I am 17 years old and will be 18 in Feb. I am in love with a 26 year old. I know that this is odd and most of you will think it strange. We will have been together for a year on the 28th of October. My mother totally forbids me seeing him but i really really love him. I dont know if i am doing the right thing. I go behind her back and stuff just to see him. I want to be with him and i love him to death. When i graduate from high school mom told me that i can see him again but i just cant wait.
Is it wrong for me to see him?
Please help!!!
THANKS
2006-10-15 09:49:28 · 22 answers · asked by softballprincess1089 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your mother is trying to protect you from getting hurt, and she's right in doing that. It's her job. If you know in your heart this guy will not hurt you, regardless of the fact that he's reasonably older than you, it's not wrong. I would try to find a way to get your mom to accept him. If that means waiting until graduation for her to know you're with him still, I guess that's what it takes. Love can be tricky. Especially when you aren't sure if its the right thing or not.
2006-10-15 09:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by Ally S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a big age different, especially with you being so young. If your Mom doesn't want you to see him until you are done with high school, there is a probably a good reason. If you're worried about him moving on, if he loved you as much as you love him, he'd be willing to wait. Right now, you really have some more important things to concentrate on, like graduating high school. Give it time. It's not like she said you can never see him again.
To be honest, you should evaluate why he chose a girlfriend so young. After all, even after you graduate high school, you won't be able to go to the bars with him for another three years. Maybe that is his reasoning though. Some guys like having a younger girlfriend, so she can't find out about his over 21 one at the bar. Be careful.
2006-10-15 16:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are VERY wrong to go behind your mother's back and see this man....first of all, what in the world does a 26 year old man see in a 17 (almost 18 year old child)????? second, your mother told you not to see him....if you really love/respect your mother, you'll hold off on seeing him until she allows you to.....if he really loves/respects you, he'll understand.......
2006-10-15 16:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Niether your age nor his has anything to do with it, nor whether or not you've graduated high school. If you are sneaking around behind your mother's back, you are far, far too immature for an adult relationship. Of course, you will not listen and you will go right ahead and screw up your life and then will mope around whining how unfair life is. At least there's the slight hope that one or both of you are impotent so you can't further mess up the gene pool!
2006-10-15 16:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it looks like you are over the age of consent so enjoy it. First loves are something amazing that you will remember always. You dont need to hear this but most times first loves dont last for ever so enjoy it now.
You will grow and mature (and so will he as 26 isnt that old). However put yourself first, dont hold yourself back (school, work experience, travel opportunities) for this relationship, its its meant to be then he will be there after you have done what you need to do. If he isnt there for you afterwards then hey, its was your first love and thats something you will have forever.
2006-10-15 16:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by Morgan W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is actually kind of gross. When I was 14 I had a crush on a 24 year old. Everyone has crushes. If my daughter was hanging out with someone that old....
Ok ok that is the mom answer. The real answer? Stop sneaking around if you want any sort of relationship with your mom. If you can't wait 6 months for him, its just lust. If he can't wait 6 months for you, then he's not worth it. It could be love, but do it right.
2006-10-15 16:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by PinkPrincessNerd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should respect your mother. And if this guy truly loves you too, he would wait for you to turn 18. Would your mother still let you e-mail or talk on the phone? Either way, if he is willing to wait four months for you, chances are good he truly loves you. If he won't wait for you, he isn't worthy of your love. Best of luck to you!
2006-10-15 16:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by feral_black_gryphon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you love him..I don't think its such a crime........
Just be carefull...you never know whats lying ahead of you!
And 26 year old guys are difficult......you don't know if their in it for sex or if their cheating on you or anything.....your being brave by taking such a big leap....your mom just doesn't want you to get hurt........
Have fun...don't worry about anything........your mom should understand.....but I know how mom's are and why your going behind her back to go out with this guy! But yea...she just doesn't want her daughter growning up, or getting hurt......
2006-10-15 16:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. By going against you your mother is driving you closer together. Try spelling it out to your mum. Tell her you really like him, you don't want to go behind her back but if she doesn't stop you'll have to. Tell her that if she backs off it may just fizzle out anyway but at the moment she is just making you think about him more.
2006-10-15 16:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by flumoxed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the roses, sweetie. No man who really loves you would ask you to sneak around behind your mother's back to see him. He is stealing your childhood from you. If he loved you, he would wait for you. Stop letting him use you.
2006-10-15 16:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by Buffy Summers 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋