I'm getting married in about 7 weeks and we have not yet bought our unity candles for our ceremony. Is it okay to use my sister's unity candles that she used at her wedding a couple of years ago?
2006-10-15 13:04:19 · 18 answers · asked by Tiffany P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's not for the fact that I'm pressed for time, I have enough time to get them but I was just wondering if it were a bad luck type of thing? Would you do it, personally?
2006-10-15 13:17:18 · update #1
Personally, I do not see anything wrong with using your sisters unity candles. People pass down wedding dresses and jewelry all the time. If your sister has a good marriage, some of the good luck may pass on to you (if u believe in that sort of thing). For my wedding, I am going to be using the knives that my sister has for cutting my cake. I thinks thats is cool and in term of knife sets and things of that nature, it can become a family tradition.
2006-10-16 02:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by martini_40727 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do the sand ceremony. You won't have to contend with wind putting out a flame. The unity candle thing has been done at every ceremony I've attended in the last 10 years. I've never seen the sand ceremony done, just heard about it. I'm guessing the sand mixes together symbolizing you and he being indistinguishable from one another or something like that, so the two become one. there could be more meaning there metaphorically. I like the idea spiritually better than the candle anyway. If it was night, that would be a different story.
2016-05-22 05:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's great. Unity candles are so expensive, it's a great idea to get two uses out of it. I am using a cheap craft candle that I paid $3 for because I refuse to pay $50 for a set.
2006-10-15 15:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say use hers if there is no sentimental attachment to them It would be less of a hassle. And less problems with lighting them. Candles are much easier to lite and stay lit if they have been burned a little bit. ( I used to sell candles) Most people don't think about that before their weddings and that is probably why everyone has so Many problems with their candles. We skipped the candles cause we are both from Scottish family's he gave me a sash of his family's tartan and I tied the ribbons on the back of his hat in to a knot. Way back before rings were in common use it was a way to tell if a man was married.
2006-10-15 14:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by Heather P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be bad luck, but I think that you would appreciate your own in the long run. My friend just got married and had a rose ceremony instead of a unity candle ceremony. They each had a rose given to them by their mothers, then they traded roses and they are supposed to put the roses somewhere to be reminded of the first wedding gifts that they gave eachother. I though it was unique and beautiful! Just an idea!
2006-10-15 13:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by fayra_elm 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would consider using the stands/candle holder again, but get new candles, whether it's supposed to be bad luck- I don't know.
trust me you won't want to light candles in your wedding ceremony that have already been lit!
2006-10-15 23:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah. that's ok. as long as it's ok with your sister. we actually chose not to have unity candles at our wedding. because, really what's the point. you use it once and then it goes to storage to collect dust. no one ever noticed or asked.
*edit* it's not a bad luck type of thing. it's really a personal choice. if you want an unity candle then go for it. it's not like anyone is going to notice if you borrow your sisters candle or not have one. Good luck!
2006-10-15 13:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by Aubrey's mommy 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's up to you, I wouldn't think bad luck, I would think sentimental, personally, I'm not having one at all. If you are having second thoughts, get your own. You don't even half to get a "bridal" one, just go get a tall pillar candle and if you want, glue some pearls on it or something like that to dress it up. it'll save big bux! congrats!
2006-10-15 16:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be fine, my daughters were part of the churches.
Drip-less candles were required. I think it sounds like a nice touch
to share with sister.
2006-10-15 14:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be okay to use her candle, but will you and your spouse want to keep it when you're done? Keep that in mind- she may want it back.
Another alternative is the sand ceremony. Each partner has a different colored sand that he/she pours into a communal vase or jar. The different sand represents their individual lives becoming one.
My husband and I did this and now we have a beautiful (and unique) centerpiece on our coffee table.
2006-10-15 14:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by sunshinegrover 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋