I often invite her to come over and spend the night and then we sleep in the same bed and stay up and talk until 3 in the morning. Over the years we have really fallen in love. We have the same likes and she is exactly what I am looking for in a girl and she says she wants a guy just like me. We have kissed a few times on the lips and slept in our underwear but nothing really beyond that. I mean we hold hands sometimes and she sits in my lap if we watch a movie but that's probably normal for brothers/sisters. Anyways, I am really attracted to her and vice versa but we know this relationship would be wrong. How can I love my sister as much as I do now without the romantic love mixing in? Also, i'm sure we will both cry when we tell eachother we can't take it to the next level. How do I prepare her and me?
2006-10-15 10:09:57 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is 22.
2006-10-15 10:11:47 · update #1
get chemically castrated and seek professional help as soon as possible
2006-10-15 10:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, first, if you guys ever wanted kids, they have a huge chance they'd turn out with downs syndrome or many other birth defects. Just look for a woman with a similar personality, similar likes/dislikes, looks, etc. There IS a woman out there for you who's not your sister! It's fine the relationship you have...it's nice to have someone in your family you're so close to, but to have a romantic relationship with one another is out of the question. Your love for one another won't change, it can only get stronger, but you have to be able to be there for one another through thick and thin, when something's rocky in a FOR REAL relationship, you two will be each other's best friend. It doesn't get any better than that really. Just take it for what it is and go on your search for that "perfect" mate that you've found in each other. You've just known one another all your lives and you've become comfortable...you've found your comfort zone in each other. Don't ruin your relationship by trying to complicate things...Good luck!
2006-10-15 10:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The one promise you have in this world after your parents are gone, are they? Well, the one promise you have is the family you are given, good or bad. You will always have eachother and you sound like you have the control on what to do. Be your sisters best friend, her brother and help her get a loving relationship and she will help you do the same. Noone will love your sister like you, but you could love her and be there to help her be a good companion to someone else. That's life and reality. From someone who really cares in this life, love your sister.
2006-10-15 12:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by bestgoodman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're between a rock and a hard place, fer sure. You already know what needs to be done. Just do it. The two of you need to get out with other people. And one of you should move far enough away that it's unfeasable to get together more than a couple times a year. It is good that you care deeply for one another, but you've already taken it much further than it ever should've gone. Do what needs to be done before the whole thing explodes in your faces. If you really care about her, you'll prevent that from happening.
2006-10-15 10:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
You are both messed up and I know you are both aware of that. Grown up brothers and sisters don't share a bed. They don't put themselves in this position. You can love each other but you're confusing romance with sex. How about each of you getting a life and finding your own love interest? Stop spending the night with each other. You've got your lives in a ditch and only you can dig your way out. You'd better start now.
2006-10-15 13:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all, I'm sure you already know this but it's incest and is not right and healthy. Its fine to invite her over as siblings and allow her to spend the night sometimes but she should find another place in your house to sleep other than in your room and bed. The only real way to prepare both of you is to say this is incest and isn't normal and we have to move on and not think like this, and both of you go out and find someone other than in your family to date.
2006-10-15 12:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
For once I'm speechless. Had it not been for the fall of Adam and Eve, I would say go for it! Unfortunately we are instructed not to do such things now. Perhaps you both could get involved in a singles group together, meet some other people, and find that someone else special for you.
2006-10-15 10:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
date eachothers friends....often times people enjoy spending time with others who are a lot like them...so her firends would be a lot like her....and you probaly have some guy friends that are a lot like yourself it's not completely abnormal for you two to be close but you've deffiently got the right idea it not letting i go any farther that's just not safe....honestly it's illegeal in a lot of places but i'm sure you already knew that...don't be afraid to spend time together just try to find some other interest espceially in the way of other people...good luck
2006-10-15 10:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by Danielle S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Their should be no problem preparing you or your sister, You both know by now, that any thought of doing any thing sexually with your sister, will be one thing that, the both of you will regret for the rest of your life, also it may mess you or your sister up,when you do get in other relationships! I know that you know it is morally wrong. So you need to think. and make a decision, that you know you wont have to regret!
2006-10-15 10:24:51 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
that is so f ucked up! were you raised together as brother and sister? if you were that would be even worse. if you like, just met then i guess the feelings may be natural because you may be feeling brother/sister type love and mistaking it for romantic love. that doesn't make it any less f ucked up. you know it's wrong so why do you even have to ask? why don't you go to the Jerry springer show and as him if it's wrong,hmm?
2006-10-16 18:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by krystal s 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
im pretty sure your sister isnt the only girl in the world that can make you happy. u should get involved in communty and really try to meet someone else and advise your sis to do the same thing before something bad happens
2006-10-15 10:17:45 · answer #11 · answered by Simply Me 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋