How much do men change after marriage?

Question

Me and my guy have dated for almost 3 months now. It seems like he gets more flirtacious, attentive, and affectionate with me the more we have been together. He even has done little things that I didn't expect like getting me roses for every month we've been together and just recently took me to an aquarium, a concert, and a zoo in a two day period (a vacation he called it) and got a hotel with a jaccuzzi in it. If a man is like this when dating, does it usually carry on into marriage or does it usually stop?

Answer 1

95% of who they used 2 be

Answer 2

evry period of man"s live is different from another,are you like what you were 10 years ago?of course not,things used to please you had changed,your opinion on the same situations had changed too,in your relation now there is no responsabilities,you are just two lovers enjoy every time ,there is no baby crying,no bills to be paid,no children to teach them,of course he will change but he can always be your best man if he really loves you ,you are the only person can judje that and imagine his futurly attitude,regarding that after marrige just a smile in your face in a rainy day will fill you with happiness and make you very gratfull

Answer 3

It really depends on the man. Some men do this to win you over. If you guys were to marry, he may stop because he already got you. He may keep doing the sweet things for you.

It really depends. After a marriage, money is pretty tight(depending on kids, extra added expenses, and such). But live for the moment. He is showing you he likes(or loves) you. Enjoy it!

Answer 4

They say you never know a person until you live with them for a while. Thats when all the small things like leaving wet towels on the bed or exhausting all the hot water starts to really annoy you. But live together for a while with all these little grievances and if at the end of it all you realize you still love your spouse - thats the real sign of a successful marriage. Men do not have many adjustment issues. If the woman moves in with the husband and his parents, she has a lot to deal with. Suddenly shes thrown into a new environment, with a new set of rules, new expectations are demanded of her and she finds it tough to cope. At a time like this, she needs her husband to back her up and be there to make things smoother. When this doesn't happen, sparks fly.
If the couple is living alone, the wife expects the husband to pitch in with the housework. After all, the idea that certain things are a womans job is a thing of the past. In this case the man will definitely have adjustment problems. Now he has to not only get his own coffee but make a cup for his wife too. There's a saying that you shouldn't get married in the morning, because you never know who you'll meet that night. Meaning that the change happens the instant that knot is tied and the woman won't recognize the person who was her devoted, loving boyfriend for so long. What happened to the romantic man who'd be content to gaze at his girlfriend's eyes for an eternity? What happened to the man who couldn't bear to hang up even at 2 am? Well, that man is now satisfied that he has the woman he wants. And more often than not, sits back to enjoy his conquest. Women might look at it differently that the man is indifferent all of a sudden or that he doesn't seem to care anymore. But it's just that he doesn't feel the need to demonstrate his love as openly as before. When someone is always around, you tend to take her for granted. Of course there are men who are doting and as loving as they were before, if not more. If you end up with such a man hold on to him with steel-reinforced claws! He's rare!There's a tiny secret to marriage that will make it easier to enjoy it. The realization that men and women ARE DIFFERENT! You cannot expect the husband to behave the way the wife wants him to. He might forget to give her a rose for Valentine's Day but she will remember to buy him that fancy mobile phone for his birthday. That doesn't mean he cares any less than she does. It just means he's more absent-minded and less thoughtful than her. So he doesn't show his feelings the way his wife visualized it. But he might show it with little gestures. Like fetching a glass of water or giving a much-needed back rub. Sometimes it may seem like he's reached the heights of insensitivity and he can't possibly get any worse (though you'd be surprised). Well he always has a reason to behave the way he does, no matter how puzzling. When women are upset, the man ought to know. They're either sulking or banging things around the house. Or giving their men the silent treatment. Men might endure it for as long as they can and then ask a perfunctory what's wrong? And if they get a sullen Nothing in response they just let it go! This might shock women, but men are incapable of deciphering cryptic statements like Nothing. The woman actually means Keep asking me until I tell but the man doesn't know that. He thinks nothing means nothing. If women were more direct with their thoughts, perhaps men wouldn't find them such an enigma. But then the whole charm is lost, isn't it? Men have a different way of showing they're upset. They don't. They'll brood over it, perhaps snap a little bit, but more often than not their wives will have no clue about it until some day much later. Men don't need to talk about their issues like women do. The minute the wife's upset, you can bet good money on the fact that within the next half an hour, she's on the phone cribbing to her best friend.
It might appear as though men really don't need women. As though the morning cajoling to get them to eat a healthy breakfast is unbearable nagging. But let the wife be away for a while and the husband misses that very same nagging. For they need to know that someone cares about them. And although they treat it with irritation when its there, they miss it when it's not.
For a long time, it has been believed that women are the jealous lot. Well, here's some flash news - men get jealous too - but don't think its macho to accept that. They'll ogle at other women in tight jeans and stretch tops but when it comes to their own wives it's Are you sure you want to wear that? It seems a trifle transparent. Its not that they don't appreciate their wives, its just they want to be the only ones doing the appreciating. You'll be surprised at the most broad-minded man wanting to protect his wife from probing eyes. So here's our conclusion. Men aren't so bad after all. They might be cold and insensitive and indifferent and uncaring at times... but hey you've got to love em!

So even if it seems that they changed they haven't they just adapt.....

Answer 5

It depends on the couple. I'm not married but my boyfriend and I have been together seven months and moved in together two months ago. Things always change, not necessarily for the worse, but life itself evolves. It is up to the two of you to keep your love fresh and remember never take each other for granted. Maybe you can have this kind of intensity forever and if you do, good for the two of you!

Answer 6

Everyone changes a little when they get married. You have other things that creep into the relationship like bills and jobs. Keep your lines of communication open. As long as the communication is working there is nothing to worry about.

Answer 7

from my experience.. it's not so much after marriage-- it's after you have kids....

You should go read the 5 love languages book-- chances are when he stops/ if he stops- it's because his love tank is being filled by you... etc etc.. anyways go read the book.. it's awesome =)

Answer 8

if he is truly being himself then girlfriend im here to tell ya hes a keeper

Answer 9

It takes 2 ,,it depends..it could..it's all up to you also.

Answer 10

not much.so dont expect.