I love this guy, and he tells me he loves me too. We are both single. There is a married woman who is after him. He talks to her, she tells him she loves him, and he tells her he loves her.
Am I friggin stupid? Should I be jealous, should I be nice to her, should I walk away, should I just stand back and wait to see what happens with him?
2006-10-15 10:05:02 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
We all have our limitations, and nobody can be blamed for their feelings. So as long as your feelings don't force you to break the law, you're on the safe side.
2006-10-15 10:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should ask him just what he means when he tells you he loves you, then ask him if he loves this other woman the same way. There are all kinds of love in the world, brotherly/sisterly love, romantic love, unconditional love and so on. Maybe what is going on is that he is trying to be a friend to her and loves her as a friend. I can't see a decent man being stupid enough to get involved with a married woman, even if she does end up leaving her husband.
2006-10-15 10:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by herenthere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sort of hard to see how someone can be 100% in love with 2 people at one time. Perhaps he is just preening because he knows the other woman is married and is probably a safe flirt. I would walk away and find someone who could understand the term fidelity.
2006-10-15 10:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by mortgagegirl101 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to give him an ultimatum...he can either have you who loves him and is available and free to be with him, or he can chase an impossible fantasy over a married woman he can not have. If he messes with her, then he loses you, it makes him a home wrecker, and chances are his fantasy will be broken when she does not leave her husband for him as she's most likely just looking for a thrill.
You are not the stupid one, he is the one being an idiot and possibly losing the good thing he has in you.
2006-10-15 10:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not doing anything good by encouraging a married woman to express her alleged love to someone other than her husband.
You should confront him as to his motives, and if you find them to be impure, you should walk away after telling him precisely why you are walking away.
Standing back and seeing what happens with him does not seem advisable. If he is already willing to encourage adultery, what more evidence do you need that he is not operating out of virtue?
2006-10-15 10:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by Gestalt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd walk away. It sounds like he is trying to make you jealous, just to see what you will do. If he is openly pursuing a married woman, I'd let them have each other. They'd both get what they deserve. Any man who is worthy won't chase after a married woman.
2006-10-15 10:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Purdey EP 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too pretty to stand around and wait on anyone. I don't even know you or what you look like however, I do know that beauty starts inward and works itself out. If you stand for this now you will be left standing alone. Never play seconds for anyone. Stupid? No just lift your self esteem up
2006-10-15 10:14:00 · answer #7 · answered by PAULA H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not dating then you really don't have the right to say anything about the other woman. However, have pride in yourself and don't put yourself through the agony. Tell him how you feel and if he is not ok with just being with you, then pull together all the strengh you can muster and walk away. Good luck.
2006-10-15 10:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by Piper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question, what does this have to do with religion and spirituality?
Second, why are you with a man that's so obviously playing you and is stupid enough to go after a married woman?
2006-10-15 10:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be jealous. Do you know enough about this man to know if he has good morals? If you do than you know the answer already. If you question his morals than you need to ask whether it is really love or just an infatuation. Good Luck to you.
2006-10-15 10:21:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adultery is a sin.
If he's telling this married woman that he loves her then what makes you think that he won't do the same thing to you if you two get together?
Think about it.
2006-10-15 10:08:05 · answer #11 · answered by stpolycarp77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋