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I've fallen for a woman who's been divorced (5+ years) and has two kids. She has her own business and kids with not much time to spend with me except on the weekend. She's pretty independent. How do I charm her? Flowers to her work just randomly?

2006-10-15 14:32:03 · 12 answers · asked by Blue_Falcon 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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You'll have to do a little more than flowers to catch her attention. Since she's independent you'll have to show her the ways in which she would need you. Get to know her, find out what she would like to do the most, what is important to her, but she doesn't have time for. Offer to assist her in what she's already doing. The important thing is to take an interest in her, not in ways to charm her. Taking an interest in someone is charming in and of itself.

2006-10-15 14:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by ICanCan 2 · 1 1

Ask her where she'd like to go sometime. Let her make the plans while you pay the bills. My girlfriend actually insists on paying about half the time. Some women just don't like to have everything provided all the time. The most important type of support you can give her is emotional. Let her know with your words that you're there for her. Don't do it with flowers or a card. Make the words your own. Look her in the eye and tell her.

2006-10-15 14:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by iuneedscoachknight 4 · 1 0

yes flower sent to her work for no other reason than you want to show her how much you care, that is very sweet and it always makes me feel special. I think she's already got the independent thing down, so you dont have to worry about makn her feel independent, but if you want her to feel taken care of then cook her dinners, do the lil things like take out her trash y you are at her house and do the dishes after dinner, rub her feet, cute stuff like that will make her feel good, the little things are what really matters.

2006-10-15 14:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1 0

She's not any different than any other woman. Lots of attention and sincere compliments and be nice to her kids cause it's a package deal. Take the time to find out what's important to her as an individual.

2006-10-15 14:37:39 · answer #4 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 1 0

LOL.... From personal experience that's going to be a hard cookie to crumble. An independent woman knows exactly what she wants and knows how to get it. Buy her a rose, call her from work. Them are the things she needs most in her life.

2006-10-15 14:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0 0

Just spend time with her whenever she wants to (provided you also have the time). Sending flowers to her office will only be sweet once. After that, it'd probably be really annoying. As for the kids, be as nice to them as possible — she'll love that.

2006-10-15 17:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

shes like me i can pay my bills - i love my self - but i want a man to love me - and hold me - and take me to dinner - hold the door or open my door first before you even get n the car - shes probally more sentimental than some woman poetry - things that she can remeber more than she can hold - my boyfriend bought me a loius vitton purse and i luv it but id trade it in if i could spend more time with him- and yeah you know you got to get along with the kids - but like i said - make her feel loved and secure in your arms- and yeah occasionaly gifts are nice - but thats not gonna keep me warm at night - i want my man fuhk anything else - i want a man to fix things around the house - cut my grass - water my plants - maybe cook for me once in a while because you know i worked all day - dont take me out to eat all the time- thats where your spending money i want your time - good luck if you really feelin her

2006-10-15 17:11:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Hire a babysitter to watch her kids and send her tickets to something (ballet, a band, whatever ) with the flowers.

2006-10-15 14:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

Just be yourself. Do the small things for her. You don't have to be flashy. Let her know your there for her when she needs you but smother her if she shows her Independence.

2006-10-15 14:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by hydroco 3 · 1 0

hm..
independent and taken care of..
aren't those mutually exclusive?
well,
you could buy a life insurance policy on yourself making her the beneficiary then hope the insurance company would pay, and wait till you died?
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2006-10-15 14:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by DM 4 · 0 0

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