I was with a guy for about 15 months. I truly thought he was the one. He was pursuing an advanced degree and would cancel most plans with me to study or would have "emergencies" with his mother and couldn't make it. I tried to be supportive, but he would stand me up without consideration. He just didn't understand why I was so hurt all the time. I never gave him an ultimatum and tried to compromise, but he wouldn't bend. I broke it off 5 months ago because I was tired of always coming last in his life. We stay in contact via senseless email forwards. He has made no attempt to reconnect otherwise. We are both dating again via a online dating service. My problem is I can't get him out of my head. I still love him and want so badly to have him back in my life. I know our relationship could have been good if he would have just compromised with me. I still don't know if he would be willing, but life is short and I want to ask if he will consider working things out. Any advice?
2006-10-15 14:24:15 · 8 answers · asked by lolabellaquin 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my humble opinion this guy has already shown you that you are not a priority in his life. It takes time to get someone out of our heads/hearts. If all your communication has been email forwarding, then I cant believe that he is willing to work things out.
2006-10-15 14:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play everything cool. I feel bad saying it sound as if your a very good team player. He's out there dating and havin a nice time, and your sulking over a guy not worth your time or energy. Keep your cool and enjoy his company, then cut it short and tell him you have plans to meet up with friends, and ask him if wants to join. If he say yes, then go out, your friends may or may not be. At least your not in the house feelin akward. Basically leave him alone ma.
2006-10-15 21:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by Hot one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOOO! Your first instincts were the right instincts. You don't really want to be a doormat do you? I had a boyfriend just like this once. He always put his job first. Finally, when he showed up late for my birthday!--I was so mad, I ripped his shirt! I couldn't believe I could get so mad. I moved on, and really, it wasn't that long before I found several great guys to date. It took me several years to find one good enough to marry. The world is full of wonderful men...keep looking til you are satisfied. good luck
2006-10-15 21:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by E L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really really want him back...speak to him. Tell him that you are still in love with him and want him back but...you have to be firm and say that if you got back together things would have to change. You can't come last in his life and he has to respect you enough to understand that. If he isn't willing to change then you have to say that you want him back but not enough to be treated that way.
2006-10-15 21:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by Ling-Ling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just not that into you.
What makes you think he would not treat you the same way as before. You deserve better.
BTW do you really think he had to study? or be with his mom?
2006-10-15 21:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree.....leave him alone. Let him see what he's missing.
2006-10-15 21:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by bonbon7350 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No leave him alone
2006-10-15 21:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
exes are exes for a reason.
2006-10-15 21:26:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋