I found out yesterday that my boyfriend cheated on me wednesday night. Tuesday morning I was instructed by my doctor to not have sex for ten days so that when I returned for my depo-provera shot the preganacy test would be negative. His reason for cheating the very next day was because he was going to be sexually starved. Eventhough the doctor said no vaginal sex, I was available and open to oral sex as much as he wanted. Supposedly he didnt have vaginal sex, he only engaged in oral sex with a hand job( without protection). So, is his reasoning legit or a sorry *** SOB?
2006-10-15 11:13:26 · 22 answers · asked by mslilbit24 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not legit at all, he should care more about you then that. If you were open to meet his needs with oral then he had absoltuly no reason to cheat, kick him to the curb.
2006-10-15 11:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by I'm here for now 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think he was sexually starved and deserved to cheat? He is feeding you a line of bull and you are falling for it. People can actually make it for the 10 days with no sex at all. You said you were available for other options, so what is his problem?
He is being immature and looking for any excuse to go out and sample the female population. He cheated on you - no other way to put it. He is scum. He is the lowest form of slime you could find.
This guy is not worthy of your love. He didn't have the respect for you to even wait one day. Dump his sorry behind and find someone who knows what being faithful means.
2006-10-15 11:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to this one, but I can understand your need to get some emotional support. If he is cheating on you a day after something like this, come on! What would he do if you were pregnant and on pelvic rest. He has no excuse! How long would you be on no vag? Honestly it doesn't matter.. he was just looking for an excuse to screw around. I say kick him to the curb because his behavior was completely out of line!
If you were just holding out because you wanted to use sex to get something you wanted- I would say you were being unfair and I wouldn't blame him if he dumped you (though it wouldn't excuse cheating). Sex should never be a weapon between a loving couple.
2006-10-15 11:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by crimanetly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope just sorry. Think of it this way...10 days is sexually starved for him right. Then next thing you know 9 days and then 8 days and so forth. Most men would love to have someone open to unlimited oral sex. He is just a sorry SOB
2006-10-15 11:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by primetimekj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not, if he was happy to go and have oral sex and hand job off a stranger after you were open to this idea yourself I'd kick him to the wall. I used this form of contraception and my partner and I just used other methods of arousal except intercourse for the 2 weeks I had to wait. Does your man think your not feeling the want of having intercourse? by the time I had the needle I was so horny for my partner he thought it was his birthday as he likes to say. I'd be concerned about STD's because they can be passed from mouth to penis. Herpes for starters. Any bodily fluids can pass on sexually transmitted diseases. PLEASE talk to your DR. about any risks about your boyfriends F___ up. Your boyfriend has put YOU at risk as well as himself (even though i wish his P___S falls off) all because he couldn't wait 10 days. Should you remain together and have sex you need to know it's safe. He may have to wait MONTHS now. As STD's can take a few months to show up and get rid of. Good Luck.
2006-10-15 11:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by valentina c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so, how do find out that he did this? starved my ***, he cheated know matter how you look at it. and if this guy loved you, and you told him that you could not have sex because of doctors orders, he should have been understanding, not selfish. get rid of this guy. and it does not matter if he did not have vaginal sex or not he was with another girl. kick him to the curb. cause he will do it again.
2006-10-15 11:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not a good reason for cheating so the best thing to do is to get tested and get rid of him if he can't wait for you tells you that he will never be faithful and that you don't know if he has done this before and if he hasn't had other people before so be careful because remember if you catch something you can't give it back protect yourself and your life find someone who will stay with you and only you
2006-10-15 11:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by Rivelle W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no legitimate reason for anyone to cheat...anyone who cannot handle a few days w/o sex, needs therapy...assuming this is true, he simply met someone he wanted to play with, and did so...
Considering the flimsy 'reason' I'd say you are likely to have more of this in your future, if you decide to stay with him...
2006-10-15 11:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not legit at all. 10 day is nothing! Don't believe that BS excuse. Kick him to the curb. From your picture, you could sure do a lot better than a cheater.
2006-10-15 11:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's not a legitimate reason to cheat. Your BF is out of line. You have no reason to feel guilty. He is the bad guy. You need to re-evaluate your relationship, and decide if you want to stay with someone who is that unethical.
2006-10-15 11:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋