I was in the car with his parents we had to go pick up his friends gf and her baby to take her to her bfs house. shes good friends with her and they were all talkin about his x girlfriends and he wasnt even talking to me and shes all siting here talking about this one girl if she was different would u of dated her. They were talking about that kind of stuff the whole time and then his mom felt bad for me, his mom asked me how i was? Im like good then then his friend is all sitting here wow we are all talking about this infront of ur gf. shes all like it was a long time ago. then they started talking about this again. i was all tearing up. is it okay to get upset?
2006-10-15 11:52:36 · 11 answers · asked by Pooh Bear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After a few times you do have to bite your lip. He does need to vent and verbalize. Just be glad he isn't bending your ear about her!
Good luck
2006-10-15 11:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Saffernellie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something you need to learn that will make your life a great deal easier...no matter who you see when, they WILL have a past. And there is always SOMEONE who will be more than happy to bring it up and rub your nose in it. My husband's little sister was "best friends" with his ex-fiance...now that was fun. She still doesn't like me (almost 20 yrs later) and for the first year or so she enjoyed throwing his ex in my face. I just "smile nod and back away slowly" so to speak. Then I got tired of her games and told her that I really didn't care about what my husband and whats-her-name did because I was the one with the dimond and wedding ring set. I have never thrown out one of the pictures hubby has of her...nor has he thrown out any pic's of mine with former guys. They are part of us in some small way, and who am I to begurdge my husband his life before me?
Here's the trick. The past is what brings you to the present and helps to form your future. It is your decision on what to do with it. You can be upset, jealous and "oh poor left out me". Or you can smile and realize that you are not the past, your the present and maybe even the future and that is a much better place to be. Don't waste your time or energy worrying about what was or what could have been. You'll just seem insecure and immature and loose in the long run. By rising above it and being confident you will gain. Best of luck...
2006-10-15 12:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, i think of every physique could desire to save chatting with their ex. the comparable issues is nearly happening to me, the finished buddy, bf-gf, buddy element. and it extremely is often going to be uncomfortable once you consult with somebody you kissed or attached with, whether you have been or weren't in a dating. in basic terms think of in case you in no way went out with one yet another, and bypass back to the time the place you 2 have been in basic terms friends. that's what I do. And only one be attentive to suggestion. do not ask him back out, till you have been the only to break up with him, or it may make issues extra awkward by way of fact if he broke up with you, that's his fault and he in all probability did it for a reason. do not injury your self, be careful, and stable success!
2016-10-16 05:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by grauer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was rude and thoughtless, even though what they were discussing was in the past. Comments about former relationships come up in conversation, and that's fine...but to sit and discuss a past relationship, and "what if" in front of a current partner is incredibly unfeeling and tacky...
You need to talk to him about this...don't get angry or yell or lay blame, just let him know it made you uncomfortable and upset that he had an ongoing conversation, in front of you (but excluding you) about an ex...and perhaps ask him if he'd like to sit and listen to you discuss one of your exs with someone...guys typically don't want to hear about our past relationships (in detail) any more than we want to hear about theirs (at least not in the way you described)...
Hopefully he'll give it some thought, and realize it was a poor judgement call...and apologize...
2006-10-15 11:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course its okay to get upset! If your b/f really cared about you and respects your feelings he wouldn't even think about talking about his ex g/f's in front of you. Your boyfriend and his friends were extremely rude to talk about his ex in front of you. You need to talk it out with him or end it until he learns to respect you and your feelings.
2006-10-15 11:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course its okay! The guy sounds horrible. I wouldn't stay with him for long.
2006-10-15 11:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sure is, your boyfriend was being insensitive and that hurts. you need to tell him how it made you feel that he did that. if you hold it in, things will boil up inside and that not good for anyone.
2006-10-15 11:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its okay to be upset. this shows that he is not concerned bout your feelings coz if he was he would have put off that conversation immediately it started
2006-10-15 11:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by Obria 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is ok to get upset because he shouldn't be doing that!!!!!!That's bad i would talk to him girl.
2006-10-15 12:01:43 · answer #9 · answered by bedtimebear12100 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would of told her to Shut the F*uck up. Wouldn't have cared if his Mom was there or not...they sure as hell didn't care if you were.
2006-10-15 11:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by blood_red_mustang 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋