I've been dating my boyfriend for four months and i love him. I just got out of a six year relationship but my new bf wants us to move in together. Im not ready..reason being i just want to give myself time before moving in with someone new. he does travel with his job and only four days a month but i honestly dont even want to share a household with him. he feels im holding back feelings and refuses to accept i dont want us living together right now? what should i do? ive suggested we both get our own places and still be a couple but its like thats not good enough for him..and he is saying he wants TO BUILD something with me...im really confused..what should i do guys?
2006-10-15 13:03:32 · 6 answers · asked by confusedinlove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you don't feel ready to move in together then it is not time to do that. Stand your ground. You know how fast you want to move and don't let anyone rush you. Tell him that you will let him know when you are ready to move in, but right now is not the time. He will accept your answer if he really loves and respects you. If he doesn't respect you, what have you lost by telling him now is not the time?
2006-10-15 13:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship runs on its own time clock but you obviously are not ready so don't do it. I lived by myself for 7 years and I just moved in with my boyfriend two months ago and I knew it was right because I wanted him here all the time, I was willing to share space for his stuff on the walls, etc. You need to listen to what your gut is saying. Give it some time, there is no rush and don't let him tell you there is.
2006-10-15 13:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Four months is pretty quick. I'm sure you will hear some success stories of people who lasted moving that quick, but your gut feeling is not to move in together.
I would tell him that it is too quick. Ask him why he thinks he needs to move in to build something with you. You guys can hang out everyday and become closer first.
Like I said, listen to your gut feeling.
2006-10-15 13:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your not ready stick to your guns sweetie continue letting your new bf know that your just not ready and please respect my decision.reassure him that u do care for him but sista girl needs some space been there done that but i hope everything turns out fine i think it will
2006-10-15 13:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by lilsis2576 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to your guns girl! I f you arent ready, and you do it, it wont work.
2006-10-15 13:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by Lees' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't move in with him and don't let him move in with you...just don't do it it will be bad for you
2006-10-15 13:08:44 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋