I met a guy a month ago. His friend had asked me out, and we 3 went out together but we got along better. Anyway, we had made out, talked etc. Two days later he calls me and tells me it was surreal because of the things we said. We both got out of long-term relationships recently. Anyway, I see him on campus again 2 days after that and we talk. He texts me 3 hours after that, asking me when I want to hang out again. He invites me to his friend's party, and we go. Afterwards, he comes with me to my apartment without me really inviting him, and he spends the night, but no sex. Just made out half-naked. (I have issues with sex, which is why i'm a virgin after a 5 year relationship..)
Well, he calls me 6 hours after he left the next morning saying he felt he couldn't trust me, but he wanted to. Then I hear he's asking my friend about me, and he told my friend that I was "cool, challenging-which he likes, but a lying b*tch." He told my friend that I was smart but he felt he couldn't
2006-10-15 10:47:35 · 6 answers · asked by Harvard Student 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
trust me. When he was at my apartment he went through my closet, asking me if I had condoms. I said "no" and he said "good." I said" because it means I don't sleep with other guys?" And he said yes.
Anyway, I called him up 4/5 days after that and asked him what he told my friend.Of course he put it in nicer terms, but basically that I was cool but he felt he could not trust me.
One week after that he calls me up and invites me to a party. I meet his other roommate. We go the party, where we talk to other people, etc. We leave together and he wants to go to my apartment, but my apartment is a mess, so we decide to take a 10 dollar taxi to his place. Then I decide I'm hungry so we go to safeway. Meanwhile he secretly buys condoms (even though he doesnt tell me...I saw him) and we go there. I reject him for sex. We just make out. Then he says "I don't understand you." And I said "you're dirty, did you just want sex?" And he goes "no I never planned on having sex with you.
2006-10-15 10:49:59 · update #1
There's a friend he thinks is "pretty hot" but she has a girlfriend. Except he does not think she is dateable material." He also tells me he thinks I'm pretty cute and pretty attractive, but he didn't plan on sex with me as I have issues.
On the way to his apartment, he asked me if I ever thought what it would be like to be married. I told him it was retarded and I never wanted to be married as it always fails.
2006-10-15 10:51:09 · update #2
Then he says "no, you will be married someday. I mean not just us married but I mean maybe to someone else." And I go "uh, no, I never want to get married. I never want sex. I don't want intimacy to that level."
Anyway, I spend the night at his place where I fell asleep in his bed. But no cuddling, no sex. He drives me to my apartment before class, and then says "I"ll call you later." I look at him and he goes "What did you want me to say." I try to shake his hand and I say "It's the American way." He looks at me funny, and goes "What are you doing?" He then kisses me on the cheek after putting his hand on my face? I say, no, no, and insist on the handshaking.
2006-10-15 10:52:50 · update #3
We're both dating other people right now, and I don't want a relationship or anything of any kind. I seriously don't. It just suffocates me. Anyway, he knows this. I don't think he wants relationship either.
We just talk about life because we both don't know what we want after college, or what we want to do. He says we're generally in the same place in life, where we're discovering what we want and how to be happy.
2006-10-15 10:54:05 · update #4
The thing is, I feel that he is looking for girls for sex and girls who could be potential long-term girlfriends even if he says he does not want a relationship. I do enjoy talking to him, but I have issues regarding sex, so I'd rather not do that with him. Is it possible to maintain a friendship but not do anything sexual?
2006-10-15 10:56:04 · update #5
The thing is. He's really hot, so he gets lots of girls. When i told him it was about sex, he said no, because he's rejected "tons of a**." He says that I'm a challenge, which he likes. And I told him, well I'm a challenge because I will never have sex with anyone, let alone you."
But yes, he rejects a lot of girls.
2006-10-15 11:00:51 · update #6
Sounds like a jerk thats only after one thing. If hes slagging you off behind your back he is NOT worth it. Ignore him. Please. For your sake. There are better guys out there. And from experience, if you have issues already this guy will only make it worse.
2006-10-15 10:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could he be using you? Could you be doing something that is irritating him that causes him to say all this stuff about you?
2006-10-15 17:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a bad person its clear all he wants is sex.just avoid the guy
2006-10-15 17:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by Obria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm,i wish i could help ya but thats really wierd
2006-10-15 17:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooooh, man, what a jerk! Stay away from him. Period.
2006-10-15 17:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, stay away from him. He's no good.
2006-10-15 18:10:58 · answer #6 · answered by DREAMER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋