out if he likes her and set them up without ruining my friendship with either of them and not being risque or too obvious.
To add into the mix, I have a feeling that my guy friend likes me. This isn't confirmed by anyone, its only a feeling. I only like him as a friend though. If he does like me (which I think he does) how can I set them up without ending up with a big love triangle mess, my friend (the girl) upset with me, my guy friend not my friend anymore.
So finally, how can I set them up without changing the whole world as my friends and I know it and turning my life upside down? Please help me!
Ruby Red Rose
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2006-10-15 14:57:08 · 9 answers · asked by ruby red rose @>-'-,-- 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whatever you do is not good for you. You are going to put your friendship in jeopardy, and be responsible for ruin everything.
I don't see any reason to be some matchmaker, end if you say to her you already took the man, is not true aether.
Remember be yourself and whatever you do, be OK with yourself in first place. You can tell them the truth and see what happened.
2006-10-15 15:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by Toto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not obligated to set her up with him just because she is your friend. If she really likes him, she can approach him herself. It's HER desire so its HER responsibility to make it happen. Its unfair for her to shove it all on you.
Before you set anyone up you should be fully persuaded in your mind that both parties would like each other and want it to happen. You gotta think of whats best for BOTH people, not just your female friend. Since you think the guy might like someone else, you shouldn't set them up. Just be tactful and tell your friend that you love her but it may not be the perfect match for both people. Tell her that she can always approach the guy herself and see what happens from there.
Then you are more likely to keep both friends.
2006-10-15 22:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by openheaven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! Never play match maker. I did that and now they hate each other and I have to throw different events and invite one and not the other. If they hook up on their own, u played no part in it and therefore they cannot blame you for any repercussions. So I strongly suggest not to do it!
2006-10-15 22:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by KryBaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it as much as possible - if you want to get involved I would say just exchange their phone numbers, with everyones consent...just say..umm here, someone I know asked me to give you their phone number, something like that- otherwise these things have the potential to get really messy
2006-10-15 22:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by dances with cats 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it,it could hurt your friendship if the match making don't work out
2006-10-15 21:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite him to dinner with both yourself and your friend and see who he polarises to and gives attention to.
2006-10-15 22:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him some questions about himself than ask him if he nows your friend. then you could tell him a little bit about her if he doesn't know her.
2006-10-15 22:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by beachchica7272 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would have to say try to get them together and if it doesn't work out that's their fault because she wanted u to do it so u did and it just didnt work!!!
2006-10-15 22:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by britt7 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't offer any untested piece to her
2006-10-15 21:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by sarjan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋