I am dating this guy and we love each other but we seem to always have bumps in the relationship as far as arguing sometimes he does have my back whenever I need him and he great with my son, Basically I am wondering if there is so many obstacles is this relationship worth going any further or do I need to just be patient .....Help
2006-10-15 12:56:38 · 23 answers · asked by Neek-Neek 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be patient, when me and my boyfriend first got togather our first two years were so bumpy we had so many problems and we used to argue a lot but you know what we loved each other so much that we worked through it; it took a LOT of prayer but we made it through, now we laugh about all the stupid arguments we used to have, at the end of this year we will be husband and wife. We've been togather for almost 6 years. If you love him and you want it to work be patient and , if i'm not offending you, pray, pray, pray.
2006-10-15 13:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by angeleyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship has obstacles in the way.....only you can decide if he is worth it. Do you fight with your boyfriend more often than you two have fun together? Can you see yourself with this guy forever? Are one of you jealous? If there is jealousy that neeeds to stop and you two need to learn to trust eachother. You're gonna have to weigh the pro's and con's of this relationship.....think of all the great things about the relationship and the bad things and see which one wins in the end (like the great things or bad things). My boyfriend and I had a rough YEAR the other year, but things have been good for the past couple of years and I'm glad we stuck it out. But that is us, some couples just shouldn't be together if there is soooo much fighting. Your son shouldn't be exposed to something like that, if the fighting is every single day or every other day. That is just too much. But it is completely normal for there to be obstacles sometimes. You can't have something that good without problems, unfortunately, thats life. Good luck trying to figure out what to do and hang in there and stay strong for yourself and your son.
2006-10-15 20:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by Lyn7480 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you love him so i have to ask does he love you? Being great with your son is a plus, but many people love kids and that alone means nothing. The point is really simple you know, if he loves and respects you he will not do anything to hurt you or your feelings as long as you treat him as you wish to be treated. If there are bumps in the way you have to define what these bumps are. Everybody in healthy relationships have bumps, they are real and everyone works through them. Maybe it's about money, or time togeather, or the inlaws but they work through it.
So look yourself in the mirror and suck it up...you know the answer, is this guy a jerk and your stuck on him, or is this guy a nice guy that you want to spend every day with forever???
2006-10-15 20:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by staarmstrong 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its totally normal to argue with your boyfriend. All the time, no....but sometimes things come up that you will disagree on. In fact, its unhealthy when couples NEVER fight, because that means they must not be communicating. No couple will agree on everything all the time. What matters is HOW you argue...make sure you dont say mean things or get personal or physical. Its necessary have a little conflict to figure out how to work together better. No one ever said love was easy.
2006-10-15 20:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every couple argues. It really depends what you are arguing about, how often, and what you are doing about it to let him know you want to make him happy. Any great relationship is worth being patient, especially if he is good with your son. If he is treating you bad, then you should dump him.
2006-10-15 20:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by man_of_mustard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it all depends on what you're arguing about and how the two of you resolve the issue. You're already questioning if you should stay or if this is typical in a relationship to argue. You will need to take a deeper look at your relationship and discuss it with him and make your decision.
2006-10-15 20:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by Topez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK maybe you should reexamine all your problems and talk them over with him so you can see what he thinks then you decided were to go from there,or arguing is not a big obstacle so i would go further and just see if things Chang and you agree more
2006-10-15 20:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by vanessa m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arguing is a natural part of any relationship, it is how you handle the arguments and how you let them affect the relationship that counts. Are they major thing arguments or stupid little arguments? Learn to discuss things without tempers flaring and I am sure you will have a great relationship.
2006-10-15 20:01:07 · answer #8 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you argue about? If it's little things like whose turn it is to take out the trash, the relationship will probably survive. But if you argue about major things such as money, religious beliefs, alcohol and/or drug use, etc. I don't give it much hope. Or, if you argue about your whereabouts and he is controlling, watch out, he could be an abuser.
2006-10-15 19:59:46 · answer #9 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am amazed at how many single moms get their bf's involved in their kids' lives. If you break up, what will it do to your son? Do you honestly think that you have a right to put that innocent little boy through the heartbreak of yet another guy leaving? Do the right thing by him and raise him 1st then enjoy a full and rich dating life. Give him your full attention and you won't be sorry.
2006-10-15 20:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋