I live apart from my gf and we have a child together, i pay her money towards our child and have no intention of leaving her and vanashing. What is the process if she does not want to go through the channels of CSA and is happy with the arrangements between ourselves, We dont want other people looking into our business and dont want the hassle with them. I may in the future be looking to move in with her, and support her fully but at this time we are happy with the arrangement we have. Can we continue as normal or will i HAVE to go through the CSA and if so what details would my Gf Need to pass on to them?
2006-10-15 10:22:00 · 17 answers · asked by david l 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
if you have an agreement that you are both happy with and if the mother of your child is not in receipt of income support then you do not need to involve the child support agency at all. if the mother of your child is in receipt of income support then she will need to fill in the csa form. it asks the question of any maintenance already being paid and you will have to declare the amount. as long as they consider it to be appropriate amount and you continue to pay all will be fine. if the mother of your child is on income support then I believe that her money would be reduced as she would only be entitled to keep £10.00 per week from the money you pay,
2006-10-15 10:44:18 · answer #1 · answered by walkingboots5u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if this may help you, but from what i have learnt from speaking to different guys about child maintenance, always get a private arrangement like yours agreed in writing, and maybe consult a solicitor just to make sure everything is above board, as i know of guys who had this kind of set up to start with then the gf had change of heart after a while and wanted more money and thought csa would pay her more! The sad thing is, they did charge the guy more, but she got only a fraction more as most of extra money went to csa to cover admin costs. The worst thing was though, his csa got backdated to the start and he ended up totally skint. Best to look after your own best interests just in case.
2006-10-15 10:40:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The set up you have now is ok for now, but tomorrow could prove very different. Also, bear in mind that if the law should change in the future (and the gov is really on the case as regards child support) your good deeds / monies etc will count for nothing. Anything that you pay should be by means of a traceable cheque or even bacs transfer. Also, stick with one bank - even if it's just for your maintenence payments. These will prove effective if things turn sour in the future. Hope all works out!
2006-10-15 23:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by beechwoodboris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF she is not receiving any form of public assistance for your child or for herself, you do not have to worry about CSA getting involved. CSA gets involved only when there is public assistance involved or at the request of the child's mother.
It is admirable that you are stepping up to your parental responsibilities without an order from the court. The world needs more fathers like you!
2006-10-15 10:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things are going well without involving the CSA then keep it that way. Do, however, Keep a record of all monies you are now giving your girlfriend e.g. standing order or cheque stubs or if paying her cash then get a receipt. If you don't and things don't turn out as expected (situations change) then she can claim money backdated to when your child was born.
2006-10-15 10:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by paddymac 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is on Income Support they will give hers and your details to the CSA, other than that the CSA dont get involved unless your G/f asks them to.
2006-10-15 10:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend is claiming benefits they can try and force her to make a claim via the csa there is a way out of this if she says she is scared of you and it would cause her a lot of distress if she went through with the claim not nice i know but the csa are far worse believe me i talk from experience. if your girlfriend is not claiming benefits you have nothing to worry about.
2006-10-15 22:27:44 · answer #7 · answered by redroseleigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if shes on benefits+you have an arrangement already in place then it has 2 b 25ercent of your monthly income that u pay her+with the exception of 10 pounds the rest of it is deducted from her benefits.if shes working then u can pay what you like without the csa being involved
2006-10-15 22:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by Nellynoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband was in this situation with his ex wife for their son. they had an agreement and the CSA never got involved. u can look on the website below for detials of informaiton she would need if she wanted to present the case to CSA>
as long as u have a good agreement then there is no need for them to get involved.
2006-10-15 10:48:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think it's okay for your child not to live with your child's mother? Do you know anything about the needs of children? For example, did you know day care is extremely harmful to children under 5. You are happy with this arrangement - but your child is suffering.
This is a very strange choice to make and I wonder why society is going to have to cope with children raised with out their parents together. Why do you think it's okay to ruin society with mal-raised children just so you can be happy with your arrangement?
Is that the kind of hassle you wish to avoid? We'd all like to avoid people having kids and raising them as if they are a plant or something.
2006-10-15 10:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋