ok i found who i believe to be my soul mate.... ive been goin out with him online for about a month.. and ive never told my parents about him.. b/c im 99.99% sure they'll freak right out and ban me from gettin online.. but i feel horrible in not telling them. cause im not used to keepin secerets from them.. and... even if they dont approve of me and him bein together.. thats not gonna stop me.. its just... no one has made me feel like he does.. ever.. so plz ya'lls serious advice would be great
thnx ya'll
2006-10-15 12:05:32 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 16.. hes 18... and no i havent met him face to face.. but then again theres a lil pond called the atlantic between us..
2006-10-15 12:12:16 · update #1
i would just take the relationship slow and see how you and he work out before you tell anyone. you've only been going out for a short time, so you dont know everything about him. take time and get to know him well, but be really careful cuz no matter what he says or how much you trust him, he could turn out to be a psycho who only wants to attract young girls and then rape them.
if he does turn out to be good, and you guys eventually start dating offline, then you could tell your parents. just do whatever you feel comfortable with, but give it a little time before you say anything.
good luck and i hope everything works out!!! :)
2006-10-15 12:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Anyone can tell you anything they want behind a keyboard, and a monitor. It takes contact face, to face heart to heart to actually know there is something there for you and him both.
I would think there is a 99.99% you and will never meet because of the little pond separating the two of you.
I could get in a conversation with you, and tell you just about everything you wanted to hear. But I could really be like a 50 year old one legged, half armed, glass eye, false teeth, bald headed, transexual. At your age, you do not need the internet as a source of finding one.
2006-10-15 12:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Serious advice:
You've known him for all of 4 wks online...there is NO WAY you could know if you even really like him, much less that he's your 'soulmate'...there is TOO MUCH you cannot know about someone until you've spent a considerable amount of time in their face-to-face prescence...
Here's an example...I met a guy online a few years ago...he seemed amazing...good looking (from his pics), great voice (we spoke on the phone frequently), no apparent vices...the kind of guy that you'd imagine most women would want...amazing...too good to be true... and guess what? He was...
...a pathological liar, among other things....I didn't fall in love with him, but I loved what I knew about him (or what I thought I knew) and very much wanted to meet him to see where things might go...I later became glad I didn't...but I know women who did (because he romanced several at a time online/phone)...
Don't buy into everything someone tells you online...your guy may be for real, or he may be a complete loser, or something in between....but you cannot know that until you've met and if you fear your parent's reaction then I get the feeling you are underage and they have a right to be "freaked" if they discover you've allowed yourself to fall head over heels over a complete stranger that you've talked to online for a month, but don't actually know anything about (other than what he's told you)...
Stick with offline guys is my advice...people you can meet and know they are what they say they are...you are infatuated with this online guy because he's said things you enjoyed hearing (or reading, as it were)...but you cannot know they are true and thus should hold judgement in reserve until you know him...if he lives far away, that may not be possible at this stage...
2006-10-15 12:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You want a serious answer to a non-serious question. You can't know anything about a person from just one month. Try dating seriously and living together for atleast 5 years before you think you really know someone. People grow and change all the time. By the way, go out and meet people in the real world. Most people aren't quite the same online as they are in the real world.
2006-10-15 12:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by Jerrid 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depending on your age you'll probably right about your parents not approving. Sometimes meeting someone on line is great, but sometimes it isnt. You have to extra careful because people have a tendecy to pretend to be someone that theyre not. Alot of kids have been hurt drastically by someone over the internet so I suggest when you meet him in person if you havent already that you have someone with you. If you do decide to present him to your parents, try an find out some things about him that your parents would be concerned with, it may make it easier. The safety of your well being is most important here.
2006-10-15 12:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't give your age. Getting involved with someone online can be extremely dangerous. I know because my daughter did it. First of all don't even attempt it unless you are at least 18 yrs of age. Make sure you meet during the day in a well lighted area like a mall. Don't get into his car for any reason. No taking rides with him. Take a walk through the mall, sit in the food area and have a soda and get to know each other. I am telling you this from experience. My daughter met a guy one evening for coffee and she made the mistake of getting into his car for a ride. It was January and very cold in the Northeast. He brought her to a deserted beach and took advantage of her. She screamed NO a number of times but he never stopped and had his way. Brought her back to her car in silence and said get out. As if she wasn't humiliated enough. Don't let this happen to you. Think about it.
2006-10-15 12:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by winter715 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you met him online and never met him in person I say beware. If you do intend to meet. Meet in a public place and have someone else with you. Don't take any chances. Seeing is truly believing. If your under 18 tell your parents. If your over 18 at least let a few people know where and when your meeting would be. He might not really be your soul mate. How well do you really know him. Any one online can say anything. BEWARE
2006-10-15 12:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be sure to take your time and not to rush into anything. Be very cautious at all times if it's someone you have met online.
If you are under 18 you shouldn't meet him without letting your parents know first.
As for the soul mate thing, if you have only really known him a month then you can't possibly be certain he is your soul mate yet. It takes a lot more time than that. So take your time getting to know the guy. Make decisions through your brain rather than just your heart.
2006-10-15 12:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by The boy from London 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problem with on-line romances is that you tend to fall in love with the idea of how you perceive the person and not necessarily the person themselves. Before you get all gung-ho about how this person is your soul-mate, I think it would be best to downshift a little and wait until you actually meet the person. (now this is assuming that the person in question is who they say they are and not some 40 year old pedophile). After you meet them, still take it slow. The thing about the internet and on-line relationships is that whomever you are talking to can be anything you want them to be. So be careful and proceed with a hint of skepticism.
2006-10-15 12:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by Emporer_Smiley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hard to give you advice not knowing how old you are. Evidently you are quite young since you refer to your parents freaking out and all. So my advice is that while you are living at home you have to respect your parents.
Also, you cannot possible know this is your soul mate since you really don't even know this guy and I hope he is your age and just remember half of what he is telling you is probably a lie. You are just in love with the idea of having a soul mate. Give it time but you need to be careful. Really!
2006-10-15 12:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You never said how old you was. and the other thing is how old is your on line friend? These questions are important. And I am sure that it will be important to your parents also. You have to be very careful about on-line relationships, you have to check it out, because of so many peoples bad experience. That is why you have to almost check out the person. I think that is why you have not told your parents, you know they would not approve of this relationship. Remember this, they only want the best for you, and they want to protect you!
2006-10-15 12:19:40 · answer #11 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋