Is waiting till your married to have sex overated?

Question

if you've had sex, would you want to take it back and wait till your married?

should people have sex before their married or after.

pros and cons of having sex before or after?

Answer 1

I am not married and have had sex. I don't regret anything. This is a personal decision that you need to make for yourself. When you find the right person, you will know if that person is special enough to share that experience with. You should never be ashamed of any choice that you make.

Hearing other peoples pros and cons won't help you. Its a personal decision and should not be influenced by anyone. You will know what to do when the time comes to make this decision.

Answer 2

I can only speak for myself, but I believe that waiting until you're married is highly overrated. If I had to do it over again, I probably would not have had my first sexual experience with the man I did; we all have relationships where we said "What the hell was I thinking?!"

I have had some wonderful experiences with boyfriends / lovers that helped me grow as a person and as a sexual being. I don't regret those one bit.

I think the problem with premarital sex is that we've become so saturated with sex that we're really not discriminating in our choices, or are realistic about the possibility that we could endanger ourselves (physically and emotionally) because of our lack of judgment and discretion.

The pros of sex before marriage are the opportunities for learning and growth...especially learning about your own sexuality.

The cons are that if you don't educate yourself about birth control, reproduction, and have a healthy sense of yourself, it will just be a horrible experience-- but that could happen if you wait as well.

Answer 3

I'm 23 years old and still a virgin. I think that in today's society its smart to save yourself because frankly the fact of 1 and 5 people having genital Hermes should scare you into staying a virgin. I agree with the statement that God would want us to save ourselves but the sad fact is that most people don't wait that long and even the ones who do sometimes end up getting a divorce anyways to they don't wait. Trust me I feel your frustration, College is a VERY Hard place to find a guy that will not pressure you. I've be pressured before and I know that they aren't worth my time or my heart to give my 1 gift. I have to have faith that God will bring that one special guy into my life, that won't pressure me. I believe that you should be with someone you love and someone that will be there after it happens. Protect yourself and your heart.

Answer 4

If I could do it all again, I would wait. Sex is something I would love to enjoy with someone I truly love. I now understand why sex is for a married couple. I did not understand that when I was 16. You can truly enjoy sex when you are married and you do not have to worry about pregnancies and STDs.

Answer 5

I am pro-sex before marriage. Yes waiting is overrated. I think everyone should have sex before they are married. I also think they should have it with a few people...otherwise and individual could end up having strong urges to stray after being married for a while...just because they want to know what it would be like to be with other people.

Answer 6

it is the way God intended it to be. sex is a sacred gift from our Heavenly Father. it is not a toy. it is the power to pro-create. being married first, under the eyes of God, is the best way to start a marriage. because you will have Gods blessings.

many abuse, and think it is okay to have premarital sex. it is not. any christian would know that, if they read the bible and go to church like they should.

sex is after marriage, between a man and wife ONLY. those that deliberately abuse Gods gift/power of procreation, will pay dearly.

Answer 7

I think it's best to wait until you are pretty sure that this is the one... but frankly, it seems to me that if there is a LOT of attraction between the two of you.... enough to make you want to marry one another.... it might be very unlikely that the couple would have the ability to resist one another until the wedding night.


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Answer 8

This depends on age. If you are young and not ready to have a child and a permanent relationship with the child's other parent then it is better to wait. If the lady has been through menopause then don't worry about it.

Answer 9

Perhaps you should wait because it will make it all that more special and she will probably be more happy that you actually waited for her to see herself married to make her yours in body and soul.

Answer 10

I wouldn't wait, life is short,here today and gone tomorrow,enjoy the pleasure while you can if you are of age.Are you may never know what it's like.