am having trouble understanding because i thought girls liked nice guys you know..
i really like this girl and she asked me if i drank or smoke, i said no, then she said that am a boring person, what is that all about.. am not the type of guy who likes to argue, i like to go to parties and i sometimes drink but i never get drunk, because i have responsabiities.. so what is the problem should i change?
2006-10-15 14:34:00 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why do you make a gross generalization based on your experience with one single girl?
2006-10-15 14:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is my opinion based on experience... I don't think quitting will help your chances... it really sounds to me that what he was saying is that he views you more as a buddy... not just cuz you can handle your weed (which I believe he does feel that you do, given what was said), but because he was just comfortable telling you what he likes and doesn't in girls. Now, I'm not saying he wouldn't try to make you into a f*ck buddy at some point, cuz he may, but I don't think he views you as a "girl girl", instead as more of a good buddy...more like "one of the guys". BUT... 2 good things... when you are young things like that can change in a heartbeat...also, that means you can handle yourself with dignity when stoned, which is a very admirable thing at a young age and will serve you well in other situations. I'm sorry if my answer bummed you out, but I've been in these exact sort of situations and I speak from experience. One thing I recommend is...don't settle for just being a f*ck buddy if he tries for that, IF you really want him as a bf. F*ck buddies, never, ever elevate in status to gf. If it turns that way, I'd either say you don't want to change your friendship that way at this time, OR tell him the truth... that you would like him as a bf and hope he sees the light.
2016-05-22 05:14:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO- don't change dog, I'm telling U from the other side of the tracks, I know first hand what it is like, I drink a little and I smoke a lot,(not cigs.) It's not U that's boring, it's the girl who is shallow and misdirected, I wish that I had not messed up my chances with the good girls, by wanting to do what seemed cool, not knowing that cool was taking care of my responsibilities and doing what was right, because now, all I have is a bunch of burnt out begging *** women around me. Now I long for a intelligent, respectful lady, but back then then I wanted them young dumb and ready to ***.
2006-10-15 14:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Probably because those particular women like guys who are equally or less intelligent than themselves. They seek out men who they can feel better than, or guys who they think they have to save from self destruction. A man who has self confidence and takes care of himself, may appear to those particular women, to not need anyone, or he might intimidate them, because those particular women have low self esteem. No you shouldn't change. Leave low/no class chicks alone. Take your time to find a woman who has similar qualities that are attractive to you. I don't necessarily mean expensive or high maintenance either. Don't waste your time in bars, parties, clubs or malls looking for them. Don't mess with one who is married or is in a relationship with someone else either. Be selective, otherwise you'll wind up settling for less. Try church, a place of culture, or a place of your interest. I would be weary of on line hookups also!
2006-10-15 15:00:48 · answer #4 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Osito, you should be specific and say .. i know a girl that like guys that smoke, drink and get high.. not all girls. What kind of girl could like a guy that get high ?. A crazy one !. And she says that if you are not in that move you are boring boy .. tell her good-bye my love. well, but at least i hope you drink some beers once in a while .. don't you ?.... if not .. then you are a little bit boring ... un poquitico..
2006-10-15 14:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by NA 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't like dumb guys who smoke, drink, or get high.
One, that's stupid. Two, it's destructive to their bodies. Three, I like to hold intelligent and complicated conversations on a variety of topics.
You aren't boring, but you are intelligent. I'd tell this girl to get a life. You've got too much going for you to throw it away for something like that.
2006-10-15 14:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by di'Taykan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
GIrls don't like nice guys - girls like fun guys. You can be fun without doing stuff that is harmful, but you can't be fun if you're a stick in the mud. If you spend a lot of time whining "Why not me?" you can't be much fun. Get a hobby, learn some jokes, teach yourself how to juggle, watch old Cary Grant movies - learn to be FUN and you won't be able to keep the women off!
And don't appear desperate - it's like the "anti-date" odor.
2006-10-15 14:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by Michael F 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some girls dont like that. i like guys that are smart, quick witted and reliable,nit the type of guys that do anytype of drugs or drink. its a good thing you dont. it just means that u have a lot more to offer, a higher expectation in which u see yourself as a person. and thats a good thing! dont change, its better to be someone that u are than trying to be somone your not. if other girls dont like it than they can screw off. u can find girls that are worth your time.
hope i helped,
hazelgrl_15
2006-10-15 14:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by Scarlet5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T CHANGE. You sound like a great guy and she is going to screw up her life dating guys that get high and drunk and all that stupid stuff.
You should get somebody that you can understand. Believe me there are plenty of people out there. Some people are just plain stupid.
2006-10-15 14:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by Selina F 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DONT CHANGE!! the good women do like nice guys. trust me. my boyfriend is a very nice guy. i alwas like the nice ones. just because some women dont, doesnt mean that everyone does. trust me...shes not right (or even near right) for you if she wont go out with you because you dont smoke or drink excessively
2006-10-15 14:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by cali_baby 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because those guys are usually the aggressors, and girls get attached to guys who go after them. The bad guys make them feel wanted, even when they're just being used.
2006-10-15 14:37:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋