how do you get your husband/partner to help you in the house?

Question

or with your baby or cooking or cleaning or even doing the few dishes in the sink or even picking up things?

first year marriage
4month baby and university

Answer 1

Ask him nicely. My wife and I help each other with chores all the time.

Answer 2

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how do you get your husband/partner to help you in the house?

how do u get ur husband to understand what u want is imp?

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I see a husband who does not consider his wife, who has no sexual desire, and expects to be served.

The first clause prior to " to death do us part" is "to love, honor, and cherish." On that is based the lifelong committment when you say your vows.

You can't "get your husband" to do anything. He's a grown man and apparently has made his decisons.

When you speak to him speak with respect. Respond to what he has to say, not react. Think about what it is you want to say, take a breath, and calmly and respectfully, say it. This teaches respect. This is as much as you are going to be able to manipulate his behaviors. If he speaks to you with disrespect, then you can say," Husband, I do not speak to you like that....why would you speak t me that way?"

Limit conversation to "Hello." Do not bring up subjects that bring on misery. You can't make him do anything anyway, remember. Fight the battles you can win: take care of the baby, pull good grades, maintain your home as much as you can and let the rest slide. Let him do his own laundry for now. Buy paper plates. Get some rest.

Now is not the time to make lifechanging decisions. Next year, when the baby is bigger you can start exploring the permanence of your marraige. For now, do what you need to do and rest.

Continue to lay the foundation for your independence. Learn to make responsible decisions. Advise yourself as if you were your dearest friend and follow through. Find your path.

I know you are hurt, dear. Do let this emotional turmoil go. It will be what it will be. Take today. Do it well. Let everything except your home and your child and your studies go......Take your vitamins, have a physical....Prevent another pregnancy....try to preserve the financial consistency for now. Find your path. Follow through.

Answer 3

easy don't wash his clothes or cook him dinner and leave the baby with him all day and say to him when i get home it would like dinner cooked and the house cleaned
If he complains how hard it was when you get back tell that is what you need on days and maybe he might like to help you out
if that doesn't work do what i did and i really works
any clothes on the floor and they went in the bin
if the dog didn't get feed neither did he
etc...

Answer 4

The Daddy takes on Mommy roles. It is simply beautiful that two people can share the responsibilities in the house. Mutually they both will have a very long lasting relationship when they both can work together in that aspect.

Answer 5

Stop doing the chores. Inform him that you are going on strike for a week. He needs to hire a babysitter, and take care of the house and the meals. If he sees what you have to deal with everyday, maybe he will be a little more suportive.

Answer 6

Let him know. When I want my boyfriend to help around, I just tell him, "Can you wash those dishes? Can you feed the baby? Can you sweep the floor?" etc.. you get the picture. He never tells me no and sometimes does things without having to be asked.

If you can't get him to do it on his own, the next best thing to do is ask.

Answer 7

I didn't try, to get her to help, I just did it.
I did the house work, the yard work and more than have the finacial work too, raised my daughter by myself as well.
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looks like she couldn't stand that, got a divorce and FINALLY left.
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and who sez good things don't happen?
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Answer 8

let me know when you find out Ive been with my partner 10 yrs we have 2 kids aged 2 and 5 he doesn't help at all men are lazy

Answer 9

You need to ask for help from him. Or don't do everything... especially the thing he will notice first. You cannot do EVERYTHING.. and if he asks tell him I cant right now do you think you can do it?.. just wait till he runs out of underwear..

Answer 10

Make him watch Wife Swap on TV!