For guys Only, Please. I just discovered my man is on the personals. Help!?

Question

I met my guy on the personals and I've been seeing him for 6 mos, regularly sleeping with him, acting as boyfriend/girl;friend. Today, right after being with him, I left and went home to pay bills, etc. Having discovered that I was still being charged by Yahoo for a dormant personals subscription, I went into the site to try to find out how to stop the charges (I have a deleted profile, and believed service was stopped). Lo and behold, I discover my favorites are still saved when I check in on the home page, and his lists him as having been active within 24 hours. Having no computer at home, that means he left me and when he went to work
today was on the personals! I am schocked and upset. We were supposed to see each other for dinner on tuesday, and he said he would call me tomorrow (Monday). Help! What do I say/do? I had really really liked the guy, and now I don't know what to think, or how to deal with the situation. Advice please.

Answer 1

What he is doing is a couple things. Either searching for a new girlfriend or searching for someone to have sex with on the side.....which one do you want it to be? Both of them are bad. You can either 1. Wait for him to find someone new and break up with you or 2. Wait for him to find someone to have sex with and keep it hiden behind your back or 3. TELL HIM ITS OVER. Im not saying which one you should do.....Its not like im partial to you TELLING HIM ITS OVER. Do you want a man thats going to do that? Well, good luck in finding one that won't cheat. I would say 80% of guys, giving the opportunity will. But what does that say about your stituation now? Should you stay with him because even if you do break up with him the next guy will do the same thing? NO. You break up with him and find someone else. If the next guy does it then you break up with him also. Women are doing it to now. A lot of women are starting to have flings on the side for different reasons. This is a messed up world we live in but you can stay sane. Its up to you to keep your relationship the way you want it and I can tell by the question this is not what you want. Break up with him

Answer 2

You say, "I got an interesting bill in the mail about my Yahoo personals... I thought it was dormant and paid off. So I looked it over and it had your personal in favorites section... I was going to print it out and frame it for our anniversary."

Then it tells me that it has been active in the last 24 hours... Since there is no computer at your home, you had to access it from work...

Help me out here, is there an alternative explanation??? Because the way I read this is, I'm just a temporary until you can find someone else. Why else would you have an active personal?

If you don't say something.... I'll assume you know it's over and you're busted!!!

Then ADIOS MUCHACHO!!! What kind of jerk would do that to someone he claims he loves... If he's a divorcee or never married... I can understand why...

He ought to thank god your maiden name wasn't bobbitt!!!!

Answer 3

sorry not a guy, but couldn't resist.

I know it's hard to hear, but if he is/was really the guy for you, no way would he be checking out the sight.

Talk to him, there is a slight possibility that he was trying to cancel his account, like you.

Like I said, this is a slight possibility, but chances are he wants the sex and company of you, but wants to see if something "better" will come along- in this case just walk away and don't look back.

2 months is not a long time and walking away would be justified, you don't really owe each other anything.

I agree with the guy that said not to cry. Don't cry. Don't flip the situation. Be strong and responsible and just simply ask if the two of you are exclusive.

Answer 4

Maybe he went there just to checkout. Just because a man visits a site does not mean he is searching for someone. Maybe that was a only time or maybe he was bored at work and decided to look at it. Just tell him that and see his reactions.

Don't suspect as suspicion destroys a relationship.

I hope he is not up to something and that everything goes well.
Good luck

Answer 5

Chica, you know the possibilities so I don't need to go there. Basically honesty will help you out more in this than anything else. Tell him what you saw, ask for an explination, tell him he needs to define your relationship. You have to judge whether to believe him or not. Whatever he say don't cry in front of him.

Answer 6

I'm not a guy, but from what I've seen, heard and experienced myself, most if not all men cheat. The ones who don't, usually had the fear of God put into them about it. When you confront him he is going to come up with all sorts of excuses to cover his a$$. Just don't accept less than your worth. Good luck.

Answer 7

Not a guy...but you need to staright up ask him if he's been doing that and why. If he is maybe he doesn't view your relationship the same way as you do. You def want to find that out, b/c if he isn't serious when you want to be then...F em'.

Answer 8

Oh I got a good one hon.Answer his personal and then arrange to meet him. First u need to calm down...I'm sorry to say but it looks like you have a skunk for a bf.So you need to straighten his act up.This might make him think twice about doing this again. I mean really can you picture this..You really pull it off and he thinks he is meeting someone new...Oh my god I would love to see his face. Be strong .. Do it....Email me anytime if u decide to pull this off.

Answer 9

Cut all ties and dont listen to any of his BS.

and yes he WILL do it again, even if he says he wont, and if he wouldnt, he wouldnt have done so in the first place.

Answer 10

OK..your seeing him...but you stated you went home. Maybe he saw that you had a active acct...and thought...just because he has a acct...really doesn't mean a thing..as you said...you thought you had closed yours..