For the first time in months, I messaged him on aol. I told him it still hurts. When I got off of work, he left me a message saying I know what you mean. We talked. About missing each other. Even if it is a mistake, I told him how much I missed him. He said, "I have to see you. For five minutes, I don't care." He'll be here in about ten minutes. Hurry, what the hell do I do? Am I setting myself up for heartache? Kiss him or don't? Hug him, tell him everything I've wanting to tell him, or no?
2006-10-15 14:24:14 · 21 answers · asked by cree siempre 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, you need to calm down. Play it cool with him, talk casually. I would hug him, it couldn't hurt, besides, you may realize that you don't feel the same as you did before. I wouldn't let it go much further. You need to take it slow with him and see where his intentions are. Wait to tell him everything. Let him do a lot of the talking and then you 'll be able to see what he wants. Sometimes guys tell you things and don't realize it.
He is an ex for a reason though, you need to be careful.
2006-10-15 14:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by country girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Telling him everything you want to tell him is a good thing. You will feel better after you do and no matter what happens don't have any regrets. You told him how you feel or did feel. Everyone deserves a second change and everyone makes mistakes. Take it slow. Don't hook up with him. Find out if hes changed. Have meaningful conversations. Determine whether you really love him or not and take a few days to decide what you really feel.
Hug him!
Even if you set yourself up for a heartache......would you rather be able to say that you did everything you could.....if it was meant to be its meant to be if not....then it will take awhile to move on....
Don't let this be a booty call. Then you will really be setting yourself up.....
Good Luck!
2006-10-15 14:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get back into that cycle with him. He hurt you, and he could do it again. Don't kiss him for crying out loud!
I know it's tough. When you stop having contact with someone you love, even though you know it's for the best, you will have moments of weakness. But with every day it should get better. Time is needed in this situation, not seeing each other even for 5 minutes! If after more time goes by it's right, then go for it.
What am I saying, you're probably kissing him now or maybe even more! Stop! Stop kissing him and read your yahoo questions and answers! Send him home! Make him prove his love for you.... hello? hello??
2006-10-15 14:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you a glutton for punishment? You had an opportunity to get over him & move on, & you blew it!
Now that he's hurt you, you've called him up, & basically let him know that it's perfectly alright if he comes over & does it again.
You are speeding down a road that you have already learned is dangerous.
If you are sooooo determined to take him back then for crying out loud SLOW DOWN!
He's on his way over so be polite & use this chance to get some closure on past issues, but treat him with more caution than a stranger, because you already know where this can take you.
Good Luck!
2006-10-15 14:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it cool, whatever you do don't cry. Some guys find it ego-boosting that they would mean sooo much to someone. If he's the one then give him another chance but take it slow and see what he really wants, is he just confused or did he make a mistake? Act casual, don't invite him in, go out someplace you don't feel inclined to fall back into old territory. Nothing would be worse than opening old wounds just to find out it was a booty call..
Ohh..to be young again..
2006-10-15 14:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by Dick Tater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you have to ask yourself why was your heart broken in the beginning? I feel like once your heart is broken one time by someone it is possible that it will happen again. I think you just need to take your time about this. Don't be so quit to jump back into things. Stay away from the intimacy right now until you know his intentions. In other words, just be cool.
2006-10-15 14:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by Pretty Lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he already hurt u then don't hug or kiss or anything just say hi come in... Don't talk about anything personal with him... He will break ur heart again if u do go out again....
2006-10-15 14:26:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do---DO NOT sleep with him. If you want to talk, fine. If you want to talk about starting over, fine. But if he tries to make a move on you sexually--run for the hills. If he cares and wants to start over, then he'll be willing to wait.
2006-10-15 14:27:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jess H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't gush right away. take the lead from him. if he's all huggy and sincere, you can be. but if it seems like he's just back for a booty call or he's reserved, don't spill all your emotions while he coldly backs closer to the door. but i bet he'll be warm and open. be a bit cautious.....but let your heart decide. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-15 14:27:57 · answer #9 · answered by Hot Lips 4077 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him everything you need to. I am going through the SAME thing and he is waiting for me to let him know when I will see him again!
I agree with the others, don't let it be a booty call (unless you're okay with that).
Please let us know how it went. I will be sitting here waiting.
....waiting......waiting...
2006-10-15 14:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by mickeyg1958 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋