Is it your crazy childhood that makes you crazy or are you just too?

Question

lazy to take responsibility and kick life into order?

Answer 1

I think childhood is what makes you that type of person. I'm definitely what you'd call crazy and I'm scared sh**less(scuse the language) about what I'm gonna do when i grow up. I think people who try to avoid responsibility are probably the type of person who wants to have fun with life. We only get one life so why waste it bein too serious? that said, ya need money to have that much fun. looks like I'm gonna have to get a job.

Answer 2

If I am understanding your question right, I will attempt to answer it:

Two things that profoundly affect how a child is when they become an adult are their environment and temperament. Temperament is basically how anxious or relaxed a child is, how stressed out they get to difficult situations, and how resilient they are.

Childhood is when a person develops their personality and their defenses against stress in the environment. Children that grow up in unstructured unsafe abusive homes tend to suffer greatly and don't develop properly neurologically the way they should. Healthy interaction with others and your environment as an infant and child, fosters good brain development. Therefore negative childhood experiences/environments change them permanently and alters how they handle stress and human interaction in the future.

Current research also suggests that children who do not attach to one primary caregiver as infants and through childhood suffer many problems as teens and adults that persist without psychological treatment. This along with other stressors as a child can lead to various mental illnesses as an adult such as personality disorders, anxiety, addiction, and depression.

For example I have a cousin who was adopted at the age of 6 months. My aunt and uncle are very attentive caring parents and she is absolutely nuts. She shows classic signs of a child who has after effects of not attaching to one primary caregiver or more likely is suffering because she had her primary caregiver changed during infancy. For more info google Reactive Attachment Disorder.

Of course this does not mean that a person who comes from not so great circumstances can't be a functional adult. It just means that doing what they need to do is much harder and for some seemingly impossible. They may not trust other people or be able to attach to others in a meaningful way, which can really destroy an adult's life. The worst part is, it is difficult for the individual and others around them to identify how their childhood is affecting their behavior now. They are seen as lazy or crazy or many other negative things.

Sorry I just wrote a novel about this here, but it is one of my areas of interest. Not to mention I've seen this sort of thing countless times personally. Hope this helps your question.

Answer 3

Yes for many people their childhood experiences can make them crazy or a better wording would be emotional imbalanced, insecure, imature ect Crazy stems to mind someone completely mad and people are not mad.
It is up to the individual person what they do with their experience learn from it and rise above it or sink into utter dispare and loose the meaning of themselves as a human being.
I have never been lazy and had a bad childhood but I learnt from that and learnt to be a dam good swimmer and not let anyone put me down I am worth more. It is not a case of being lazy for some it is not able to break a circle.
The only way I am crazy is I enjoy life to the full as we may not be here tommorow.

Answer 4

Your upbringing does have a bearing on adult life, and it is not a question of being too lazy. Sometimes life can be extremely difficult and everyone has their own breaking point, which if your support network (friends & family) is not very large can mean that you are less able to deal with the problems. Sometimes events that occur in a persons life can seem to be insurmountable and then they need help and support. It is not a case of not taking responsibility for one's life. I just hope that if you ever find yourself in a position where you feel you can't cope that there isn't someone around telling you that "you're just too idle to take responsibility for your life" and that "you should kick it back into order."

Answer 5

Crazy childhoods can make you crazy and then you grow up and ideally need to take responsibility for who you are. This isn't always easy and I don't think it's always a question of being 'lazy' if you can't let go - some people just don't know how to get past emotional scars. It saves a lot of emotional energy being angst free and a lot of emotional investment in dwelling on the past. Not an easy one to judge and everyone's story is different.

Answer 6

Nothing to do with childhood, just get older and see thing's in a different perspective and realise being serious doesn't do it, just be as crazy and as mad as you like make people enjoy your company. Life's too short to be serious

Answer 7

I don't think it's black and white. Personally, I think it's both. I guess if you want a summed up answer, I reckon your early childhood experiences define much of who you are, BUT I firmly believe you can change who you are and how you react. There are plenty of people though who won't worth through stuff and like to play the martyr.

Answer 8

Give Elaine 814 the 10 points. Spot on!

Answer 9

Depends what you mean by 'crazy childhood', but of course childhood would affect your later life.

Answer 10

Your up-bringing can have a total affect on your life and life making decisions. It's up to you to decide which path you choose.