My husband is only 21 and we are pregnante with our second child already (planned) and his father is bugging him to get fixed.
2006-10-15 11:40:53 · 18 answers · asked by mrs rubberducky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's definitely weird. He's probably just concerned about the costs of raising a child today versus when he raised your husband. (education, medical, etc.) Just reassure your father-in-law that ya'll have everything under control. Reassure him that ya'll are going to use birthcontrol and take care of it in other ways. Getting "fixed" is a big step. Nothing personal, but something could happen to any one of us. If something happens to you he may meet someone else he would like to have a child with. Do not let your father-in-law talk ya'll into anything that you are not ready for. Stand your ground. This is an important decision between you and your husband. One you should make together and carefully.
2006-10-15 11:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by Angie B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that he is probably worried that you will have too many children and with the rising cost of living. He has no right to say that you can't tell him to mind his own business because he cares about his son.
There are so many ways of birth control and you can use pills and condoms. Don't let him get fixed because later if you want a child then you will be sorry.
I know a couple who did that when they young and then their two children died in a fire at school and then they could not have any children.
I hope that does not happen to you or anyone but just use normal birth control.
2006-10-15 13:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your father-in-law it is none of his business. Your child is a planned birth and you and your husband are happy about the coming child. If and when you decide to have more children that will be your decision too. The only way his input matters is if he is paying your bills which I hope he is not as that would be very childish on your part.
2006-10-15 14:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your father-in-law so adamant about a vasectomy? If you and your husband are not putting the burden and expense of raising the children or paying your bills on him then he should have no opinion. However if he is carrying that burden then you should wait before enlarging your family until you are economically able to afford to care for them.He would probably enjoy grandparent stage more if it were not too much like raising a family all over again.
2006-10-15 11:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 is enough. ,but wait till the 2nd baby is born and healthy. Then wait for at least 6 months before you make a final desision. You can't go in thinking something may happen to the two you already have. Besides, it's cheaper for him than it is for you. If you are wondering about performance, I'm over 50 and "fixed" and getiing it up, using it, and keeping it up are no problem. It's been 13 years. Going strong.
2006-10-15 17:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by not for now 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its none of his fathers business how many kids u have and whether or not either of you get fixed.....it is sad that your hubby is only 21 and you're already on your second child......it sounds like the 2 of you never had a chance to enjoy one another.......
2006-10-15 12:13:54 · answer #6 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His father needs to stay out of decisions like that. Do not hesitate to tell him so. Your husband needs to look at the future and determine for himself if additional children are out of the picture. The two of you are the only people to engage in that conversation. You have a right to say your feelings because Your future is linked to his.
2006-10-15 11:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 21 is too young to get "fixed"....who knows what may happen in the future. Maybe wait, but get some good birth control...and tell his father to mind his own business!
2006-10-15 11:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by Kiah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that should be decided between you and your husband. How dare he even mention this to you guys. It is so none of his business and he needs to be reminded of this, whether it be in a nice subtle way or an agressive way up to you, just make sure to get your point across.
2006-10-15 22:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by mountain girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is none of his father's business. Even if his father were supporting you and paying all your bills it would not be any of his business. It's your husband's body and his family. His dad needs to just love his grandchildren and stay out of your bedroom!
2006-10-15 11:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋