my bf and i have been going out for about a month now but we go to different highschools in the same town (but the town is pretty big so we dont really live close to each other). Anyway, i talk to him every night over the phone, but in the one month we've been going out i have seen him only 3 times.We always make plans to hang out but then he will cancel the very last minute or never call or go out with his friends or family instead. I talked to him about it once, and he said that he was sorry and that he wanted to be with me as much as possible so he would try harder. However, this weekend he canceled on me twice - saturday he said he was ganna call and make plans but never did, and today he called to say he couldn't hang out becuase he was going somewhere with his cousin. The things is other wise he is a very sweet and loving guy.I dont want to whine to him about it again, but i keep getting hurt and i feel like i'm last on his list of priorities.Should i just brake up with him?
2006-10-15 10:12:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, 'cancel' the relationship!
Unanswered anticipation also hurts.
What's the use being alone, but not available anyway!
2006-10-15 10:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbeam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jess, I'm an older woman. I remember in high school being stood up a lot by boys. It's very painful when you get yourself ready to see them and they cancel or don't show. To this day I remember that. I wish I wouldn't have put up with it for as long as I did. Now that I'm older, I won't. There's no reason to. You have given this guy a year of your life. If he can't find the time to spend with you then he doesn't deserve a girlfriend. You find yourself a guy who wants to be with you. This one had his chance. And when you get to be my age, you will remember this, too.
2016-05-22 04:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.
well use this as a learning experience.
dont be mad, just realize that you guys are young, growing up and yes, you live far away. So things are gonna be hard to work out. Its only been a month.
I would tell him, if he doesnt vaue you enough as his girlfriend to spend time with you, and chooses his friends whom he can see anytime over is girlfriend, then he is not in the right place for being a boyfriend and you two should see other people.
preferably people closer to where you live.
2006-10-15 10:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Don't shoot the messenger, but if he's going to a different high school, he could easily be cheating on you. It sounds like he's feeling guilty about cheating, and doesn't want to come face to face with you. You should confront him about his behavior, and then dump him, no matter what excuses he makes.
2006-10-15 10:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by Zasm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, you need to break up with him. That's not a boyfriend, that's a phone-buddy.
And all those times he "forgot", or "went out with friends or family instead" or "his cousin".... = OTHER WOMAN!
So dump him, he's not even worthy of being called a playa.
He's a chump. Dump the chump.
2006-10-15 10:16:07 · answer #5 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all, how old are you , and him? If his mommy says no then you can't be mad at him.....if he goes outta of his way to dump your plans and call his buddies instead then he's a jerk..but like i said if u 2 r young like i think, then listen to your parents and make sure he does too!!! Otherwise you both will find it hard to see each other and it won't be any control of ya'lls...seriously
2006-10-15 10:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that he is playing you sweetie! He sounds like he is spending his time with a different g/f from his highschool instead of you! You should flush him like a bad case of diarreha! There are plenty of fish to snatch up in that giant sea of a world. I am sure you can do a lot better. Cheer up!
2006-10-15 10:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by satanicsex101 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i undersntad...if i were u i'd dump him..like hes not even spending time wit ya
2006-10-15 10:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by avant1991 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him how you feel? If you tell him and he continues this, leave him.
2006-10-15 10:15:30 · answer #9 · answered by Liquid Snake 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. Move on.
2006-10-15 10:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋