Okay so I have been dating my girlfriend now for almost ten months. And this is the thing. I am confident that I am a good boyfrined cause I do almost anything for her if she wants something to eat or just needs my help I do it.. I am still messaging her when she is tired from work or whatnot. But this is the thing she wants to hang out at other guys houses to study. I mean its cool but, I dont know who these guys are and where they live. And I just dont think it is a good idea. Is there something wrong with me for being like that? I just think that maybe I am the one that is not thinking right.. but I feel like I am the third wheel when she wants to do those things. And when she calls other guys I mean I feel like I am doing something wrong and not pleasing her.. what do I do? Your help is greatly appreciated.
2006-10-15 14:45:04 · 9 answers · asked by Stevo bae 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay so I have been dating my girlfriend now for almost ten months. And this is the thing. I am confident that I am a good boyfrined cause I do almost anything for her if she wants something to eat or just needs my help I do it.. I am still messaging her when she is tired from work or whatnot. But this is the thing she wants to hang out at other guys houses to study. I mean its cool but, I dont know who these guys are and where they live. And I just dont think it is a good idea. Is there something wrong with me for being like that? I just think that maybe I am the one that is not thinking right.. but I feel like I am the third wheel when she wants to do those things. And when she calls other guys I mean I feel like I am doing something wrong and not pleasing her.. what do I do? Your help is greatly appreciated.
2006-10-15 15:06:27 · update #1
sorry about the add.. idk how this works but, I guess what do I do when she hangs out with other guys ? I mean I have lost all my other friends- girls....
2006-10-15 15:07:51 · update #2
let her go to other guys houses. just try to find out if she actually studiedand drive her there sometimes so you know where they live. she is allowed to be friends with other guys,same withyou and other girls. your not doin things wrong. let her go there and then she will understand that you will allow her to have a life. but ask her out i bit more, so she thinks about you a lot.
2006-10-15 14:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by Randy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the first question you should ask yourself is: Do you trust her? Next, Is she capable of having platonic relationships with other guys? Has she ever given you a reason to think she would cheat?
There aren't a lot of women who think smothering/stalking/controlling them is sexy, however, a lot of women find self-confidence very sexy.
Bottom line - don't worry about it - you sound like you're still in High School and if she breaks up w/ you - go out and find someone else. If you can't trust her now - you never will - and... if she does cheat on you - you're better off w/o her.
2006-10-15 21:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two opinions to this, both going two ways. First, I don't think she should going to other guys houses alone. I just doesn't seem right with having a boyfriend.. well you. But on the other hand, I think you should trust her because that's what relationships are based on- trust. Maybe even tell her what it's doing to you and your feelings on the subject.
2006-10-15 21:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by Oh! Gravity. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is normal. you have feeling and your in love with your girlfriend. Why don't you and her and her friend to go out for a movie or dinner or lunch and you can meet them. if you trust her she will be ok. But you don't want you feeling to get to you too bad and tell her how you feel just so you know and looks like this is for school. But I think you'll be find. Remember this is normal and most people are like this.
2006-10-15 21:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by lucille692003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she still has the needs to hang out with other guys and making "you" be the third wheel, then its possible she might still be looking round. but don't get dicouraged and run out and dump her, alot of women look round with roaming eyes, just to compare and take in to bring up to you later of why don't you do that the way he does for his G/F. but t hen again being the third wheel isn't where you wanna be.
2006-10-15 21:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being paranoid. if she loves you then there's nothing to be worried about. just be careful and don't push her away because you are feeling inadequate.
2006-10-15 21:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by Quociana L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think to much into it you need to let her do what she wants when she is not with you, as long as shes not cheating on you
2006-10-15 21:49:08 · answer #7 · answered by cubsfan5289 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this girl is taking the p*ss
2006-10-15 21:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her she is using you
2006-10-15 21:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋