GRR....ok so i'm 13 right now. my mom thinks the the perfect age for dating is 26. 13 more years to go, apparently. her logic is that 26 is the age i'll be when i finish my doctorate degree in grad school.
whoo hoo! so don't u think that's a LITTLE ridiculous? and yes, she's completely serious about it! no. dating. until. you. are. 26. get. it?
is there any way i can get her to let me date earlier?
or is she right?
2006-10-15 14:00:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, she's crazy if she thinks you're going to hold out until then. My prediction is you'll be sneaking around in the next year or two to see your boyfriend. Kids are very clever about that. Then you'll be off to college where she will have no control over you. I bet you'll be married before that magic 26 number because one Winter break you brought home the love of your life and she thought he was great and gave her blessing, and you lived happily ever after.
See if you can get some kind of hard data like a book or article or story about what you're going through with some expert opinions about the harm it may do to restrict kids from dating, or good guidelines for that. Did your mom get sidetracked in her life as a result of dating young (did she marry or have kids young and miss out on getting a complete education)? That may be the source of her worry. She may want the opposite of what happened to her for you. Are you a decent kid who wants to go to college? Might be time to talk to her seriously about her fears.
Parents worry about everything. We worry you'll date and fall in what you think is love and fool around when you're not ready and get both a broken heart and a disease. We worry that you'll fail to heed our advice about being safe, and get hurt, or pregnant, and have a situation on your hands that you can't handle. We'd all really like you to wait until you're 26, but realize that's not really possible or logical. Whatever you do, don't use the argument that one of your friends or all of them are dating. That will not work! You have to take an approach that is well thought out, and appeals to what she's worried about and considering. Don't roll your eyes and don't tell her she was never a kid and she doesn't understand. That will earn you 0 points.
2006-10-15 14:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom said that because she was a young girl once and knows what that big bad world is like out there. She loves you and does not want to see you hurt by it.
I really doubt that she will make you wait until you are 26. If you will show her that you are a mature teenager and make good decisions I am sure she will let you date earlier than that.
2006-10-15 21:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously? 26? As in, twenty plus six? Thirteen times two? TWENTY-F*UCKING-SIX?!
I say you can date whenever you want (after the age of 13) as long as you don't let it get in the way of your other priorities. If you really want that PhD, you shouldn't worry about dating too much. But remember this: By the time you start college, your mom won't have a say in your dating habits anymore.
2006-10-15 21:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but dont worry, my mom also used to say the exact same thing, i am 19 now and my first bf i had was when i was 15, at first she didnt accept it, but she did when i had my 2nd bf. You have to make your mom understand that once you are old, and im talking about 18 years old, you have to start making your own descicions, and a tip from me to you, dont talk to her about your relationships, dont get into details, they dont need to know that because if you tell them all the details, she wll start being in the middle of you two. Its not that your mom is being mean, she just wants to take good care of you. And she loves you, but she is blind and you will be old enough one day, that day only YOU will decide if you want to date or not. Not her.
2006-10-15 21:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by nadie entendia mi nick asi que lo cambie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, your mom don't really mean that because she knows that you are young right now and she is trying to protect you from the hurts that could be our there if you are not careful in your choice of person you start dating. Also, she is protecting HERSELF from seeing you hurt, in pain, or possibly having to KILL someone if they hurt her baby. Be a good teenager, that mean be trustworthy, respect yourself and others and watch your mother began to soften up. But she will NEVER change her mind about you dating until you are 26 (you are her pride and joy). Think about someone you love..you NEVER want to see them hurt and if someone messed with them you would fight for them. Save your mothers fight for something she REALLY needs to fight for. Be good to yourself and your mom (honestly, that's true love).
2006-10-15 21:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by Spleakie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... as long as you're living on her dime, you have to live by her rules. Act mature and responsibly, and she will (hopefully) treat you with the respect you deserve. In other words, come in when she says, keep your grades up, and she'll hopefully relax her rules after a while.
2006-10-15 21:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nah. I don't think it's a little ridiculous. *Very* ridiculous, maybe, but not a little. Besides, I don't think she has a say after your 18th b-day.
2006-10-15 21:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is soo wrong just date without her knowing
2006-10-15 21:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by baby girl 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋