My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years, and about a month ago I found out I was pregnant. I went to the obgyn a couple of days ago, and found out that I might have a miscarriage. He hasn't been answering any of my calls since I told him, and when I showed up to talk to him in person he said "What's wrong? You can't fake being pregnant anymore?" I was so offended that he would even THINK of saying something like that, and I pulled out my paperwork and showed him. After he looked it over he told me he had other stuff to do so he had to go. I told him I really needed to spend some time with him, and that I needed his support. He responded with "I know this must be hard for you, but I have to go." He left me bawling on the street. What should I do?
2006-10-15 13:43:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I should add that he's never treated me like this in the past. Could this just be his way of dealing with it?
2006-10-15 13:49:27 · update #1
I am not leaving anything out. We've never had any real problems. He was shocked about the pregnancy, but he was never negative to me about it until now.
2006-10-15 13:51:07 · update #2
in a situation like this really what can you do, you've tried explaining yourself to him...and he brushed you off...there could be many reason he's acting like this...i hate to say that there may be someone else in the picture...but he's really acting strange....but all the way back to the whole pregnancy thing....do you think there's a possibity that someone may have told him that you were faking a pregnancy?? do you get along with his family and friends?? cause usually when a guy is questioning a pregnancy sometimes others may play a part in it... and i strongly think that someone told him that you were faking a pregnancy...i dont know but it's all not adding up, but if i were you i would get down to the bottom of it....i wouldnt let him play anymore mind games with me....you need to ask him whats going on...because he is avoiding you for a reason, so find out what it is...it may be a possibilty that someone has been talking bad about you, but if he keeps up this strange behavior....i would cut off all ties with him...treat him...like he's been treating you then maybe he'll wake up, if not why should you care....cause he don't.
2006-10-15 14:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man sounds like an a**! Sorry to hear that you might be able to have a miscarriage, that's just awful. I'm not sure thou on how you might have a miscarriage. I think I would take a look at how he is showing his true colors at this time of need for you....and him. Just back off and he'll probley realize everything and if he don't then you need to go solo...I'm sure someone can help you..Good luck...L.
2006-10-15 13:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by ben and lisa h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk. Ask yourself if you really want him as your babies father because if you do, then that's what you're going to have to put up with for the next 20 years. You know, a lot of women have been single parents. It's tough at times (my mom was one) but she said she would do it all over again if she had to.
2006-10-15 13:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by Helloooo Nurse! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the baby, you'll need to serve him with child support papers. It'll be ulgy, because he's not in to having a child. Too bad, because he fathered one. I hate to say this, but a miscarriage might be a blessing, and a lesson learned.
2006-10-15 13:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, he seems to be pretty angry with you. . . seems like your not telling the entire story??? Might you be leaving anything out? W\hat would make him think that you are faking it? Have you done that before? Was he initially happy about the pregnancy?
2006-10-15 13:49:17 · answer #5 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 08:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an azzh0l*
Kick him to the curb!!!
You deserve better. You must have very low self esteem to tolerate his behaviour. I think it would be good for you to talk to a counselor about your situation to help you through this. Your boyfriend is a useless turd.
2006-10-15 13:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by funandsun20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try telling him when he is not bussy. you can mke an appoment with him with out him knowing the when he uses the excuse i have an apponment with a client you can say with the persons name that you dicissed as.
2006-10-15 13:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him u need him right now and if he is not going to b there 4 u then f*** him hes not worth it and o about the being fake thats bulls*** and u need to tell him that
2006-10-15 13:47:49 · answer #9 · answered by monkyz_r_pimp_59 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gosh wouldnt that be sad if you cant get your child support from this guy better luck on the next sap
2006-10-15 13:48:35 · answer #10 · answered by mustang_silverado 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋