A few weeks ago, I've been fretting on about this guy, who was spending a LOT of time chasing me. Later I realised that he had a girlfriend and I came to the conclusion that the best thing is to move on and I started sort of seeing someone else. We spoke less and less and now he tells me that he split up with his girlfriend so that he can be with me. I'm not sure what to do because I haven't told him that I started seeing someone else and feel guilty that I might have wrecked his relationship. Now where do I go from here..?
2006-10-15 09:37:37 · 18 answers · asked by little_friend 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't feel guilty!! you have done nothing wrong..he should have told you weeks ago that he had dumped her for you..tell him that hes missed his chance..he won't care he will just go crawling back to his ex and she will probably be dumb enough to take him back..hope you have fun with the new guy.
2006-10-15 09:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the boyfriend that you have now. Especially if he isn't doing anything wrong. What's going on here is your x realized what he lost when he was w/the other girl. But you moved on and he expects you to just drop your boyfriend? I don't think so. I'll tell you where you go from here. Tell your x that he didn't have the decency to tell you upfront that he had a girlfriend at first, so don't expect you to just drop your man for him. He shouldn't have lied to you in the first place. If it doesn't work out w/your current boyfriend, see how you feel about each other then. But right now, just stay w/your boyfriend.
Good Luck
2006-10-15 09:49:21 · answer #2 · answered by TRULEY MADLY DEEPLEY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it he should not have come after you like that if he was in a relationship. It just shows he's unfaithful and will more than likely repeat those same actions with the next girlfriend. Just move on and tell him to try to do the same because if he really valued his relationship he would not have broke up with his girlfriend for no one.
2006-10-15 09:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by Crazy Gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should move on. He has already played games once with trying to eat at 2 dinner tables and who is to say that he wont do that to you also later down the line. You didn't destroy his relationship he did. You moved on to bigger and better things and his one track thinking has now caused his own demise. Don't give the guy the time of day. and Sure as heck don't feel guilty about it.
2006-10-15 09:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by yarger72 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that since he was not honest with you from the beginning, you have chosen to move on and have found someone new. He will realize that he made a mistake and might actually think twice about telling a lie to you again. I wouldn't give him another chance because obviously, he is a liar. I wouldn't be able to trust him again but if you want to give him another chance, go for it.
2006-10-15 09:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may not know all the details of his relationship so dont do anything drastic
Maybe his girl dumped him you dont know or they could just be on a break - dont jump in head first
Decide if you want to be in your current relationship or not because u are spending time worrying about this guy - if what he says is true would you wanna be with him...if so its not fair on your current guy coz ur not committed to him. You would leave him at the drop of a hat....
Think very carefully
2006-10-15 09:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by Brown_Sugar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you had nothing to do with wrecking the his relationship. either him or her or both decided to end that relationship you didint have a say did you? anyways dont gulit your way into a relationshipp with him. you are with a guy right now are you happy in that relatioship if so then let him know that you arent interested.
2006-10-15 09:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by OB the Wolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone for now. Concentrate on your new boyfriend.
You know that this guy actually was chasing you when he had a girlfriend, so why don't you think he would do that to you?
A cheater is a cheater.
2006-10-15 09:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Agent99 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go with the other one because because when he had you he didn't leave his girlfriend and suddenly that you move on he does well bad for him he's to late he already got his chance he let it go
2006-10-15 09:41:14 · answer #9 · answered by beautiful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think u go wit the guy u like best and make sure u dont cheat on them beacuase it happens if u like 1 guy more then another go for the guy u like if u like both u should get both of them and make them sit down in the same room and let them meet each other and talk to them like u might tell them like...hey {name} this is {name}...
2006-10-15 09:42:01 · answer #10 · answered by LuvTheBigGame18 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋