Lately my boyfriend has been throwing around the idea of us getting our own place. Weve been together for a little over a year. Is it a good thing to do?
2006-10-15 13:38:19 · 28 answers · asked by Diana 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No its not a bad idea. Just follow your heart, a womans intuition mostly never steers us wrong. Society tells us we should be married first but I disagree. You have a chance to really get to know this guy, things about him he wouldnt normally show when youre living in separate places. You'll get more insight on whether you want to make this man a permanet partner by marrying him. If the two of you are totally committed to each other, I'd say go for it. Live life and enjoy. Good luck and many blessings on your journey.
2006-10-15 13:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together before marriage has become more popular over the recent years. Many people chose to live together as a trial run to marriage, however, this can not always be a good idea. You need to weigh the consequences very carefully.
There are many reasons why it could be a good idea, you get to see your sig-o for who they really are, sharing expenses and the reassuring thought that breaking up is easier than getting divorced.
On the other had there are many reason why living together before marriage is not a good idea. Living together before marriage can lead to a lower quality of life, cohabiting couples report lower levels of happiness, lower levels of sexual exclusivity and sexual satisfaction, and poorer relationships with their parents. Living together does not always lead to marriage and if your lucky enough that it does there is a higher rate of divorce associated with living together pre-marriage.
What ever choice you make I am sure that it is what is best for you and your situation. Best of luck!
2006-10-15 20:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by qnas4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whether you think you might want to marry the guy some day. If you do, wait until he has proposed and you have a set date. Studies have shown that couples who live together do not end up getting married, or if they do, the divorce rate is higher. Might be old fashioned....but the saying why buy the cow if the milk is free holds a lot of truth to it.
If you don't want to get married, then by all means, move in together.
2006-10-15 20:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the time is right you will know. Personally, I'd wait until at least 2 and a half years because that seem to be the starting point of most relationship crashes, but it's different for everyone. Good way to tell if you should get married though.
2006-10-15 20:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.
i always thought it was going to be sooo cool being in the same house with a boyfriend..until i actually lived with him..for a month.
and yeah it wasnt as great as i thought it would be..but then my situation at the time didnt help either.
sometimes you wont even like the stuff that he does in the house and you get annoyed or he'll be annoyed with the things you do in the house..maybe trying to live together is not a good idea..esp when its just a little over a year..but maybe you can like live at his present home for like a month just to see how you both we'll do together
now that ive seen the bad side of living together it will help us both on how to work on it. and then now im still scared of movin in with him.. but now we know what i and him can do to make it work
2006-10-15 20:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by stefani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not a good idea being that you have been dating only a year. Things change when people move in together. You loose freedom to do things that you want to do. Basically, you will be living like you are married to him.
2006-10-15 20:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by michellej 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about him and how old are you? A little over a year is okay for the move in but it's all how or where you want to be with this person. And if you are currently in school and trying to advance in your career/life then you might want to evaluate the whole picture. If things are great then go for it.
2006-10-15 20:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by Florida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a good thing maybe at first it is almost like being married but if both you and him sign for the place and nto married and he gets mad or pissed off at you and walks out he is not legally tied to pay his half which means it is up to you to do that or hunt him down if things go bad in that direction but if it never does then it might go the other way and find out that he is the right one as your husband. your call.
2006-10-15 20:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by Paul G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how strong your relationship is. moving in together can be hard, you don't get your own space but if you feel you and your boyfriend can do this then go for it, its a huge step but its the best thing to every do, my boyfriend and i have been together for less then a year and are moving in together we have never been so much closer till now
2006-10-15 20:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by angel_babe_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the two of you, sit down together and really discuss it make a list of pros and cons. Be realistic and honest with one another. Getting a place together is a big step and believe me it changes EVERYTHING. Not always for the better.
2006-10-15 20:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by BLADE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋