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Question

I gave a girl a sonnet she said she wasn't interested and then i wrote her a letter thanking her for her reply or something like that. Anyway people here said that i would get over her but the problem is that all that happened a month back and i still blush when i am near her or sitting infront of her(don't tell me to change seats cause i cant) I haven't gotten over her. what should i do? Also about catching her in the halls is not possible. I only see her in class. Also my accent is a little difficult to get, is she thinking that I'm some freaky immigrant? please leave an answer

Miss ________,
Thank you for your answer. I'm sorry for springing such an issue upon you without warning. That much is my fault. But the brusque way in which you handled the whole thing is your fault in all entirity. I mean how hard is it to say no. Althought you intentions were clear from the very outset. You could have, in everyday language, "let me down easy" instead of leaving me hanging for a week. So as a note for the future let people know in a more clearer manner.
I will conclude by saying that I hold no grudge or bitterness for you in my heart and wish you luck in all your future endeavors.
Your's Sincerely
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This is the letter I wrote to her after she sent me a note that she wasn't interested

Answer 1

WOW!!! Just forget about her, because if she isn't interested in you, you are wasting your time. As hard as it may seem you have to move on!!!! Good luck!!!!

Answer 2

Stop feeling embarrased. Any young lady who receives a sonnet from a young man would be flattered. She may not be interested in you for many reasons such as cultural, an existing boyfriend, or her family may not allow her to date. Nobody thinks that immigrants are freaky. After all the majority of people in this country had ancestors who came from another part of the world. Stop being so hard on yourself and realize that if we didn't take chances we would never have a chance for emotional growth.

Answer 3

I think your letter is great. Sometimes its a good thing to let someone know of etiquette. We do fail so much these days in these manners of love for proper etiquette. I hope she will reflect. It's a difficult thing to decide sometimes, whether or not to answer someone because the nicer a person is to you to tell you that they are not interested, it's possible that its more difficult to get over them. Your english looks very good in writing...I doubt its your accent. She probably has someone else in mind and is focused on that person. Dont take it too personally. Next time youre interested n a gal, find out if she's interested in someone...it may save you from becoming too attached and start writing sonnets. ;) Peace!

Answer 4

you must really really like her. immigrants are not freaky...well maybe a few. my husband is an immigrant, and he is a major freak! just kidding. his accent is very difficult. i have to focus on his mouth and have him repeat himself a thousand times. he has a sexy accent. he is from india. he makes me laugh.

babe, just be yourself. if she cannot accept you for you, move on. love sucks, yes. i waited for my true love all my life. first marriage was horrible. hated men, hated love. i gave up. but this man, barely speaking english, would not leave me alone for a good year. annoying as heck.

he taught me patience, and the true meaning of love.

if you love her, and your english is hard to understand. try other ways to communicate. love has many languages. dont beat up on yourself because you are an immigrant. this country was built by immigrants.

pace yourself. relax. dont be in such a rush. buy some books that are on cassette tapes, learn english as best as you can. i know classes are expensive, and you can only take so many at a time.

public libraries have books on cassette tapes. listen to them. also, public libraries have those hooked on phonics book and tapes. you have options, use them.

if you reall really like her, dont let her go. just dont be to overwhelming. slow down, you are in school for a good 7 months. you will see her often.

find some poetry in the library at school, copy them and give them to her. i dont know, i am brain storming here.

just relax, and have fun. you can do it. keep the faith, and get some books with cassettes.

good luck

Answer 5

wow, you sound like a real gentleman. It will take time to get used to her and maybe you gave her the sonnet way too soon. maybe your sonnet was a bit too strong, I cant judge if I dont see it. Give it some time, if you still feel strongly for her, then you could give it another try but this time try to follow her culture a bit. And DONT lose that accent. accents are supposed to be a turn on.

Answer 6

Women are not attracted to desperate men!!!
If you want to have any luck with women in the future, don't behave this way. Obviously it is a very difficult situation when somebody likes you, but you don't like them in return. She was trying to let you down without hurting your feelings. Men do this all the time too, women are not the only ones who are guilty. When they say they are going to call, then don't, it means they are not interested. It is stupid and desperate to write them a note similar to yours and complain about it. It is best to let it go and move on.

Marci P is right. I am so SICK of men that refuse to listen to me when I say "I DON'T WANT TO DATE YOU! I DON'T WANT TO SEE YOU!"

LEAVE HER ALONE!!!

Chasing after a girl who is not interested in you will only cause her to dislike you even more!!!! Then she will tell her friends what a creep/stalker you are!!

Answer 7

I know this is not what you want to hear but your syptoms definitely sound like Bipolar. I say this based on experience, not because I think I can diagnose you. That is no way to live your life. You deserve better. Please talk to a doctor and explain your concerns. There are wonderful, effective medicines out there. I would speak to the doctor about both an antidepressant and a mood stabilizer. If you have any questions message me. :)

Answer 8

I don't think you're hard to get at all, you are just plain rude! If she was even considering going out with you, after that letter you wrote her she most certainly would never give you a chance. You were beyond rude in that letter, I think you blush when you see her because of embarrassment, not because of a crush!

Answer 9

You need to remember that she said she's not interested. Making any contact with her will not make her change her opinion of you. Respect her enough to avoid her as much as possible. She will only think of you as some "freaky immigrant" if you don't get a hold of yourself.

It was a MONTH ago. You need to get some distance between you.

Answer 10

Most females can feel overwhelmed when a male comes on to them, especially males that they don't know very well. You aren't going to get over her immediately. Give it time. Try and be her friend and engage yourself in activities with your friends that are time consuming. The busier you are, the less time you will spend thinking about her.

Answer 11

Um, just get over it. Stop blaming her for turning you down, she has the right to do so. Go out with some of your friends, spend time pursuing you goals, become even better than the day you were turned down, stronger, faster, smarter, more brilliant, and you will be ok, I promise.