Almost every time I start dating a guy he tells me this thing that I still cannot understand but that 'm really curious about:
"You know the other day when we were at (....) , if I wanted to, I could've raped you.. I could've locked the doors (car doors or bedroom door etc.. ) and could've done watever on my mind..
Ps they were all solid relationships afterwards and those guys were all ready to wait for a for sex and knew that I'll only have sex after marriage..
Thanks for explaining this to me
2006-10-15 14:04:10 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Never married any.. in other words I have been with them for like 2 yeard with each with no sex and they never cheated... I'm lucky :)
2006-10-15 14:07:30 · update #1
I don't know you, but the guys you date sound a little messed up.
2006-10-15 14:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by nowayman72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that the guy is using the word "rape" to mean an act of violent sex... I think he just means that he finds you particularly attractive and find the "waiting" extremely difficult.
By the way... you said above "Bedroom" doors. Here's the thing: I think it is admirable that you have the value system that says you will wait for marriage for sex. BUT if this is your position on the subject, you should not be having men in your bedroom. If you are teasing guys by putting them in situations where they think you may "change your mind" and then not... then you are a very mean person.
Not saying that you are.. .just saying "IF" you are...
2006-10-15 14:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by keysfunding 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like these guys are trying to warn you that you are too trusting, and you might want to inspect your wardrobe. Ever thought that maybe the clothes that you wear are too revealing and send the wrong message to the wrong person? Just because you've made the decision to wait until after marriage to have sex, doesn't mean that your actions (or your clothing) present that message.
2006-10-15 14:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
..... well first off, what the ****, second off, ok, i dont know where you are finding these guys, but hppefully aftr they have all said this, you gave up on that bar you were pulling them out of, its good to avoid bars that have sings that say "free drinks for rapists after 10PM" and things like that. but in all seriousness, its probobly because you are firm on not having sex with them, and they dont like that, so they wanna tell you how good they are, but explaining that they could have had their way with you, but didnt, so they want you to screw them now, because they didnt rape you.... this is a guys mind, good luck with dating, and for gods sake, change your pick up line or something...
2006-10-15 14:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by billy a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I can explain it other than to say "What kind of guys are you dating?" They sound like they have some twisted virgin rape fantasy.
You need to meet some different guys, or figure out what you continue to attract weird ones. This isn't normal.
2006-10-15 14:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never heard that before, but it sounds like they were just trying to get you in the sac, even though they were willing to wait.
2006-10-15 14:07:48 · answer #6 · answered by GR8 ONE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've just been unlucky enough to date a bunch of sick minded pervs. try dating a different type, or get to know that person better before you make your decision. this way you can be shure he won't be like the rest of them.
2006-10-15 14:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by Plague92 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously do not go with any of those guys anymore that is just kind of physcho someone telling you that. They maybe think of doing that and they are just trying to get your confidence
2006-10-15 14:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause theyre morons with no class who were trying to let you know, without tact, that they think youre hot. it was a really really really feeble way of telling you "hey! i wanna have sex with you!"... any woman with half a brain would see the insult in this, as it indicates that you would be powerless against their advances and incapable of defending yourself *shrug*
men are so stoopid...
2006-10-15 14:08:18 · answer #9 · answered by sunsic_swa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need nothing to be explained. you have it all in writing. as for moral support -- guys tell all kind of fantasies. they are just that fun-t-Asia...so take it with a grain of salt and deal with them in a mature way. good luck -- although you sound strong and on your two feet.
2006-10-15 14:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by s t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋