I told an old college friend that I would be her bridesmaid. And Im kinda hurt by her because she never calls me. The only time we see each other is when I call her to meet up. I just feel stupid going out of my way and spending 200 dollars on someone I dont even feel close to. Her wedding is 2 weeks away. Should I call her and tell her I just cant afford it. Which is also true. Our house has been repoed and bill collectors keep calling me.
2006-10-15 14:36:55 · 44 answers · asked by FrustratedMomof2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yeah, you night as well. But, you shouldn't have waited until 2 weeks before her wedding...
2006-10-15 14:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by mrs.dennis.10.6.07 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would pick up the phone right now, and make that call. You have a lot going on right now, and $200 is a lot of money. It's a chunk to spend on a dress for 1 time anyway. Sweetie, you aren't real happy with the idea anyway, and this money could be spent on your family and your bills. I would rather you see you spend this money on groceries, and the light bill then, on a bridesmaid dress for a bride you don't see unless you make the effort.
Heck, if you have an extra $200, spend on it and the family. Go some where you want to go, and have a good time. Please don't let her guilt you into it. Saying the wedding is only 2 weeks away, just explain you have no choice. Unless, of course she wants to pay the $200.
Pick up the phone and go ahead make the call. I think you will feel a lot better afterwards. Dreading it I know, but I think you are right about how you are feeling. Did I hear a dail tone yet?
God bless us all...................
2006-10-15 14:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Brides are very busy. I remember one of my bridesmaids getting a little annoyed at me right before my wedding, too. She just has so many irons in the fire, and she's depending on each person to do their part.
What really does your repo house have to do with it?
I would think, at a time like this, you would not want to lose a friend.
My advice is... ride it out and don't spend $200. You can cut corners and it won't make that much difference. Spend only what you can afford. Some time after the wedding, talk to your friend and let her know that you would have spent more, if you could have, etc.
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2006-10-15 14:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just in a wedding 3 weeks ago, i had the same problem this girl that is my nabor, that i have known for about a year, we are not that close but she pretty much asked me b/c she has no friends i told her yes b/c i wanted to help her out, and she knew i could not afford it ,so she let all the bridesmaids get a dress any were they wanted to as long as it was around the same color as everyone else. I got my dress at a garage sale for 20.00 maybe you can ask her if you can do the same. But if your doing really bad finicaly right now tell her that it's not your fault things happen that we cant help. Just tell her the truth that's the best thing, it will get you a lot father in life.
2006-10-15 17:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by malinda v 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call her and tell her you dont wnt to be in it. Your main reason is you cant afford it if house has been repoed and you are infinancial trouble you should worry about that. Alot more goes into being a bridesmaid than just $200 for the dress. She should understand but if she dont than she was not your friend in the first place. Also if she is not getting in touch with you and you dont feel included than that right there tells me that she dont really care if you are in it or not. I would tell her very very soon though so she can make other arrangements. At least give her that time to get someone else. She will understand if she is your friend if you dont wait to long.
2006-10-15 14:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by sissy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you were going to back out- you missed your chance. It is too close to the date now- she is already stressed out about other things. You might want to think about this- you may not feel really close to her but if you back out of her wedding- you will not be friends anymore at all. Tell her if you can't afford it- one of my bridesmaids told me that she could not afford her dress and I bought it for her- I wanted her in my wedding and I knew that at some point, she will probably pay me back- maybe not in money but just by doing something nice when I really need it. Friends help each other out like that. Also, she may not have called you lately because she has had a lot on her mind about her wedding. Just stick it out- stand up in her wedding and talk to her in a few weeks and tell her that you want her to call you more... good luck
2006-10-15 14:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by lili 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I gave mine home made playing cards, despatched by technique of mail. at the front replaced right into a touch ugly 80's kind bridesmaid dress, contained in the cardboard suggested "Will you be my bridesmaid? I promise I received't make you position on an unsightly dress!"
2016-12-04 21:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by walko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to back out then back out... but honestly I think you should have told her right off the bat that you didn't want to be her bridesmaid... it's really not fair for you to tell her only 2 weeks from her wedding. You have known about the wedding for some time now. You should have told her from the start. If you need help paying for your dress then tell her that... if she truely wants you part of her wedding I'm sure she'll figure out a way to help you out.
2006-10-15 14:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah you should call her. I f your home just got repoed the last thing you need to do is spend an unnecessary amount of money on something as irresponsible as a bridesmaid dress and if she really wants you to be in the wedding she will buy it for you.
2006-10-15 18:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your a great friend yourself.... you couldn't have mention it sooner? You wait two weeks before the wedding and you didn't even buy the dress yet? And you need to understand that she is very busy if her wedding is two weeks away. I would talk to her after the wedding about your friendship but your not a nice person if you leave her hanging high and dry 2 weeks before the wedding.
Personally, I would be in the wedding and skip the gift if you can't afford it and get her a nice card. I am sure she will understand.
Then after the wedding- and after she gets back from the honeymoon talk to her about your feelings.
Don't ruin her wedding for your own selfish reasons.
2006-10-15 15:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being a bridesmaid for a friend, got to comes from the heart. There is no point in doing what you dun feel comfortable with. Anyway, the duty of a bridesmaid is to assist the bride from the start to the end and its a tedious task. I suggest you should opt out.
2006-10-15 14:42:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋