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Question

I have a live in boyfriend the sex has dried up and we never speak i have tried to keep things alive but they have gone totally
Today at work i kissed a fellow worker whom made my heart skip a beat i cannot get this other guy out of my head could you give me some pointers on how to let my boyf down gently we have been together 4 years

Answer 1

I have been with my live in bf for almost five years and beleive me I feel you. He has stopped trying, I have stopped trying and I even catch him looking at other women. It sucks because when you feel you have invested so many years into a relationship it is hard to leave without trying to make things work first. But looks like to me you have stopped trying and ready to move on to the next.

Mine is kinda crazy and would try to keep me hostage if I ever tried to leave. So maybe you should leave when he isn't home, this way he won't make you stay. You will already be gone.

Answer 2

Do you really want to break up with your boyfriend just because your sex life has dried up? First decided if you really want to end your 4 year relationship. If you don't, tell your boyfriend what you want. Be completely honest, don't hold anything back put your heart completely out there. He is acting like this to find out where your head is at. He mostly likely wants to take your relationship to the next level like maybe marriage and he is trying to find out what you want. This is something that men do in relationships to find out where our heads are. Think long and hard about what you want. I know it sounds crazy but it's true. Try it and see. What do you have to loose?

Answer 3

You shouldn't just want to start a new relationship with any good looking guy. I mean you have been with your bf for 4 years, thats a lot you should have feelings for him more than anyone else. I don't find dating that easy. You have to realize what your bf really means to you, I know he should be someone really important cuz you would not have been with him for 4 years, don't just drop him for anyone. Unless he starts to act mean and unkind, thats a different story.

Answer 4

Tell your boyfriend the truth: you are a whore, plain and simple. You lack a sense of commitment and understanding and are only interested in fulfilling sensual desires. I can only hope and pray this other guy bones you and leaves you quickly so that you may feel the pain you are creating in your significant other.

Answer 5

have you tried discussing things with your boyfriend face-to-face and tell him exactly what you think needs to change or whats just not working? if not, that can be a way for you to figure out if you TRUELY want to end it with him and go for this other guy, and when ya do, this will let him know WHY exactly you are ending it, if you decide for sure you want to.
hope everything works out for you.

Answer 6

I dont mean to be crass but you were wrong for cheating on your bf. Very wrong. You need to break up with him now and do not kiss another when you get bored in the future.

Answer 7

You know maybe it is like that Meg Ryan movie, "You've Got Mail". Maybe he feels the same way as you. I would just sit him down, say you know things have just not been the same...I don't feel the same as I did before. I think we should go our separate ways. Maybe he will be relieved too if things are as bad as you say! Good luck

Answer 8

Just tell him to carry his a s s . Thats usually want the chicks tell me....If he is a real man he won't cry.

If the sex has dried up he has already found him another babe anyway....trust me

Answer 9

This line always works: "Your penis is too small to satisfy any woman, and I am no longer in your spell. Take your little self to the door, and make sure your belongings are with you."

Another option is "Guess who I kissed today!" That's more subtle.

Answer 10

You're into the sex before marriage, living together lifestyle and nothing good will ever come of it.