my best friend is unable to conceive a baby. she REALLY wants one. her and her husband have been trying for what seems 5 years now. they asked me if i would have sex with Fred, her husband, and have a child that is theirs. i dont know who would ask such a thing, but obviously my best friend. i am married and have a 12 year old daughter, a 6 year old boy, and another 2 year old boy. i dont know if it would be apropriate to say yes and honestly i dont want to. but i need others opinion!
2006-10-15 12:00:42 · 24 answers · asked by abcdefg15bl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think if you do you set yourself up to losing a friend. I don't think having sex with her husband would sit well after she really thinks about it and then to have to look at the child after wards would also reminder, not to mention sex one time does not always produce a child. I'd say no if I were you. Good luck at your decision.
2006-10-15 12:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by shauna 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it!! Especially if I didn't want to!! I know that's your best friend, but your children will start to ask you several questions that you may not be ready for and then you may also get attached to the baby!! What would your husband say?? Even though they asked you, you're married and sleeping with your friend's husband would be cheating!! What if you two enjoyed having sex together?? There's too many risks involved and you shouldn't be put in that type of situation!! Your friend can always adopt or find a surrogate mother!!!
2006-10-16 07:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by angellove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so strange but, after reading your entry you never once mentioned how your very own husband felt about you, his wife , sleeping with another man-in other words..... committing adultery. You need to be talking to your mate about this! This is something that will change the life's of both you and your best friend forever! Me personally, I would advice you not to. Why not just use his sperm and use a turkey baster and squirt it inside you and attempt pregnancy that way... hey.... It works! But, the unity of two human beings during sexual intercourse is something sacred and people nowadays are treating it like you can go in the freaking store and buy it in a tin can!! I think if all (4) parties are consentual of this union there are other ways of going about it other than the two of you jumping inbetween the sheets....who's to say you will get pregnant the first session? You two may fall in love before its all over with! What if his jewels are bigger than your husbands? You have to think farther than what lies in front of you sweetheart.... I wish you well! I hope I gave alittle bit to think about.
2006-10-15 12:41:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how many times are you willing to have sex with him as we all know it doesn't always happen the first try. Second could she even accept this after it happens, I know I couldn't handle my friend sleeping with my husband. Third are you married, if so what does your husband think,,,I think it is a very bad idea, what about adoption ? Or surrogate mother, you don't have to have actual sex with him to have their baby. But you need to follow your heart and do what feels right!!!
2006-10-15 13:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would advise you not to do this. i know she must want a baby bad to allow her husband to have sex with her best friend. but it can take a long time to concieve a baby and you and him would be having sex a lot and that would mess up both of yalls marriages, plus it would have an emotional effect on you. you would regret this later on. its all wrong in so many ways. i know im in no place to judge and im not trying to judge but i dont want this to turn out wrong for both of yall and i know it will.tell her no and explain to her why. she can get artifially insemenated or find another woman (stranger) thats willing to do it (not by sex with fred but a medical way) or she could always adopt. good luck with everything and i hope it all goes well. god bless you and your friend.
2006-10-15 16:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont wnat to losse your friend you should say no
there are clinic with women for doing this she should fine another surrogate mother trust me you shoudnt do this and you dont want to do it either so explain to her in a gently way tht you dont feel cpmfortable doing it and that there are clinic with persons who do this every time and that it would be better for all of you at the end and if your married i dont think your husband will want you o have sex with her husband and that can causes really big problem soooooooooo say nooooooooo
2006-10-15 12:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by user 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
This whole scenario may very well spell 'catastrophy'
Advise your friend of your concerns and be sure not to be pressurized into anything your not ready for.
Remember, there are children involved here!
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2006-10-15 12:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!You are married and have a family of your own don't destroy all of this and lose your family by having sex with her husband. Tell your friend go try adopt a child who needs someone to love them.
2006-10-15 12:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Listen DON'T SAY YES!!!! you are married and have a family of your own don't destroy all of this and lose your family by having sex with another man that is not your husband... they can have artificial insemination or womb transfer or something... you can even give her one of your eggs if you want but don't do this.. SERIOUSLY STOP BEING THEIR FRIEND BECAUSE THEY'RE BOTH DISGUSTING...
2006-10-15 12:06:05 · answer #9 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to have a child of their own then they need to get her egg and his sperm and implant it into you ina doctors office. If you have sex with her husband it will not be her baby. Just part of him and you. THe other way it will be hers and their wont be any ummm weirdness there. That would totally ruin your friendship with her.
2006-10-15 12:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by Blondi 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋