i have a 1 year old child?

Question

we tell him no no in stern voice and i really would rather not pop him for biting i mean no no stops him from biting but he just keeps on doing it later on or the next day he does it because he wants us to stop what he does not want to do like dressing him and holding his hand while crossing the street are some of the examples when he bites
i was just wondring if there were any other methods of stopping this or should just stick with no no.

Answer 1

A visit from the smack fairy. Just two fingers to the back of the hand will do, along with the scowl and "NO"

Answer 2

Some of the greatest advice I got one time when my daughter bit me because she was mad came from my step mom. You discipline the part of the body that is acting out. Biting can simply be a means to show either aggression or frustration. Especially in children that can't speak very well. This sounds horrible but it abruptly stopped my 15 month old from doing it. Whenever she would bite, I would take my index finger, rub it on the top of the Dawn Dish soap dispenser and stick it in her mouth. I would then tell her what she did was naughty and show her the bite marks. SHe quickly understood that the bite marks I had and the soap in her mouth was bad enough for her to stop.

I know not a lot of other parents would have done this technique, but it certainly worked for me. I don't spank my child, and this seemed like a good alternative. Time out seemed to be too weak of a punishment.

One thing to keep in mind ...... If there is a favorite toy, or movie, or blanket or something he LOVES, tell him if he doesn't listen to mommy and daddy he will get it taken away from him. It's all about consistency. Some children are more head strong than others and need that reinforcement more often than others. If you decide on one punishment for biting, KEEP TO IT. By constantly changing disciplinary action, it might take him longer to understand.

Answer 3

Smack fairy my butt! He needs a visit from the Beatdown gang. I am only kinda joking here. For him to be biting is a big problem that can continue and get him kicked out of day cares and cause problems in school. It needs to be stopped now. You may try to bite him back (obviously not really hard but hard enough to let him know what it feels like). In public that may not be a great option but you need to be very stern and even make a very mean face and yell NO so scare him. I dont have much more than that to tell you but I hope you get this figured out.

Answer 4

Biting is serious.
You need to take charge and stop this right now.
No no is not going to work for you son.
You need to either spank his butt or slap his little hand. The only way he is going to stop is if he knows that when he bites you will punish him and that it hurts to be punished.
I know there are a lot of people out there that don't believe in spanking but sometimes you have to spank a child for there old good.
A child's bite is very serious.

Answer 5

Me and my son went thru this. It was horrible. It was sooo bad, I had bruises all over my arms and legs. It was mostly to get my attention, but sometimes when he was teething. I always knew the difference between the 2. THIS sounds awful but it worked and it was my last resort after time out, spattings and harsh voices. BITE HIM BACK! Let him know how it feels. Everyone kept suggesting this to me. But, I wouldn't do it because I thought that was to mean. Finally someone told me that they don't understand that it hurts you. They only know that it gets your attention really quick. And then finally, when I had all of that biting that i could take.... I did it. I bit him, not as hard as he bit me, then he bit me back. So, I bit him a little harder. Hard enough (not to leave a bruise) that it made him cry. That stopped it. It hurt me much worse to do this than it did him. And it is hard to be a parent. As parents we have to train them. They do not know right from wrong, unfortunately. It is up to us to teach it to them. NO MATTER WHAT IT TAKES! Short of beating them, and I would never do that.

Answer 6

It sounds like he has decided he will bite to express his frustration. What are his verbal skills like?

In addition to "NO" I would tell him - use your words. Or, help him by teaching him how. When he bites during dressing, say OW and look very sad. Say, you hurt mommy. Then say - you must not hurt mommy. i know you didn't want to stop playing to get dressed, but this has to be done and you may not bite.

By going through this, rather than just saying No, you are teaching him what to do instead. Also, you are giving him some of his power back by acknowledging his feelings.

Children who keep their spirit are very aware of their lack of power in the parent-child situation. It's necessary to keep them safe, it's necesary for proper guidance, it's necessary to run a family. but with each day that he gets older, he will come that much closer to being responsible for his own life - to needing to use his power.

Therefore, you teach him the limits of his power and the reasons for those limits and you empathize with his feelings and you teach him to use words to express his feelings. By the way, the longer and more complex your sentences are when you speak to your child, the more verbally skilled he will be. If you use a long sentence with subordinate clauses, repeat your meaning in short declarative sentences. But, use the long ones as often as possible.

I recommend the book - how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk. It's well illustrated - that is, you can even learn when you only have time to look at the pictures. The situations described are oriented to older children, but the book captures the spirit you seem to have- to want to teach him and guide him and expect the best from him - and shows you how to do this.

For someone like me, who only knew I didn't want to hit and didn't know what to do instead, this book was incredibly valueable.

A really magical tip from the book is to grant your child's wish in your imaginations. When he doesn't want to stop and get dressed, before he gets to biting - say - i wish you could play here all day. i wish you never had to stop playing. i wish your toys would have little food fountains. i wish you could sleep, all cuddled up in a toy racing car.... have fun! Teach him to counter frustration with play and good humour. In this way, you also show him you are on his side and care about his feelings - even if you do have to get dressed and go now.

And ponder how you and your partner deal with your frustrations and what skills you are teaching in that way.

Answer 7

You will probably need to give him a smack on the hand with a no. Just hard enough to shock him a bit. Soon he will know that if he bites he will get his hand smacked and that it will not feel very pleasant.

Answer 8

You have both a 12 month and 15 month old child - I'm quite impressed. I would not use physical discipline on any child, especially one who does not understand or cannot communicate.

My suggestion is to lower the violence on TV and in the house - both children are acting out based on their environment. Change the environment - behavior will change.

Answer 9

Well, I think you need to be STERNER with him. Let him know that if you do it again, there will be consequences. And if he bites, slap him on the hand.
Hope that helps!

Answer 10

Give him a time out in his crib. speak to him nicely and tell him it hurts mommy. and to stop biting. walk out of the room for a few minutes..

it works for me my daughter is 16M