This girl I have had a crush on for awhile kissed me on the cheek recently. I have been thinking of her all the time since that night. We are pretty good friends, we have one class together and when we talk she laughs and smiles. The problem is she has a boyfriend. I am not interested in her because she is taken. I really like her, and have for a while like i said. I have just been shy and therefore never told her.
How can I approach her and tell her I like her, but let her know I'm not trying to make her choose between her current boyfriend and me? I know how I feel about her and I really want to be with her so it needs to be perfect to give me the best chance. I think she is beautiful, smart, funny, and i love her smile. I really enjoy spending time with her. I want to tell her in person, i think im a little to young to write her a note. Help me out ladies, and guys.
We are senoirs this year. I feel times running out, that I should tell her ASAP to make the most of of HS
2006-10-15 14:46:14 · 11 answers · asked by ARt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 23 and have already learned a valubale lesson- as hard as it feels like its gonna be to take that chance and let her know, youll regret it more later on if you dont. be blunt, tell her strait up your prioroty is her happiness, youre not presuring her into breaking up or making a choice, and that you value her friendship and the time you spend together. i bet she will understand, even at 17, i know i wouldve.
2006-10-15 14:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jeanniegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm, you'll probably loose everything with her (friendship) by telling her. become closer with her and ask her about her and her boyfriend, you must keep your friends close and your ememies closer. he is the ememy. soon as you hear a complaint about him that seems significant enough to convince her that his behavior will only get worse about that and that you are worried about her and that you want her to be happy, and then just slip it in there that you wish you could make her happy and if shes intelligent and worth it she'll understand and either deny you or make mad passionate love to ya (exageration). MAKE SURE you do this in person so she cant hang up, and so you can read her body language and facial expressions!!!!! even if she pushes you away at first with words and her body language hints otherwise may mean you still have a chance! back off and tell her that you're sorry and that you're there for her and that you wont make things weird. if one thing leads to another then so be it.
2006-10-15 14:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell her exactly what you just said in your description. tell her that you dont want to make her choose between you and her boyfriend but you have to tell her. then say this.....
" really want to be with her so it needs to be perfect to give me the best chance. I think she is beautiful, smart, funny, and i love her smile. I really enjoy spending time with her. "
im a girl and it would really change me perspective if someone said this to me. (im a senior in high school too. so take my advice lightly because i dont have much experience)
2006-10-15 14:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by cali_baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, buddy. She is taken. No matter what you say, it will not work out as you hoped. It usually will go badly for you. Trust me, been there, done that.
You have to go on with your life. The right girl will come to you. Don't chase after them looking for the right girl.
I was a nobody in school. I met, dated, and married, a model. Now who is laughing?
2006-10-15 14:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you think she is beautiful, smart, funny, and you love her smile, and really enjoy spending time with her. Then, tell her that her boyfriend is a really lucky guy.
2006-10-15 14:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by Nani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what grade are you in? cause im in 10th grade and me and my boyfriend had been datin for a year now and even though were young we still wrote notes to each other.... to me your never to young to fall in love because you cant help your feelings..... i would just telll her how you feel and if she doesnt like you then just move on
2006-10-15 14:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by courtney5839 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing to do is wait until she gets rid of her boyfriend, be the shoulder to cry on, be the friend, she'll come around. if you tell her now things might get awkward
2006-10-15 14:53:07 · answer #7 · answered by cubsfan5289 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her just what you told us, even if she turns you down you'll feel better knowing you asked her about it. instead of wondering later why you never took the chance to.
2006-10-15 14:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by my101201cutiepie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i will say is... try not to make this a regret w/ your decision.
and in the future... apply this quote to yourself:
"i may not have gone where i intended to go, but i think i ended up where i intended to be." -douglas noel adams
2006-10-15 14:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by indecisive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, how else are you ever gonna know. Grow some balls, and go tell her!
2006-10-15 14:48:26 · answer #10 · answered by sparky_butt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋