hi my name is courtney and i am in love with this guy named derik! i love him with all my heart and even though im only 15 i no it sounds crazy but hes the man of my dreams! i found my soulmate! well anyways he wants to do it but im a christian and i dont really believe in that except for after marriage!! but i do want to do it but i just think its wrong! but hes so nice and hes just my angel! what do i do?
2006-10-15 14:55:41 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he where your soulmate then you wouldnt even know he wants to do it... Your "soulmate" would know you almost better than you know yourself and he would know how you felt about it and would never dream of breaking your wishes or going against what you believe in. It may feel like he is your soulmate but maybe not you need to get experience to compare him against before you plan your wedding. I wouldnt tell you yes or no its your body, and asking other ppl when they lost theres doesnt help you either, think about the outcome and let that be your decision maker. I know its hard to think about but "what if" (not saying it would but...) you sleep with him and he feels like he got what he wanted and he lets you go... Or good forbid what if the condom breaks and you become a 15 or 16 year old mother....... Lots of "What if's" to think about first.... Good luck
2006-10-15 15:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by Laprincessa1182 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost mine before I was 15 and always regretted it! I am ashamed to this day to admit it! 15 year olds should not have sex....period...plus he's young....there is no way the experience will be at all anything you expect it to be, much less wonderful....trust me when I tell you...that young....your first time will totally SUCK....wait until you are older and you b/f is older and you are more developed and can truly enjoy the experience. Don't waste something so precious for five minutes of "he wants to do it." If he really cares about you....he will wait....till you are 18! Usually teen relationships don't last past graduation anyways....I know that is a harsh truth, but it is true! WAIT my dear...please Wait!
2006-10-15 15:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by Shae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to wait until you are older and after marriage. If he really loves you and is your soulmate, he will understand and will wait. Fifteen is not a good age to have sex for the first time because there are so many things to be concerned about.
I gave my virginity when I was 32, and, yes, I was in love with the guy and I was ready to handle it. I'm 44 now.
2006-10-15 15:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by Tara662 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say stay pure as long as you can. Although I was 16 when I lost mine. I don't regret it because I did lose mine to my soul-mate. I just wish I would have waited for age reasons. I am 21 now and me and my guy have our own house and a wonderful life together. We also have a son(2years old). We are soon to be married next year . All I can say is do what your heart says. If it says to wait, that's what you do. You will make the right decision. Just don't let him pressure you. If he loves you, he will wait as long as you want him to. Oh, and by the way, I dated my guy for 3 months before I actually kissed him.(he was the first and only guy I ever kissed and had sex with) And it was a year before I decided to give myself to him. So like I said, you will make the right decision.
2006-10-15 15:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by Honesty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was younger then you but I wish I had waited and It was not to my soulmate. once you start your going to want it more and more. Wait till your older or if you have some birth control. I have two kids but I'm 22 and I have a CNA so please wait tell you are ready because you don't wanna have a child that young. God bless. I just found my soulmate this year so make sure your right.
2006-10-15 15:03:41 · answer #5 · answered by lucille692003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop and think at 15 there are so many doors you have yet to open in life the the world is still a wonder. At 15 I don't know how many men you have known to say this is your life partner you have a long road ahead walk good paths and leave better trails
2006-10-15 15:21:07 · answer #6 · answered by Walter W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no perfect age. truly, i imagine you would possibly want to be in a relationship with someone you actually care about before dozing with someone. I lost mine at the same time as i replaced into 15 with my boyfriend on the time. He replaced into my perfect buddy for decades and we were mutually for some months before we had sex. we are nevertheless very solid acquaintances now regardless of what we were by ability of as acquaintances and as a pair. i wager the biggest element i visit inform you is continually use safe practices. ensure your significant different is using safe practices. It does no longer damage so that you'll flow on the pill, in case your no longer on it already, for extra safe practices. Plus it controls your hormones and places your decrease back in stability. there is often discomfort in touch notwithstanding it in basic terms relies upon on the man. commonly the discomfort is the breaking of the hymen. some women are fortunate and they damage their hymens by technique of operating. or gymnastics. at the same time as it breaks there is continually the prospect of blood yet women i comprehend have not in any respect experienced blood and in difficulty-free words some have experienced discomfort. I not in any respect did yet yet another buddy suggested the discomfort replaced into an 11/10. For the first time it regularly is painful. After some situations it finally ends up feeling truly solid. this is demanding to describe the way it feels because anybody has a diverse reaction. in difficulty-free words have sex at the same time as your waiting and do not sleep round with ever Tom, Joe and Harry.
2016-12-04 21:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by walko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, I'd wait. I was completely in love with this guy when I was 16 (he was 18). He told me that he wanted to grow old with me, that he wanted to make love to me, that he wanted to marry me.
(we dated for 3 months). Well, he sweet talked me and I chose to have sex with him. It was not pleasant as I was a virgin. He dumped me a week later.
I'm not saying this will happen to you. I'm just asking you to wait until you've been together for a year or so, and then, go slow and be on the pill. Good luck dear.
2006-10-15 14:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by rrmorris45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont want to sound negative but being so young you will go through so many changes u r still discovering urself so i'd be careful. im sure hes a great guy but things change. i mean people get married around 25 thats ten years from where u r at now....there are so many changes for you to have: get ur 1st job, graduate high school, go through a few major loves, move out on ur own, go to college, graduate college, possibly get settle into ur career. i mean looking back on it i've aged and matured alot from 16 till i graduated from high school(18), and then a good deal more from the start of college(18) till now 20; and im sure i'll get more life experiences from now till i graduate.
that being said people change and theres a lot of things that can happen with a person who u know and love. i kinda have a theory about 1st loves they tend to screw you over but thats another one of life expriences once u fall in love again you learn to love again. for example my first love was when i was 15 i'd do anything for her and she always said how i was the only one who could EVER make her happy etc...she moved away and i promised her that when i graduated i'd be with her; when i was bout to graduate i didnt do to my prom so i could save the money to go see her and being so naive i was gonna go to college there just to be with her...then she told me she was in love with someone else. i was pretty hurt for a while. but that of course was a blessing in disguise cuz god sent me a wonderful gf who taught me to love again...yea yea i know sounds kinda corny but its true
this to a certain degree has happened to all my friends but one(so far) we thought we would be with the person we were currently with forever but we didnt.
now dont take from this message that this guy is just gonna turn on u one day in the future maybe through you growing up ur idea of the dream man could change, just take this as a warning that things do change and being so young u just needa wait and see how things are going for a few years before u give up something u can never get back 2 someone...especially if it has to do with ur faith
2006-10-15 15:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by Cnote 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should wait i was 21 when i lost my virginty but he was the man i married and i have two wonderful kids i think 15 is way to young to know what you want in a man.
2006-10-15 15:07:52 · answer #10 · answered by cutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋