im 7 weeks pregnant with my second child and my husband and i havent told our 20 month old that mommy is having a baby. i just wanted some ideas on when and how to prepare her for the new baby. any advice would be appreciated! Thank you!
2006-10-15 14:01:34 · 11 answers · asked by llllll_amanda_lllllll 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My kids are the same difference apart. I didn't really say anything until I started to show. There's lots of books out there to read to your oldest about Mommy having a baby. Involve your child in preparing the nursery, take her to prenatal appointments, make her a part of the process once she understands she's getting sibling. My eldest loved going with me to doctor appointments and using the stethoscope to hear the baby's heart and measuring my stomach with a tape measure. He'd come home and measure my tummy twenty times a day. Have your husband start spending more one on one time with your daugther so that she's used to mommy being focused on a new baby and totally comfortable with Daddy only time. Get her a really special doll when you bring the baby home so you can both parent your new babies together. When the baby arrives, just involve her as much as possible either through having her help you with the new baby or having her mirror your behavior with her special new doll.
Good luck! It wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. I say that looking back now. It kind of sucked going through it, but honestly it wasn't that bad having two fairly close together and now that they are 2 1/2and 4 1/2 they are such good buddies. It'll all work out. My most important advice is to nap as much as possible right now!
2006-10-15 14:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some really cute kid/baby books about mommy having a baby. They have a lot out there in stores. Read her a book every day and talk about how you have a baby in your stomach to and act very excited and get her to be happy also.
If you know anyone with a baby, I would let her be around the baby and baby even hold the baby while she is sitting down. Of course you will be partially holding the baby also. That will prepare her as well.
Your daughter is 20 months old, so she understands more than some people think. Just keep working with her and at each stage of your pregnancy, involve her. When the baby moves inside your stomach let her feel it.
When you get a print out of the baby in your stomach, make sure she see's it.
Make it fun and exciting so she wants the baby to come out.
2006-10-15 17:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by Tired-Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont take this wrong, but life could get difficult. But it is also wonderful. I had my Daughter when I was 19 and my son when I was 21. It was hard getting used to be a mom in the first place and then knowing that i was about to have number 2. I cried for about 2 weeks straight. Anyways after my son was born. Everything seemed to fall into place. My husband and I went through rough times and I also went through POst partum depression. But we managed to make it so far. My daughter is now 4 and my son is 3. There are the most precious gifts that I could have ever recieved. Times are still hard. But there is never a day that I regret having them. Everything will be fine. Be strong and enjoy your babies as much as possible. Because once you have this baby, you wont believe how fast time flies with having two babies running around.
2016-05-22 05:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit her down and just tell her that mommy and daddy are having another baby and isn't that great? make her a big part of the pregnancy. ask her is she would like to pick out a special toy or doll for her new little brother or sister. ask her what color blankies you should get. if you make her feel included, she will be more excited and a bit less resentful. give her a special little boy or girl doll that she can "practice" being a big sister with.
Good luck to you and hug to big sister!!!!!
2006-10-15 14:15:47 · answer #4 · answered by schmoopie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My middle son was 11 months old when I got pregnant, and we told him about it when I was about 6 months. We just talked about babies and how he could be a helper and how he would be a big brother. We just talked to him as we would talk to anyone, and he adjusted well. He was very excited to help out once the baby came, and sometimes too much!! He was good though, and it wasnt much of a adjustment.
2006-10-18 16:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by holly w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was 22 months when I had my second. He was really to young to understand. We didn't formally tell him, he noticed that mommy's tummy was getting bigger and that mommy was having a baby and he would have a sister or bother. After his sister was born we did have some fit throwing for a couple weeks because he did not feel he was getting enough attention.
2006-10-15 14:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would start by just talking about babies, ask her how she feels about them and if she would like to have a baby brother or sister. then after she lets that sit awhile tell her. you don't have to rush and tell her today you are only 7 weeks. tell her before your 1st dr. visit so she can get an idea of whats going on. when i got pregnant with my 2nd son my oldest was only 5months old, so i could not explain anything. then last july i got pregnant again { i only have 3 kids my sons were close, but 5 years between 2nd and last kids. } as soon as i found out i told them and they were happy. they went to my appointments with me, they went to the ultrasound with me when we found out it was a girl. then they were at the hosp. will i had her { in the waiting room.} she will love to be involved. and to help you get things ready. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!
2006-10-15 14:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by Mandy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My girls are 10 months apart. (Yeah needless to say my ob wasn't happy with me).Tell him/her that they are going to be the big cybling and they will have to help you take care of the baby. Children aren't as inclined to feel left out if you include them in things like talking or singing to your tummy when you start to show more before baby comes. But jealousy is part of it just try to give them equal attention or find ways to make him/her feel like a big help. Lots of praise and rewards help as well.
2006-10-15 14:26:14 · answer #8 · answered by locatorchic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids are 20 months apart, and we didn't tell our son anything until I started to show. He just couldn't grasp the concept that there was another baby in my tummy until he saw that something was going on. I wouldn't until then.
2006-10-15 14:04:44 · answer #9 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would tell your 20 month ould when you feel it is right... I told my daughter when we knew the sex of the baby. it was a positive experience for me and my husband.
2006-10-15 14:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by Britta A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋