alisha my daughter has recently just turned 1 and i have never breast fed but lately shes been trying to and i cant cope as i have just found out im pregnant again and im only just 16 years old its mega scary. Please if anyone has any ideas why shes doing this. Help
2006-10-15 09:53:18 · 20 answers · asked by fiesty_fox 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Your daughter probably saw another child breast feeding and is now curious as to what it's all about... Introduce a sippy cup if you haven't already then when she attempts to breastfeed say "Alisha you are such a big girl and you use a sippy cup" ... Make a big deal about how she is such a big girl and how the sippy cup shows what a big girl she is.. She will quickly lose all interest and curiosity in exploring brestfeeding...
While breastfeeding is the choice of some women others choose the bottle it's all a personal choice based on your life etc.. I can fully understand not breastfeeding as a teen mother with school schedules etc breastfeeding is nearly impossible to manage as pumping milk in the school setting is not usually logistically conducive...
As to being 16 and pregnant with your second.... Not the brightest of choices but you already know that so I will not harp on it...
In the future take steps to prevent another pregnancy for at least 5-6 more years (Condoms, birth control pills, birth control shot, etc) so you have more of a chance of becoming financially independant and being able to provide the live you want for your children...
Make sure you finish school there are agencies and organizations available to help you to finish school and finishing is the best thing you can do for both you and your children at this point...
Good Luck...
2006-10-15 10:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she's doing is giant. the international health employer recommends unique breastfeeding (ie no different drinks or solids) until eventually six months, then persevering with to breastfeed alongside age proper meals until eventually a minimum of two years of age. the global favourite age for weaning is about 4 years - so if the similar old is 4, then there are countless youthful ones a lot older than 4 nevertheless feeding. i comprehend some those who're adults now who can bear in mind breastfeeding as a baby. each and all and sundry of them remembers it as a favorable bonding journey. children do not see breasts as sexual, so there is no longer something psychologically adverse about a baby breastfeeding. replacing diapers isn't sexual even notwithstanding you're touching a baby's genitals: breastfeeding isn't sexual both. Weaning is something very socially conditioned. Kathy Dettwyler's analyze signifies that if human beings were freed from social conditioning, human children might want to wean evidently between the a at the same time as of about 2.5 and 7 years, with maximum weaning around the age of 5-6. So what your sister in regulation is choosing is amazingly favourite. this is culturally unusual in the U. S., notwithstanding this is biologically very favourite, and this is culturally very favourite in another elements of the international. desire that permits.
2016-12-04 20:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by veloso 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry as everyone else says, she has probaly seen it, and beleive it or not it is instint. Just try and distract her with something like a toy or food, drink. If she comes up to you to try and breast feed, give her a cuddle but then get up, put her down and move away, she will soon grow out of it. I can only imagine how mega scary it is for you and I hope you have plently of support. Also breatfeeding is lovely, but up to you what you choose to do. Very much good luck and keep in touch if you feel you need further support.
2006-10-15 10:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by sadiejenna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you poor thing. You sound upset. :( Maybe she has seen other children/babies breastfeeding somewhere, at a playgroup or something. Little ones do that sort of thing, try and imitate sometimes. My friend has a 2.5 year old and he has started asking my mate if he can have a feed! He see's his little sister feeding, that's why. He was breastfed as a babe, but only till 3 months, so it's not like the memory of it is really there! My friend says jokingly to him that he's a 'big boy isn't he?' etc etc and he loses interest. I hope that is some help. Keep your chin up.
2006-10-15 10:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The six month old I nanny for sometimes does that and she's never been breast fed either (and I'm not her mother). You could try letting her do it once, if she sees that there's nothing that's going to come of it she may just get over it. Congrats on the new pregnancy! Good luck!
2006-10-15 09:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably is just imitating someone she's seen or is looking for comfort. Maybe encourage her to place her hand on your breast instead of actually nursing? When I weaned my children they liked to "hold on" to my breasts for comfort for a few weeks before they got over not nursing anymore.
I hope that you will consider nursing your second child.
Good luck to you. I wish you and your children well. I am sorry you are in such a difficult situation and hope that you have good family support and support of the baby's father's family too.
2006-10-15 10:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to start everyone moaning at this girl for being 16 with two kids need to get over there selfs. Thats why young mothers feel stupid and alienated when we go up to the playgroup etc with our kids, were all there for the same reasons as yous age makes no difference. Good luck to you girl!!
When she trys to do it just move her away gently and tell her nicely and firm that its not for big girls its only for the new baby coming. If she keeps at get more firm with her. It might just blow over its slef in a few days. Weird one tho lol.
Good luck too you hun xx
2006-10-15 10:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by sexie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will suck on a pacifier too, the rooting and sucking are natural reactions to the softness of a breast. You have all you can handle right now and maybe terminating the new pregnancy is the best way to go right now so you can have a chance at some kind of a future for you and your daughter.
2006-10-15 10:03:11 · answer #8 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is she really trying to breastfeed, or is she simply after cuddles and so trying to get close to you?
She might just be trying to see what you hide under your jumper- she's entering that curious phase where EVERYTHING has to be examined.
Just give her some extra cuddles, get down to her level, sing some nursery rhymes with her. Get her favourite toy out and start playing with it. Distract her!
2006-10-15 11:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why on earth are you pregnant again? do you have any idea how damaging your behavior is to your children and our society? you have much bigger things to worry about - why on earth would it be scary that your daughter wants to nurse? it's the most natural thing in the world AFTER ALL.
why are you doing this? sheesh!
2006-10-15 10:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋